3/19/23 - He should pay the car owner emotional damages.
A video of a dog breaking free of his leash and running onto the backseat of a stranger’s car, who then proceeds to throw the dog out of his car. The owners says that this broke his dog’s spine and back leg. Top-voted comments say, “It’s the owner’s fault for not keeping a leash on his dog. He should pay the car owner emotional damages. I’m scared of dogs too. I’d be be the car owner’s side even if he’d stomped the dog to death after throwing it.”
In response to the trending topic #Why do more and more women want to be child-free? A blogger reposts an askreddit answer, “I can speak from experience here. I’ve got a two-year-old baby, super cute. But these last couple of years have been absolutely awful for me.
During my pregnancy, I was forced to eat all kinds of shit. Even if I’m in the throes of morning sickness, people will force it down my throat with all kinds of excuses about how the baby needs this. Not just my in-laws, but my parents, my husband, even my colleagues and friends and random strangers I’ve never met before will endlessly nag me about what the baby does and doesn’t need.
I was stressed out all the time about whether the baby would be doing alright at her next checkup, whether she’s got her cord around her neck, whether her heartbeat is regular. I went through morning sickness, insomnia, tail bone pain, not being able to comfortably move around etc. And there were tons of stuff I couldn’t eat while pregnant—as someone obsessed with spicy food, it was so hard for me.
And all the checkups and supplements and baby supplies and getting a nanny and birthing is so expensive. It’s not as bad if you have insurance, but if you don’t, god help you.
But that’s all small potatoes compared to giving birth and afterwards.
10 cm dilated is super painful. I never want to go through again. Even if you’re a man, you don’t have a right to say anything on the topic unless you’ve torn somewhere on your body big enough to squeeze a watermelon through.
I had a venous cerebral infarction after childbirth because I couldn’t get up afterwards and move around. Couldn’t move on my left side. Stayed in the hospital for near half a month and was on medicine for half a year. Spent a ton of money and I couldn’t breastfeed, and there are still some after effects. Even now, there’s a difference between the left side and right side of my body, and it’s super obvious if I try to dance or exercise.
I tore too. I gave birth pretty quickly—it was over in just about an hour. If you don’t know what it feels like, it’s sort of like the world’s worst constipation that you spend an hour pushing out, and it tore your anus. And if you really can’t do it, then the doctor can cut your anus open. And most people have to push for 2-3 hours.
To this day, if I sneeze, I’ll leak pee. I had a bout of sinusitis a little bit ago and was coughing a lot, and that was making me leak pee too. Can you imagine the embarrassment of peeing yourself as you’re walking down the street because you couldn’t hold back a fit of coughing? And I just have light after effects. I’ve heard of people with prolapses as a result of child birth.
And the whole process has no dignity. I can’t count how many people saw my vagina and boobs during that period. I’m not a super conservative person, but it still bothers me. I’m sure it bothers other girls a whole hell of a lot more.
And that whole moral hostage thing gets even worse once you have a kid. Everyone has ideas about what’s the best for your kid, and takes it for granted that you’re supposed to sacrifice everything for your kid. Even just the fact that I can’t breastfeed because I was on medication, my MIL complained to everyone about it. I was so upset at the time.
My body never recovered. I used to be 160+cm, 45kg. Not bad. Afterwards, I never got below 55kg. It’s not that fat yet, but looking at all my extra fat, I just can’t get over it. But I don’t have time to go on a diet either. I need to go to work, and after work, I need to take care of the kid. All my exercise has to happen after my daughter went to sleep. Not to mention all the stretch marks.
And for the first couple of years with a baby, don’t even think about getting a full night’s sleep. There are some angels that start sleeping through the night around one year, or maybe earlier, but most kids are gonna be way later. You have to wake up in the middle of the night to feed them all the time. Some kids have a completely nocturnal schedule, and that’s even more painful. And you still need to go to work during the day.
And you’ll never have any time to yourself. Occasionally, maybe, you can ask the grandparents to baby sit, but you can’t be trusting them all the time. Have you seen the spoiled little shits raised by grandparents? Are you really okay with that?
And most couples have their relationship completely freeze after a kid. I’ve come to the point of almost divorce with my husband three times. It’s true what people say—you’ll know whether you married a person or a dog once you have kids. I’m one of the unlucky ones that married a dog—I have to get through everything by myself, and if I complain, he just says I’m being a drama queen, says that his parents went through the same thing and they’re fine. So now, we basically just live our separate lives and don’t talk to each other. I still have some relation with his parents, but I don’t see him as my husband anymore.
And everyone around you is going to have a shockingly high tolerance for a completely absent father. If you complain, they’ll just say, “Well, all men are like this.” Of course, I’m sure there are good men somewhere out there, but I didn’t manage to meet one. All I can do is exercise, make more money, read some books, and improve myself, in the hopes that if I get a divorce one day maybe I can get remarried again. Or maybe just hire a sugar baby if I have enough money.
These are just my personal experiences. I’m not saying it applies to everyone. But it still tells a telling picture. At the very least, I hope my daughter doesn’t have kids. I’d be ecstatic if she wanted to be child-free. I won’t be against it if she really wants kids of her own, but we live in a new society now. Women have way more choices and don’t have to live reliant on men. She should make her own decision about whether she wants kids, and there should be more PSAs on the part of the government teaching about all the risks and dangerous of pregnancy and childbirth. I honestly don’t understand why there’s so little information out there about this.
Finally, I hope that every single girl can have a happy life free of societal expectations. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish.”
Comments agree, “What do you even get out of having kids aside from a body full of scars?”
Finance news reports on the historical purchase of Credit Suisse by UBS for 3 billion Swiss Franc, with subsidies from the government to try to prevent a run on the market that can affect global finance. This purchase should be completed by the end of 2023. The Swiss central bank has promised to give the merged bank 100 billion Francs in subsidies, after which the AT1 bonds released by the Credit Suisse will be written down to zero. That’s the largest hit on bondholders in European financial history.
3 billion sounds like a lot, but it’s not even half of what Credit Suisse was valued at last Friday when the stock market closed. And since 2007, at its peak, the Credit Suisse has shrunk in market value by 98%.
A writer and literature blogger notes that, “I’ve noticed a pattern. If the male lead has a significantly higher social status than the female lead, like if she’s just his maid, everyone will tell her that she’s not good enough for him. Even he’ll feel like she’s not good enough for him, and will probably married a wife of proper social standing and make the female lead a concubine or just a mistress. It’s only by giving the female lead a super secret special hidden identity, like some kind of princess lost at birth, that they can have a happy ending together.
But if the female lead is a princess to begin with and the male lead is just her servant or body guard, no one says that he’s not good enough for her. And the female lead never considers marrying a husband of proper standing and just fucking the male lead on the side for fun.”