A series of blog posts from the same poster: “Have you ever felt like your husband is some bizarre stranger living in your house? Watching all these married women complain about their husbands, I just feel like… Your husbands feel utterly inhuman to me. Like some kind of alien creature wearing human skin, disguising himself as a human, living in your house, often displaying bizarre behaviours that drive you crazy.
Dating horror stories I suspect we will always have with us, because it's an anti-inductive problem: any solution for recognizing predators or parasites that becomes common knowledge, will also be recognized (and then circumvented or otherwise worked around) by the smarter ones, precisely because it's *common* knowledge, and because they've got a lot more time and inclination to devote to practicing the charade than your average actually-spouseworthy person.
Not to say there isn't better or worse, though - picking measures that are hard to fake is better. Bride price is I suppose straightforwardly *expensive* to fake, but it does leave a lot of gaps, and is also hard for younger men to acquire legitimately: they, and whatever relatives (or friends?) they have pitching in, by definition have had fewer years to accumulate whatever sum is being asked for.
Dating horror stories I suspect we will always have with us, because it's an anti-inductive problem: any solution for recognizing predators or parasites that becomes common knowledge, will also be recognized (and then circumvented or otherwise worked around) by the smarter ones, precisely because it's *common* knowledge, and because they've got a lot more time and inclination to devote to practicing the charade than your average actually-spouseworthy person.
Not to say there isn't better or worse, though - picking measures that are hard to fake is better. Bride price is I suppose straightforwardly *expensive* to fake, but it does leave a lot of gaps, and is also hard for younger men to acquire legitimately: they, and whatever relatives (or friends?) they have pitching in, by definition have had fewer years to accumulate whatever sum is being asked for.
Interesting stack. I now read this every day, and every day I feel like China is just more and more impossible to comprehend as a foreigner.