[Long article took up today’s word count again, a story of a man who lost his wife to lung cancer. I know it seems like the typical “shitty husband being shitty in predictable and disappointing ways”, but this is really what weibo has been in an uproar about lately. There’s a lot of discussion on this. So I thought it wouldn’t be particularly representative if I skipped it and didn’t cover it at all.]
Typically speaking, I'm generally willing to do for my husband everything he's willing to do for me, so it kind of evens out on its own.
If he's some kind of psycho who's like, "I'll eat your poop!" Then I probably wouldn't date someone like that to begin with, because I probably won't eat his poop.
What's the backstory of Chen Lang? The blogger seems to assume that the audience knows about this person.
Also, is it common for people in China to post public obituaries of their loved ones? (Honestly, I also don't know how common this is in the US or Europe, as Blog-adjacent, long format writing like on WeChat is not really supported that much by Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. I just feel I never came across an obituary that was not somehow about a semi famous person)
Chen Lang is the wife of a Sociology professor at the University of Michigan. When her husband passed away, she wrote a long post commemorating him much like OP did here commemorating his wife. Or, well, perhaps not to commemorate him, and more to talk about her take that sometimes, it's very painful to marry someone too similar to yourself. Because she was also fairly brilliant (master's degree in theology in Harvard), but as soon as she marries him, she disappears into a support role for him, and no one ever talks about her accomplishments anymore. And even though they both have jobs, more of the household chores still falls on her, etc, etc.
I don't think it's very common at all. This just happened to happen back to back, and the two articles were great mirrors of each other. Otherwise, I also haven't come across anyone writing about their dead spouse that's gotten nearly as much attention (except the guy who was found out to be a fraud later--the hairdresser in Hangzhou)
I will introduce a simplified way to evaluate a man as a romantic partner.
It is about investment and commitment.
For this man...
Investment - He is unemployed and made her do all the work.
Commitment - He did not visit her at hospital, until forced (to save on inherence fees?)
It would be better if...
Investment - He worked in Canada and supported her in raising their children.
Commitment - Did something before being forced to.
My simplified rule of thumb is that my husband has to be willing to do for me everything I'm willing to do for him.
Indeed!
What if he is willing to do more than you? Is that better or worse?
Typically speaking, I'm generally willing to do for my husband everything he's willing to do for me, so it kind of evens out on its own.
If he's some kind of psycho who's like, "I'll eat your poop!" Then I probably wouldn't date someone like that to begin with, because I probably won't eat his poop.
What's the backstory of Chen Lang? The blogger seems to assume that the audience knows about this person.
Also, is it common for people in China to post public obituaries of their loved ones? (Honestly, I also don't know how common this is in the US or Europe, as Blog-adjacent, long format writing like on WeChat is not really supported that much by Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. I just feel I never came across an obituary that was not somehow about a semi famous person)
Chen Lang is the wife of a Sociology professor at the University of Michigan. When her husband passed away, she wrote a long post commemorating him much like OP did here commemorating his wife. Or, well, perhaps not to commemorate him, and more to talk about her take that sometimes, it's very painful to marry someone too similar to yourself. Because she was also fairly brilliant (master's degree in theology in Harvard), but as soon as she marries him, she disappears into a support role for him, and no one ever talks about her accomplishments anymore. And even though they both have jobs, more of the household chores still falls on her, etc, etc.
I don't think it's very common at all. This just happened to happen back to back, and the two articles were great mirrors of each other. Otherwise, I also haven't come across anyone writing about their dead spouse that's gotten nearly as much attention (except the guy who was found out to be a fraud later--the hairdresser in Hangzhou)