“Because I wrote an article about Three Low Men, a lot of women ask about Three Low Women. But honestly, “low desire, low risk, low cost” women is the norm for China. They might not be 90% of society, but they’re at least over 80%. I mean, just look at Dream of the Red Chamber. It’s filled with female characters, and which one of them really have strong desires or passions? They’re all three lows already.
Let’s talk about low desire first. I almost never see women with strong desires or ambitions, whether it’s towards money, power, or sex. Even women who want to marry up really just want to have a comfortable, stable life, and not to rule the world or something. Even women who care strongly about the career are mostly trying trying to accomplish something specific, instead of fulfilling desires.
Next, low risk. Why do so many women want to stay single and childfree? It’s precisely because marriage has become more high risk compared to the past. Most women don’t want to seek great fortune in the midst of great danger—not that there’s great fortunes to be found in marriage. Why are so many women trying to become civil servants? Because that’s the career with the lowest risk.
And finally, low cost. Women are incredibly wary about all activities that takes a big investment, like gambling or investing or entrepreneurship. They don’t have strong desires anyways, they like stability. In this context, it’s not easy making a woman part with her money. Honestly, even with Xiucai [formerly extremely successful male livestreamer with a big fanbase of middle-aged women], a lot of women were saying, “Looking at men is fine, but spending money on it is not.” That’s a sharp contrast to men, who are entirely willing to blow a fortune on their waifus.
Is it actually a good idea to be in three-low-mode?
To some extent, this is the foundation of societal stability. It’s de to the existence of a large group of stable, content people that society can guarantee some level of harmony and peace. Women who stick by the rules and have their feet on the ground is the needle that keeps the seas calm [magic item from Journey to the West].
Three low men are like unleavened bread. But three low women are like rice porridge: light, tasty, nutritious, but it’s not really going to fill you up.
Three low women can actually be matched with any man. After you’re done eating abalone and sharkfin, no one can turn down having a bit of rice porridge to balance it out. If a three low woman and a three high man got together, this is what their life would be like:
He’s the target that makes the money. She’s the basket that manages the money.
He’s risky to the point of being reckless. And she regularly reminds him to keep himself in check.
He is absolutely lawless, and she makes him stay within the boundaries of what’s acceptable.
He makes money, and the whole family gets better.
Of course, that’s the best case scenario. It’s entirely possible that the three high man will risk everything and lose, and drag the three low woman into the swamp with him too. Or maybe the three high man will look down on the three low woman as a burden on him, or maybe she’ll be upset that he spends to much time away from his family.
A three low woman makes a great pairing with a three low man too:
He doesn’t have any ambitions, and she has no desire for fame or fortune either.
He doesn’t make much money, but she’s very frugal too.
They’re both normal people, but with love, you can get full just drinking water.
Again, that’s the best case scenario. In other cases, well, “Everything is a tragedy when you don’t have money.” The woman might blame the man for never making any money, or the man might blame the woman for being a nag.
Traditional society cares about marrying into your own socio-economic class, but it doesn’t care much about the personalities and vibes involved. Current society is a lot more of a hassle. Three low men aren’t pursuing women at all, and three low women are also just standing around, waiting to be pursued. These two types almost never end up together.
And at the same time, I’ve said before, marriage is meant as a tool to defend against risk, but now, it’s turned into its own form of risk. So large amounts of three low women have chosen the safer option of being single and child free.”
Comments say, “The fastest way to raise the number of three high men is to immediately start World War III. After we’ve wrecked everything and started rebuilding again, the morality of men and women will be restored immediately.”
“Three low men and women are both rice porridge. If you insist that they’re different, and the former is unleavened bread, then you’re going to create a large amount of men who pretend to be three high before marriage before revealing their true self afterwards, increasing the difficulty of finding a partner for women on the dating target. And that’ll turn into its own closed loop.”
“Low desire, low risk, low cost is the norm for Chinese women? Did you learn maths from your PE teacher? Go on any dating site and take a look—forget unmarried women, even women on their third marriage with kids, or widows who are over 60-years-old, demand a big house and a large social security check before they’ll even consider you. Even rural village girls want mansions and fancy cars and a billionaire husband.”
“My friend is buying a car for the first time, and I went with her yesterday to pay her down payment. When we talked about the price, I made up a bottom line and said that another friend of mine had bought the same car for that price. The sales agent didn’t deny that fact, just said he couldn’t do the same.
I saw an opportunity, and started haggling for all I was worth, and finally managed to get a deal that was only a hair higher than my ideal price, plus a bunch of free maintenance.
But on our way home, my friend suddenly got really mad and said I’d embarrassed her. That before I came along, she was really getting along with the sales guy.”
Comments say, “Please be my friend.”
“Hey, if she wants it that way, she can always turn back and ask for the car at the original price.”
“Just block her. You’ve obviously helped her save money and avoid getting screwed. Not only is she not learning from you, she thinks you’re not as important as the sales guy?”
A tiktok video of a kiddo sticking a needle in his mom’s hand. Apparently, he’d been doing this for four days in a row now.
Comments say, “He actually found the vein!!!”
“You know, my mom was a doctor, and whenever she got sick when I was little, she’d just have me put an IV in her at home. I was only in primary school back then too.”
