12/08/25 - You need to be on your first marriage, with both your parents alive, in order to help with someone else’s wedding.
“Lol, I signed on 23 three new clients for my company this month. After my Japanese boss heard, he said his respect for me is just like if someone from the villages got into Qinghua university.
His original words were, “I’m so shocked. It’s just like asking someone where they went to uni, and they said Tokyo University.””
Comments say, “My favourite comment chain disappeared. It went something like Commenter A: “You’re like the chicken cutlet man of Japanese offices.” [a roadside stall selling very cheap chicken cutlets that had insanely long lines.] Commenter B: “I’ll do you after her, I’ll do you after her, I’ll do you last.” Commenter C: “Why am I last?” Commenter D: “Because I have a crush on you and want to look at you for longer.” Commenters these days are so awesome. They’re all fighting magic with magic XD I’m going to die laughing in this comment section.”
“Even drug dealers don’t bring on new customers as fast as you.”
“You’ll get looked down on if you make 1 million a month on Rednote, but if you say you can sign on 23 new clients in a month, you’ll get only respect.”
“If you signed on 23 clients in a single month at my dad’s company, he’ll pay all your wages and bonuses for the rest of the year even if you don’t come into work at all, and he’ll buy you gifts and gift cards for all kinds of occasions. Just come back whenever you feel like working again.”
“Greetings, Lord of Sales.”
“I can’t even imagine how you even talk to clients. When I try to simulate it in my brain, it’s just like, “Do you want to buy this? Please, I’m begging you, buy one.””
“Since it’s come to this point, please use your Rednote account to teach people how to get new clients. Please, master! I only got one new client this month and my boss is already acting nicer to me. I want this to continue!”
“If you sold 23 orders in a month in my company, you can ride the owner to work every day, and I’ll throw confetti for you the whole way.”
“It’s basically signing on a new client every business day.”
“An average of 1.5 new clients per day. Not even Qinghua University can achieve that. You’re the King of Sales.”
“Back when I worked selling tutoring classes, I can’t even imagine how much commission I would get if I could sign on a new long-term client every day.”
“So how much commission did you make?”
[There’s been drama lately as when Japanese jets were flying around Okinawa, a Chinese plane aimed its fire control radar onto the Japanese plane for 30 minutes at a time—the equivalent of basically putting the laser dot of a sniper rifle on someone for jets.]
“This is what it looks like to have a fire control radar turned on you.”
Comments say, “Don’t underestimate the enemy.”
“You need a longer barrel. Like a beyond visual range barrel.”
“That must’ve been really hard for our pilot, to not push the red button to launch the missiles. That takes so much willpower.”
“Someone’s getting married in the village. I asked my husband why he didn’t go to help. He didn’t say anything. I learned later that you’re not allowed to go if you don’t have a son.”
“My dad had 5 daughters in a row, and nobody calls him for anything that happens in the village. He doesn’t go out to work either. He just acts like a simp in the village. He goes to help out anyone who has extra work, doesn’t eat any of their food. People praise him for being nice to his face, but they all say he’s stupid behind his back. He never argues with them either. Then at 42-years-old, he gave birth to a brake pad [a son, who typically prevents you from having any more kids], and he says he can finally stand up straight now. Helped my mom through sitting the month and he went out of state to work. And now, today, his brake pad has brought him pride. His son got into a top university. He’s so happy he got shitfaced.”
“I don’t know about anything else, but the person who makes the new couple’s bed has to have both sons and daughters. That’s a fact.”
“It’s true. I have three daughters. When my relative was marrying off her daughter, I wasn’t allowed to watch because I have no sons, so I can’t touch any of their stuff. I’d bring them bad luck.”
“I feel this so much. My uncle’s daughter was getting married, and as her sister-in-law, I happily went over to help, but when I got there, my aunt told me, “Go take a rest. We don’t need your help.” When I saw the other two sisters-in-law holding the new blankets, I understood. They have both sons and daughters. I only have two daughters. So I just sat on the sidelines and watched. Then I thought to myself, it’s just sons. I can have them too. So then I ended up having another two sons. Now I’ve got two daughters and two sons.”
