12/08/23 - People who knocked down our gates, how are you going to pay back this debt of blood?
“I’ve read through all my comments, and I feel like weibo’s really opened my eyes. Can everyone on the internet afford to hire a month-sitting nurse?
Maybe my area’s just really undeveloped. But right now, we’ve got 32 mothers in the hospital, 6 still waiting to deliver, 26 postpartum. Among those 26, only one of them had hired a month-sitting nurse.
That’s been true for the last half a year. If we have more than 25 postpartum mothers, then generally, one or two of them will have a month-sitting nurse. But before, when we only had 10 or so postpartum mothers, we wouldn’t see anyone with a month-sitting nurse.
Maybe this is because of small-town retirement usually involving your children taking care of you. A lot of people have kids in order to spread the burden of their retirement. Especially after covid, we’ve seen a lot of 38-39 year old chasing a second or third kid, and it’s all because they think being old will be difficult and expensive. And if they only had one kid, then the burden on him would be too heavy.
A lot of people say they need to just save money, but saving money isn’t so easy. Even if they had no kids at all, they probably couldn’t put much money aside.
I just want to know, parents in bigger cities, how do they take care of themselves in old age? Go to a retirement home? Hire a nurse?
Please leave friendly comments. No flames thanks.”
Comments say, “The baseline is just too difficult. Chasing a second or third kid to spread the burden of retirement? But the cost of raising a kid and educating them adds up to a small fortune too. So I don’t get why a couple of kids will give you better protection than a retirement fund.”
“I work with old people, and most old people in China live at home. Retirement homes are a minimum of 4000 RMB a month in Wuhan, and only people who make enough from their social security checks to cover that would move in (unless they have super filially pious children or they need 24/7 care and their family just can’t do it). So long as the old person is capable of moving around, they can take care of themselves. Even if they’re half-incapacitated, so long as their kids live close by, they’ll drop in every day to send food. In the more severe case, where they’re completely unable to take care of themselves, then the family might hire a nurse or consider a retirement home.”
“I come from rural areas of Hebei. In my generation, I’d got a brother, and a marital house for him, bride price, jewellery, furnishing, and car has completely drained my parents. Now, he’s just done getting married, and he’s already preparing to get my SIL pregnant. He makes about 10K a month, and my SIL had work too, but she had to quit since she got pregnant. Although they’ve got a car and a house, they’ve got to make payments on both of them. How could they possibly afford a baby on top of that? So my parents are gonna have to give them even more money.”
“This is a kiddo’s change over the past 12 months as he got sick. The kiddo’s mom says that he was in a coma for several months after getting covid, and when he woke up, his IQ had dropped to zero.
The shadiest lie in modern history is that “covid is just a cold”. Look, this kid’s still alive. Covid death rates are so low! It just completely destroyed his IQ! What a friendly virus. People should get infected again and again.
It’s still early yet. There’s plenty more to come.”
The mother explains in a post, “He was in a coma for a few months after covid, and when he woke up, his IQ had gone to zero. He could only lie there motionless. We did physical therapy, and he slowly learned how to lift his head, roll over, crawl, sit, and stand again, and get more coordinated. But his development is still stuck at one years old.”
Comments say, “OMG, he looks so much dumber. And darker.”
“Looks like he just gained some weight and got more tanned. He does look less energetic, but maybe he just didn’t get enough sleep that day. I dunno, I don’t have kids.”
“People who knocked down our gates, how are you going to pay back this debt of blood?”
“Covid causes disabilities. This kid is full on retarded now.”
A tiktok video imported from America, of an 18-year-old teen mom making lunch for her 2 year old baby and her boyfriend:
Comments say, “This whole video stinks of despair, from the decor of the room to the food they’re eating to the fact that she has a two-year-old at 18 to her boyfriend fucking around on video games. It’s just full of despair.”
“People who cook regularly wouldn’t get their nails done, thank you very much.”
“Feel like this is the end of her life. It’s all predictable from here on out and there’s no hope left.”
“I genuinely thought it was about a mom making food for an 18-year-old teen and a 2-year-old baby and her boyfriend. But the actual mom here is just 18!??”