“He found the vein alright, but he’s putting on the tape all wrong.”
“Whenever women talk about sexism, immediately, a horde of men will appear talking about army this battle field that (even though they probably haven’t been on a battlefield for the past eight generations, it doesn’t prevent him from pretending that he’s a soldier with honours).
I mean, did women even have the chance to fight or lead soldiers in ancient China? It took all the factors happening in the exact right way for a Princess Pingyang to appear, pulling together an army of 70K, and in just a year, she’d been completely sidelined by Li Shimin and his dad, and had her army swallowed by his. And then they sent her back home to have kids.
And the defense people have for the Li men eating their daughter is, “How do you know if she could even win the following battles?”
But the key is, she’s never gonna have the chance to try, right?
First, you kick women out, then you brag about how women can’t make it in, because they’ve never accomplished anything.
It’s not that women don’t work hard, it’s not that women aren’t brave, it’s not that women aren’t capable, it’s not that women didn’t win honours, it’s that women don’t have power. They don’t have any say in how resources are divided.
And the end result is that they’re enslaved, their labours are exploited, their achievements are taken, they’re smeared as a group, they become the invisible woman, she who has disappeared.”
Comments say, “I know there were plenty of women in the Korean war. I saw a movie that ended with a list of PLA descendants that died in the Korean War, and a lot of them were 14-15 year old little girls.”
“It’s always been that when they’re needed, women are encouraged to go to the battlefield. And as soon as they’re not needed, they’re chased back home to have kids. Any power or privilege or honours they’ve won for themselves will be taken and erased, and then people will claim that women’s never contributed anything to society.”
Someone posts screenshots of an old CCTV interview with a retired female PLA soldier, “Back in the day, they said some ridiculous shit, now that I think about it. Like, it doesn’t look good for someone to be wearing a military medal while all pregnant. So all women had to change careers. So we all got discharged.”
A tiktok video of, “When there’s a traffic jam, you’ll never guess what the first car in the line is doing.”
Comments say, “If beating people wasn’t against the law, I would get out of my car and slap the shit out of him.”
“It’s probably a female driver who isn’t used to driving manual and can’t find the right gear. With this kind of road, just a three minute delay is enough to cause a big jam.”
“I suggest we shoot them right now.”
An askreddit question, “Why is no one memeing about Wu Jing and Myanmar anymore?” [military movie star, sort of like memeing about how John Wick needs to go to the KKK in his next movie.]
The top reply is, “I mean, after what’s happened, it’s really weird now to watch crime and mafia dramas from Hong Kong.
Their Godfather goes to Myanmar, and when they see the mob boss in Myanmar, they’re kissing ass real hard.
And yet, all it took was a bounty from an inland city in mainland China, and the mob boss of Myanmar turned himself in with his whole family.
All of a sudden, it makes me feel like Hong Kong mob bosses are only the same rank as, like, the leader of all the chavs in an apartment development in China?”
Comments say, “I mean, the most powerful Hong Kong mafia can’t compare to Shanghai in its heyday, and when they saw the PLA coming, they still all had to run or get reeducated.”
“I mean, they’ve never been anything more than leader of all the chavs in a development. All the talk about Yuen Mun, Yuen Long, Tsim Sha Tsui, and Yau Matei in gangster movies, that’s just the size of a single street in China. Even Kowloon, New Territories, or even all of Hong Kong itself is the size of one of our districts.”
“Mafias aren’t much more than ants in front of the violent machinery of a whole nation.”
Under the hashtag #divorced 3 months into a marriage got back 800K of a 1.06 million RMB bride price, a blogger writes, “When the media reported on this story, they deleted a lot of the details. I’ll go into it here.
When it comes to considering the negative effects to a woman of a previous marriage and history of living together with a man, plus the fact that they both spent the money and it was a very high bride price to begin with, the judge ruled that the majority of the bride price would be returned, to best manage both parties’ interests.
Here we can discover that China’s Supreme Court believes that living together and divorce has more of a negative effect on the woman, and they assume there’s less of a negative effect on the man. And therefore, they ruled in favour of the woman on this divorce.
I’m not going to comment on whether or not this line of thinking is correct or not. But I just want to ask all the men on the internet, if everything else is the same, do you want your future wife to be on her first marriage or second marriage? Do you want your future wife to have lived with another man before? I feel like the answer is pretty clear. It doesn’t matter how much the internet memes about NTR, when it really comes down to it, actions speak louder than words.
So, it is fair that judges tend to rule divorces in favour of women? I feel like it’s not fair at all. But why don’t we try to solve the problem at the rook? If all the men in China get together and start praising and pursuing women on their second marriage, and spit on men who’ve lived together with women before, we don’t have to worry about bride price anymore. Women will start paying us. Then men will really have stood up for themselves.”
Comments say, “Why would divorce be less negative for a man than a woman? Are you a misogynist?”
“When women get divorced these days, don’t they party and pull out celebratory banners and photograph this beautiful moment? It’s not a bad thing at all. If it’s not a bad thing, why do they need to be paid off?”
“If you don’t say anything, it might as well be your first marriage, right?”
> a movie that ended with a list of PLA descendants that died in the Korean War
Does anyone know which movie this would be?