A crime is a crime, even if the victim was willing to be bought off. The man is still a rapist, and was proven so. She can’t offer retroactive consent for the crime, she was just willing to not pursue charges; it wouldn’t have changed that a rape took place. The state can and should punish rapists.
Man, from the west this just paints a horrible picture of gender relations in China. The rank transactional nature of what is supposed to be a life partnership, police incompetence, police pressuring a rape victim into trying to take a bribe, the minimal sentence, all of it is bad
This is the kind of transactional relationship you’d really only expect to see among very wealthy people in the US - athletes, CEOs, heiresses, etc. but this (and other things you’ve highlighted) seems to be among ordinary people!
Obviously not everything is like this, and there are transactional elements to relationships in the west too even if implicit instead of explicit. But I can’t imagine a US court telling somebody who reported a rape “wouldn’t it be an OK compromise if you got half the rapists house and married him?”
It really is. Chinese dating is so pragmatic that it practically feels like a job interview--albeit one that goes into private financial details a lot. Like, having seen a lot of dating profiles in America, people mostly list what they do for work, what their hobbies are, their opinions on kids, their general personality. I've never seen a dating profile that lists how many bedrooms their house has, or the exact model of car they drive. (Again, unless they're super wealthy and are showing off a room full of Ferraris or something.)
"I can’t imagine a US court telling somebody who reported a rape “wouldn’t it be an OK compromise if you got half the rapists house and married him?”
Marry-your-rapist laws used to pretty common but AFAIK not in the US. The classic italian film The Most Beautiful Wife starring Ornella Muti was based on such a case.
Oh yeah such laws were much more common, but it’s really surprising to see them happening in a “modern” country like China instead of like, a tribal court in northern Nigeria or Yemen
A crime is a crime, even if the victim was willing to be bought off. The man is still a rapist, and was proven so. She can’t offer retroactive consent for the crime, she was just willing to not pursue charges; it wouldn’t have changed that a rape took place. The state can and should punish rapists.
Man, from the west this just paints a horrible picture of gender relations in China. The rank transactional nature of what is supposed to be a life partnership, police incompetence, police pressuring a rape victim into trying to take a bribe, the minimal sentence, all of it is bad
This is the kind of transactional relationship you’d really only expect to see among very wealthy people in the US - athletes, CEOs, heiresses, etc. but this (and other things you’ve highlighted) seems to be among ordinary people!
Obviously not everything is like this, and there are transactional elements to relationships in the west too even if implicit instead of explicit. But I can’t imagine a US court telling somebody who reported a rape “wouldn’t it be an OK compromise if you got half the rapists house and married him?”
It really is. Chinese dating is so pragmatic that it practically feels like a job interview--albeit one that goes into private financial details a lot. Like, having seen a lot of dating profiles in America, people mostly list what they do for work, what their hobbies are, their opinions on kids, their general personality. I've never seen a dating profile that lists how many bedrooms their house has, or the exact model of car they drive. (Again, unless they're super wealthy and are showing off a room full of Ferraris or something.)
"I can’t imagine a US court telling somebody who reported a rape “wouldn’t it be an OK compromise if you got half the rapists house and married him?”
Marry-your-rapist laws used to pretty common but AFAIK not in the US. The classic italian film The Most Beautiful Wife starring Ornella Muti was based on such a case.
Oh yeah such laws were much more common, but it’s really surprising to see them happening in a “modern” country like China instead of like, a tribal court in northern Nigeria or Yemen
>"Modern"
>still technically legal to purchase a woman for 3000 bucks
No, sorry, I'm just salty. Don't mind me.
Minor: preach to the chore -> preach to the choir
Great post. Thanx