An instagram story of how OP had been dating her boyfriend for a year. Their relationship is stable and they’re considering marriage. His parents said that they’re under too much financial pressure right now and want to wait a couple of years before buying a house. She absolutely refused, and said she can compromise with not having a car, but not going without a house.
In 2020, they borrowed a bunch of money to make the down payment, and checked out all the developments near their work place. Finally, they picked a development that had a school nearby—that way, it’ll be convenient for their kids. It wasn’t done being built yet, so they paid, got a mortgage, signed their contract, and waited until construction would be complete by June 2022. They planned to get married at the end of the same year.
In 2021, construction was halted. It has no sign of starting back up again even to this day. The homeowners have contacted the relevant authorities to no effect. She cried god knows how many times looking at the empty construction site.
Without a house, their wedding has been delayed. Now, she regrets why she was so eager to get a house. After all, she’s really screwed her boyfriend over—he has to pay a mortgage and pay rent every month, all without any sign that there’s going to be a house at the end. She’s still willing to get married and help with the mortgage, but she doesn’t know if he and his family even want her anymore. They haven’t said anything to her face, but she can tell they’re also upset. Now it’s really awkward.
Comments ask, “What are you doing feeling guilty when the real estate developer isn’t even guilty?”
OP complains about her kids eating too much. Her daughter is 15, 166cm, 50kg. Her son is 9, 35kg. They’ve never been picky eaters like other people’s kids. They want whatever they see, they eat whatever’s put in front of them. Particularly her son, he’s eating as much as his sister now. She attaches a picture of their breakfast, saying her kids always use the biggest bowls in the house. She doesn’t understand—she’s never shorted them food, why are they so obsessed with it? Every time they go back to their hometown, they’ll even eat her MIL’s left overs happily. As a result, her in-laws think she’s starving them all the time.
She ordered KFC and burgers for lunch, and she filled up with just a burger and two fries. They ate all the rest, and now they’re already hampering for more drumsticks and popcorn chicken, and want to cut open a 6 pound watermelon. In OP’s experience, they’ll probably eat 5 pounds of that watermelon along with their normal three meals a day. She’s concerned—is this even healthy eating habits?
She’s told her daughter from a young age that she’s a girl and shouldn’t eat too much, people’ll make fun of her, but it doesn’t work. Her daughter will just hide food and eat it in secret. Now, OP doesn’t even know what to say anymore, because she doesn’t want to hurt her daughter’s confidence. But she’s so worried and stressed. Why is this happening? She’s always fed them good food and never made them go without. She feels like she’s done her best. Why are they still like this? It’s not even great food. And yet after they’re full, they’re still stuffing their faces.
Comments ask, “Isn’t it normal to have a big appetite when you’re a teenager? I ate twice as much as my parents when I was 14-15. Why does she have to go hungry just ‘cause she’s a girl?”
Hebei police are under pressure from CCTV to investigate a fraud targeting old people, making up sad stories to get them to buy supplements. They’ve managed to get the supplement marketing company’s CEO to admit on recording that all the stories they cover are fake, just to make money off of old people. They’re posting about this online to warn people about these schemes. Comments say, “Get news like this every year on the 15th of March, but nothing ever comes of it. It’s just the government working with them to make money for 364 days a year, and arrest a bunch of canon fodder one day a year.”
Someone asks for advice that she is someone who doesn’t have very strong emotions, and their high school friend A is someone who’s very outgoing and optimistic and cares a lot about friendship. When OP started going to college, she lost contact with all their high school friends, except for A, who would contact OP consistently. They gift each other birthday gifts, which is actually a burden on OP, because she’s not into birthdays and hates picking out gifts. She feels like it’s just a waste of her time. She hates getting gifts even more, because they feel like a debt. So every time, she’d try to gift back something 100-200 RMB more expensive than the gift she got, because she doesn’t like oweing people.
Last year, for A’s birthday, A requested that instead of a gift, OP just opens a family account for her on her wechat, to let A spend 500RMB a month out of OP’s wallet. OP hadn’t even started working yet and is still trying to get into a Master’s Degree, so she joked that she couldn’t put together 500 bucks with a gun to her head. So A said, “Fine, give me 300, then.” Too shy to keep refusing, OP agreed. And every time she sees the text of money being spent, her heart clenches.
She feels like maybe she isn’t actually compatible with A as friends. A hadn’t done anything wrong, but OP feels like if A sincerely thought spending each other’s money is a sign of friendship, why hadn’t she ever brought up giving OP 300 a month too? OP’s always felt like she’d prefer to keep money out of friendship—not to mention, she had just gotten a job recently. She really doesn’t have money. She wants to know what’s a good way to bring this up. She’s been losing sleep all night over this.
In the comments is the aftermath—a screenshot of texts from the friend saying, “Why did you lock me out of your wallet? You’re such a bitch.”
A comment on the internet says that they use iPhones because they’re super poor. An iPhone doesn’t die for at least 5-6 years, so you don’t have to get a replacement for a while. It hardly ever lags. And as for not having great signal, it’s not as if OP frequently goes places without signal. And the places he doesn’t get signal—like when passing through tunnels—none of his friends have signal either. All his other friends have to get new phones every year or two because they keep breaking. From the point of view, iPhones are way cheaper per year.
Comments do the math that you can spend 4K on a Nubia Z40 Pro, use it for a year, and sell it for 1.8K on second hand markets. Which means you’re basically renting it for 2.2K a year. But you can buy an iPhone for 9K and if you take care of it well, then after a year, you can sell it for 7.5K easily on a secondhand market, and you’re basically renting a phone for just 1.5K a year.
The internet is in an uproar over a video of a little girl walking through a park wearing a kimono. Some commenters guess she’s just there to get pictures with cherry blossoms, and she has the right to wear what she wants. Other commenters say that you have to consider the feelings of everyone else if you’re going to wear something out in public. If you don’t want people criticising you, then just wear it at home. The original shooter of the video said that this is probably just ignorance on the part of the parents, and people shouldn’t target a little kid like this on the internet.
A complaint from an entertainment reporter that the most ridiculous part of TV shows is that every time someone gets fired, they have to leave with a big cardboard box of stuff. Even more ridiculous, as soon as they leave the door of the building, they dump the big box in the nearest trash can.
This is deeply confusing. OP himself has worked a lot of jobs—he’s never seen someone gather all their stuff in a paper box when fired. Where do they even get these paper boxes from? HR doesn’t provide them.
And if you’re just going to dump it in the trash, why bother packing up? Why not just leave it for the janitor? He has no idea if this trope came from America or Hong Kong or what, but it’s not realistic at all.
If anyone working in the production had ever worked a 9-5, they’d know that everyone comes to work with a work bag. You just put your stuff in your own bag. It’s like they think viewers wouldn’t understand someone’s fired if they don’t have a cardboard box in their hand.
What’s wrong with wearing a kimono?