A post asking for advice, “What does it mean when my boyfriend takes me on a walk literally all night? We had dinner from 8PM until about 11PM, when the restaurant closed. And then we just walked around all night until about 7-8AM the next day. And he never made any attempt at physical contact. What does he want?”
Comments say, “It means both of you have endless fucking energy.”
“If you got exiled back in the day, you’d get to the border first.”
“We don’t call this “taking a walk”, we call it “taking a hike”.”
“It means he has a perfect alibi during that time.”
“It means neither of you have flat feet.”
“Other people are trying to break the ice. You guys are over here, trying to break the iceberg.”
“They didn’t make us march for that long even when I was enlisted.”
“A mother gives an explanation for why bride price exists:
She stayed at my house when all she could do was spend money. Now that she’s finally old enough to earn money, she’s moving to your house. The bride price I’m taking isn’t even as much as I make in a year. It’s not even as much as I spent on her during one phase of her life. Is it really wrong of me to demand it?
Will I let her bring her bride price into her marriage? That entirely depends on my economic situation, your economic situation, and your attitude when paying the bride price.
I’ll handle the bride price in one of two ways. The first, if your little family runs into genuine financial trouble, I’ll take it out and help you. Two, if your little family ends up breaking apart, I’ll use it as child support when you get divorced.
I would never let her bring it into her marriage right off the bat. If she really needs it, it means her husband is very poor, and I would never have supported such a marriage to begin with. If she insisted on getting married anyways, then she should experience the consequences of that.
If you don’t want to pay a bride price, you can marry a girl who doesn’t want a bride price. Stop trying to figure out how to make girls who want a bride price give up on it.”
Comments say, “It’s just better for everyone if we stop dating or getting married altogether.”
“I hate this mindset that daughters spend money at home and earn money at their in-laws. If you really think this way, then just don’t let her get married to begin with. Just keep her with you.”
“Yeah, girls have always been making money for themselves, not for their husbands. What a fucking take.”
“Are you shitting me? She’s just fucking changing the house she’s spending money at, and feeling more entitled to the money.”
“When it comes to who gives more between parent and child and who received more, there’s no point in talking about it. We can look at the numbers directly.
Your version of “taking care of them”, either hiring a nanny or buying food and clothing and toys, what most parents mean when they talk about how much they “gave” for their kids, all of these don’t even add up to a half-way decent car if you translated it all into dollar amounts.
But the other way around, a lot of parents have this shitty personality where they want a super cute person (all babies are cute) to unconditionally look up to them, trust them, allow them to be a parent, give their life over to then, and endlessly satisfy their need to control.
If you get home, and you’re in a bad mood, you take it out on the kid. When the kid’s grades drop, you can endlessly nag at them. You can do your kid whatever you’ve never dared to do to a stranger. You can vent all you want and expose your ugly side. You can play with the kid like a pet, and take out your anger on them like a punching bag.
And when the kid grows up, they’re still legally obligated to take care of you. And you can always hold their morality hostage.
This kind of emotional support service would cost at least three times as much as hiring a therapy if you put it on the market, right? And you’re such a shitty ass human being, surely you’d have to pay several times more than everyone else, right? And even then, I doubt there’d be a person who’s willing to take this job.
Can you actually afford this kind of service? Forget for the rest of your life, could you afford it for even a year?
There are people lining up around the block to take care of a cute kiddo if you’re gone. If you don’t believe it, go check out how much infertile couples pay to have a kid.
But if a cunt like you lost your kid, you’d never get anyone else to do this for you again.
Who got more out of this relationship?
How dare you spew bullshit like, “How many people can really say they’ve done more for their parents than their parents have done for them?’
Don’t make me laugh. What have you actually done for the kid?
All “I raised you to adulthood” boils down to is that your own ineptitude meant that you couldn’t actually figure out a stable living situation and yet still irresponsibility had a kid anyways.
Even if you only look at their adult years, most kid do much more for their parents than their parents have ever done for them. For example, I’ve seen countless parents who beat their kids, but I’ve never encountered kids who grow up and beat their parents.
