Xi’an police report on a 35-year-old man who fell off of a 29-storey building and landed on a 5 year old boy. The man died instantly. The boy was taken to the ER but was unable to be revived. This case is currently under investigation.
Comments are universally some version of, “You’re done with life. He’s still young. Can’t you find somewhere with no people to jump?”
An askreddit question, “What moment made you feel really bad for a man?” The top reply is, “Several years ago, I’d just had my baby and was staying at home being a full-time mom. At the time, our financial situation wasn’t very stable, and we were barely getting by.”
“My husband would bring lots of snacks home for me when he got off of work. He always picked the best and most expensive brands. It’s the same way for the baby. At first, he told me that he got free lunch at work and would often brag about what they’d had on the menu at lunch today and how good it was. He said it was to make me jealous, because I often don’t try very hard making lunch because I have the baby. But it was all lying. There was no free lunch. When the baby was around 6 months old, I took him to get vaccines and hung out with some friends. Near lunchtime, I suddenly thought to check up on his at work, maybe I can get in on the free lunch program? So I went with the baby.”
“I saw him in his suit, sitting on the doorsteps of his company. He’s eating bread—the cheapest kind. There was a bottle of water next to him. I watched him zone out there for a long time after he was done eating. I wondered what he thought during that time. It felt like someone had just gripped my heart and squeezed. It’s like what they say on the internet, ‘Whose son is this? Who’s husband? Who’s father?’”
Comment say, “You should feel bad for yourself. Least he’s getting experience he can put on a resume, and health insurance, and a 401K, and opportunities for promotions or raises. You’re working longer hours for none of the benefits.”
A video mentioned briefly yesterday, of a mother taking her three-year-old out walking at 2am because she’s refusing to go to bed. So the mother says, “Fine, let’s stay up all night then.” At 3:50am, her toddler says she wants to go to bed, and the mother says, “No, we said we’d stay up all night. We’re not going to bed until the sun comes up.” At 4:30, the kid once again asks to go to bed, and the mom denies it again. At 4:45am, the kid complains that it’s cold outside. The mom says, “Yeah, it is cold out here. It was warm at home, wasn’t it? We had the heat on. But you didn’t want to be at home—you wanted to play outside. So we’re gonna play outside.” By 5:50am, the kiddo is breaking down and crying and fussy.
Another childcare blogger talks about this, “A lot of parents dream about toddlers being able to understand the concept of promises and follow up on whatever they swore. You’ve probably said you were gonna go to Qinghua [top university in China], did you do it? Using this mother’s logic, children can already be responsible for their own decisions. After that, then every time they want to play games, sure, play games. You’re not allowed to stop for 24-hours straight. No sleeping. You don’t want to go to school? Fine, don’t go to school. Go pick up trash. Go work in a construction crew. You want to eat candy instead of food? Sure, eat candy, that’s all you’re allowed to eat all month. Until you regret the decision.”
“They think that the only responsibility they have as parents is to supervise and hold the kid to what they promised, and make a record of all of this so it can be used to humiliate or terrorise the kid later. They don’t need to do anything else as parents.”
“They’ll probably save this video in their phone and pull it out all the time, to reiterate to the child how they’d made a bad choice, to make them feel regret and humiliation, so that the child never tries to make a decision again. Otherwise, ‘Well, remember that time you said you wanted to go outside, so we played outside all night? You want to try that again today?’”
“When the kiddo said she didn’t want to go to sleep, did she say that just to annoy you as an adult, or is she just telling the truth? If she’s feeling a lot of stress and anxiety about going to bed, is that something she can even express in this household? If she’d already had a nap that day, or if she’d barely ran around, or if she’d slept in until noon, is it possible that she’s actually just not sleepy? Is this kid allowed to not be sleepy? Has the parent reflected at all whether or not they’ve set a reasonable schedule?”
“Throughout this whole video, although the mother’s emotions are pretty stable, as the kid transitions from happy to tired to regretful, she’s taken on more and more of a sadistic tone as she reiterates that no, they can’t go home, we promised to play all night, baby.”
“I honestly think that having emotionally healthy parents are the most valuable to a kid.”
“I don’t know if this kid has emotional problems or trauma, I’m not an expert, but I just know that I feel very bad for this kid. Look at the tag she used on this video #watch this mother defeat magic with magic. It’s like the whole internet is making fun of this toddler, including her own mother. The kid at multiple points begs her mom to stop filming, and the mother says she needs to make a record. If I put myself in the kiddo’s shoes, I honestly have no idea how she held down on that humiliation and anger.”
Comments say, “We’re all being mothers for the first time, who knows what method is the correct one? Which parent hasn’t screamed at their kid or broken down at them?”
A askreddit, “I went to school for so many years and I’m still making the same salary as a sweatshop worker—what’s the point of university?” The top reply says, “For office workers at least, promotions and raises are all tied to uni degrees. Ten years ago, I made 3K a month, and a sweatshop worker made 8K a month. Ten years later, I make 40K a month, and a sweatshop worker still makes 8K a month.”
“Ten years ago, I’m weak and out of shape, and the sweatshop worker is built with muscles. Ten years later, I’ve kept up a fitness routine and am in healthy shape, and the sweatshop worker is getting all kinds of work-related joint problems.”
“Ten years ago, the sweatshop worker makes fun of me that I was better off dropping out and getting a job. A mere three years later, I’m making five figures a month, and the sweatshop worker is mumbling that society is crazy paying that much money to someone who sits around all day and does nothing.”
“The sweatshop worker goes back to his hometown after ten years and builds a mansion, but I own a house in the state capital, in the metropolis, and in my hometown.”
“At this point, I can’t get another promotion anymore. You know why? Because of degree. Degree. Degree. When have you seen an architect from community college? When have you seen a top-tier engineer from community college? When have you seen a CTO from community college? When have you see a big data analyst from community college? When have you seen an artificial intelligence researcher from community college?
As someone who graduated from a normal college, I have trouble competing against people with proper university degrees, much less someone from an Ivy League. All of my jobs have been through nepotism. Degrees are vital to life.”
Comments ask, “So what about the 70,000 Masters Degree graduates driving for Grubhub?”
A lady was sued by her MIL after her divorce for 100,000 RMB in babysitting fees for watching her child. A blogger says that this kind of thing is going to become more and more common, because this solves the problem of women wanting alimony after divorce for all the housework that they did. The famous case in Xiamen was that the man was running a business while the woman was full-time housewife. They had collective assets over 8 figures. When the divorce decision came, it was that they would split their assets evenly, and then after that, the man would pay the woman for her years of housework.
The man appealed that yeah, doing housework is contributing to the family, but my working hard all these years was also contributing to the family. You can’t claim that I need to pay her because I didn’t contribute anything to the family. He doesn’t mind splitting everything evenly—he just doesn’t get why after the split, he still has to pay her out of his portion.
But that’s not what internet commenters think. Most people think that being a housewife is much harder than running a business, so she deserves additional compensation. Whoever argues back just doesn’t understand how hard housework is. So for the past couple of years, lots of divorces have come along with a housework compensation fee.
So now a new strategy has appeared. Sure, housework is super hard and deserves compensation. So, surely, the mother-in-law who comes over all the time and helps out deserves compensation too.
I kept saying that nobody really understands the details of this case. A lot of people think that the housework compensation was all that the woman got. But no, it is in addition to getting half the stuff.
Comments ask, “So what’s the strategy if the woman’s mother was the one taking care of the kids?”
Writer had to make a YouTube channel for the Weibo videos haha. Appreciate it though as they were previously inaccessible