“Here, you need to be on your first marriage, with both your parents alive, in order to help with someone else’s wedding.”
“I used to have two daughters, and a couple of years ago, I had a son. Whenever a villager gets married, they’ll have me go make the bed because I’m lucky. I feel so much more confident now that I have a son. People will look at me straight now. This is just how I feel, please don’t hate on me.”
“Yeah, we also don’t let people with no sons help the new couple make their bed. I don’t know if any other region does this.”
“In Yunan, a married daughter can’t return to her parents house on the first day of the New Year. They have to wait until the 2nd.”
“Forget villagers, even if your own relatives are getting married, you’re not allowed in the marital house without a son. Do you believe that? Forget about anything else.”
“Sigh. As a millennial, whenever I see these families without sons, my first reaction is that that’s the end of that family (personal feelings).”
“My dad is like this, and he only had daughters. When there’s a rite in the village, or if people’s kids are getting married, we don’t get to participate. Nobody has any ill-will. You just can’t build connections with anyone.”
“Traditions left by our ancestors have deep meanings.”
“People with no kids! Someone else will take all your stuff! Doesn’t that make you upset!? I don’t accept arguments, this is how most people feel.”
“That’s gonna affect their kid’s whole life. You can’t go around affecting people’s luck because you have an incomplete family. Don’t mind me. I speak very bluntly.”
“Before I had a son, I didn’t realise. After I had a son, I learned that lots of people have been persuading my husband to have a son. He just never told me. I can talk more bluntly once I have a son…everyone has their own thoughts.”
“Back in the day, when my sister was getting married, I should’ve been holding up an umbrella and walking her out the door as her brother. But my parents wouldn’t let me because I had two daughters. I cried in secret that day. Then I had a son.”
#Got into Beijing University but graduated from technical school—reconciliation with failure. “I was born in a small town in Western China. I’m what other people call a “small town exam taker”. I was raised by my grandparents. Nobody has ever asked about my grades. I’ve never went to tutoring classes. Nobody had to remind me to do my homework or study for exams. I don’t know when, but I became the sort of person with very strong self-motivation, but who cares about other people’s thoughts a lot.
Before the Gaokao, I got through Beijing University’s Independent Enrollment Program and successfully got in. In a lot of people’s eyes, this is the start of my glory, but for me, it was the start of a nightmare.
I got into the IT major in Beijing University, and as someone who has always been top of her year, the very first semester I was in uni, I failed a class for the first time in my life.
At the time, I had no idea why I wanted to study IT so hard. I just felt failing was so embarrassing. I had the opportunity to switch majors once, but I gave it up. Although studying was suffering, I didn’t know what other major to go to. I never had the opportunity growing up to think seriously about what kind of life I really wanted.
During that period, Beijing University’s Psychology Centre Professor Xu Kaiwen gave a lecture about the “Empty Heart Problem”. He mentioned that 30.4% of Beijing University Freshmen resent studying, or believes there is no purpose to studying. 40.4% of freshman believes life has no purpose and don’t know what they are living for.
The fifth year I was in Beijing University, I’ve used up my only two chances at taking a gap semester. With how many credits I still had to take, there was only one path left to me: withdrawing from uni. Thankfully, at the time, Beijing University had a policy to transfer from university to technical school, where you can transfer the credits you already took towards graduating from technical school. It’s a form of elimination, but it’s also a form of salvation.
I didn’t hesitate much before deciding. I sent in my application, ran around and got it done, and when I got a stamped graduation certificate, the teacher in charge of the stamp looked at my certificate and still smiled and told me, “Congratulations on graduating!””
Comments say, “”If your mood is sick, then be a plant for a while, eat, drink, sleep, and get plenty of sunlight. Slowly grow and don’t worry about anything else. Let the power of nature heal your heart.””
“Chinese education has had a problem for a while. Letting students grow independently is the fundamentals of education.”
“She probably picked a major that wasn’t suitable for her.”