When I talk with parents here in America about why they wanted a kid, most people say that they wanted to experience parenting as a process. They wanted to enjoy taking care of a little life, to take the kiddo to school and back every day, to play with them during the holidays, to wake up every morning to see a smiling face, to celebrate occasions with them, and watch a little human being slowly grow up.
But most Chinese parents can’t even do half of the above. Their main reason for having a kid is to have somebody to take care of them in old age, and save money on hiring nurses. They hold nothing but resentment and frustration with their kid, and yet shamelessly go on and on about the favour they’re doing to the kid by raising them.
I just want to say to this kind of parent, have a fucking sense of shame. The kid doesn’t owe you shit. If you don’t want to take care of them, then don’t have them to begin with. Like anybody fucking wants to be born into a shitty home like yours, and owe you a debt of gratitude for the rest of their fucking life.”
Comments say, “This is the first time I’ve disagreed with your writing. The amount of worry and care I’ve put into my kid over the last 12 years can’t be quantified as simply as the amount of money that goes into a “half way decent car”. And I’ve provided emotional support and companionship to the best of my ability. I don’t need him to take care of me in old age, and I do think I’ve done a lot for him, and I don’t think he could pay me back, nor do I need him to. I just want him to be able to take care of himself and be a normal human being. That’s enough for me.”
“What kind of infertile couple wants to adopt a teenager?” Someone replies to this, “Tons of people do it overseas. Kids of all ages get adopted. Chinese people aren’t the same. Nobody wants kids over 5.5 years old, because “that’s when they start remembering stuff and they’ll never really see you as their parent. They won’t be willing to clean up your piss and shit at the end of the day.””
“If kids could choose their parents, then a lot of people would never have children.”
A tiktok video of a monkey trying to rob a man of his foot and getting kicked for it. The tourism park has responded to the video, “You cannot beat him for no reason. You must contact a worker to chase the monkey away.”
Comments say, “No, it is getting beaten for a very clear reason.”
“If you get bullied by an animal, you can’t fight back, or else you’re committing animal abuse. You can only fight back against people and call it self defense XD” Someone replies, “No, fighting back against people is called brawling.”
“If your life is in danger, you’re even allowed to kill pandas.”
An askreddit question: “Why did Qing Dynasty Princesses die to young?”
The top-reply is, “When we’re talking about the Qing Dynasty, we have to talk about lead poisoning.
In the Qing Dynasty, Chinese medicine doctors have had thousands of years of clinical experience now. And they’ve discovered that if people take in a large amount of lead, it’ll make them sleepy and lethargic.
So Chinese medicine doctors manufactured lead into lead frosting [literal translation, I’m not actually quite sure what it is] and made it the primary ingredient in Calm Down Soup.
The prescription is dangerous as fuck, but very few people actually used it. Peasants had trouble even putting food on the table. Where would they get the money to take regular doses of Calm Down Soup? So is there’s a demographic that’s wealthy and energetic, which needs regular doses of Calm Down Soup?
Of course. And that’s Qing Dynasty’s Princes and Princesses.
Due to not wanting their children to be too energetic and cause trouble in the palace, most concubines in the Imperial Palace made their descendants take Calm Down Soup regularly. The Princes and Princesses who took it regularly would succumb to lead poisoning and quiet down, alright.
And the result is, the Princes and Princesses of the Qing Dynasty only had an average lifespan of 28 years. Their death rate before reaching the age of majority is 42%.
I can only say that a ghost, a ghost of Rome, was floating above the skies of the Qing Dynasty.
And also, the Scared Child’s Cure supposed effect at calming people down is actually just a symptom of mercury poisoning. The main five medicines in Scared Child’s Cure is mercury, realgar, dried scorpion, fried silkworks that died from Beauveria, and Chinese liquorice. All of those ingredients are poisonous to one degree or another.”
Comments say, “Mercury only poisons you under high heat. Taking small amounts of mercury at body temperature isn’t going to do anything to you. Baidu this shit, man.”
“No wonder royals have more and more trouble having children the longer a dynasty goes on.”
“To be fair, most Princes weren’t taken care of by their own mothers. They get tossed in the Prince’s Palace and are raised communally.”