12/07/25 - There’s not a lot of girls willing to watch movies.

Question: “If humans got an additional organ, what do you want it to be?”

A compilation of answers: “Poison stinger, like bees. You can fire it once in your lifetime, and it’ll kill you. But whoever you sting will die too. Range of 50 metres minimum, 1000 metres if you work out. Everyone will be equal, and the world will be more peaceful.”

“Chlorophyll. You can fill up just suntanning, and you can live the wonderful life of eating until you fall asleep and waking up to some more eating.”

“An extra set of teeth that come in when you’re middle-aged.”

“I need eyes that update to peak vision every year.”

“Wings. I really want to fly.”

“Add something on your mouth or nose or lung to hold onto all the smoke you breathe into your body without leaking any of it out, so you can absorb all of it yourself. If you like it so much, then just enjoy it by yourself. Every drag you take, you breathe out so much of it. How wasteful is that?”

“I want a tail, a long one. Once I master it, I can use the tail to pick up stuff or as a pillow or to scroll videos. There’s so much I can do.”

“I want to be able to take my hair off to wash it.”

“Add an empathy organ, so that everyone can share their emotions to other people. Happy people can send their happiness out, sad people can send their sadness out, hungry people can send their hunger out, so all the world is the same.”

“Updating to a new body every 20 years like shedding skin.”

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Question: “Why is it a flaw for girls to like baking now on the dating market?”

Answer: “Flaw, lol.

When I first got together with my wife, we happened to talk about movies over WeChat. She immediately said she loved movies, and started sharing movie stars, famous works, famous directors with me like they’re treasures. A week later, she sent me a screenshot of the folders of movies on her computer and told me she wanted to watch movies with me whenever I had time.

There’s not a lot of girls willing to watch movies, and this was my first time meeting any girl into old movies, so I watched Citizen Kane with her, Fargo, Twelve Angry Men, and a whole bunch of old movies. And we discussed them with each other when we were done.

I dated her for a couple of years, and she showed her true self after we got married. No, not after we got married, it was after we confirmed we were going to get married…

One day, I got my hands on a high quality version of Ben-Hur and bought some wine and settled in to watch the movie.

She started acting kind of impatient right away. I didn’t figure it out at first, but after I got the wine ready, just as Esther’s about to show up, my wife fell into a deep sleep…

I drank my wine and watched my movie and felt like something was up…Five hours later, when she woke up, I started interrogating her.

She confessed. She actually only likes blockbusters. Her entire hard drive of movies back in the day, she had downloaded last minute off of IMDB. She hadn’t seen any of it. She only read a summary on Baidu Wiki.

She doesn’t drink wine either, except as a sleeping aid. She thinks they all taste the same, like cooking wine.

I didn’t feel lied to. I just felt touched. She’s completely computer illiterate. I have no idea how she found so many resources online to download and organise them into folders.

She said she got a membership at Movie Heaven.

So this girl that likes baking, has she shared anything she’s baked in the week you’ve known each other?”

Comments say, “I’ve never met a girl willing to watch Twelve Angry Men.”

“I knew a girl before who watched these old movies you’re talking about, watched anime, watched J-dramas, and had the exact same tastes as me. We’d recommend things to each other, until one day, we were talking about music, and she said she liked Silence Wang and sent me a video of him singing. I said I listened to it but it’s not my cup of tea, and she blocked me.”

“Same. When my wife pursued me, she told me she loved watching movies, especially murder mysteries. She bought tickets all the time and invited me out to watch movies and would tell me these are free tickets she got with her membership. Once we got married, she didn’t want to step another foot into a movie theatre. Every time, I have to beg her to go with me, or else I’d have to watch movies alone.”

“Are there really no girlfriends who’ll watch Ben-Hur with you? T_T”

“Me too. When my boss first went on a date with me, she said she loved movies too. The first date we went on, I got brave and picked Rome (2+ hours, black and white, boring art film). It was my second watch, but I really love it. She didn’t look at her phone at all and watched the whole thing with me. There was only a dozen people in the theatre. I thought I’d found a treasure. I finally found my movie buddy. Then it turned out, the only movie she liked watching is popcorn movies full of explosions. She spoils herself on every movie, plays her phone through them, or just watches the beginning and leaves.”

“Women don’t even bother pretending anymore.”

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Question: “Are there any advantages to being born in Henan?”

A compilation of answers: “People from other regions might have to consider whether or not they want to immigrate somewhere, but Henan people will never leave Henan.”

“No matter where you work in China, you’re not that far from home.”

”Easy for fans of historical figures to visit their graves.”

“Henan is what the King of Hell created to punish ghosts who are still committing crimes after death.”

“The advantage is that people will pay extra attention to your IP when you post.”

“I’m not even from Henan. I’m just studying over here. But as soon as I got this IP, the first thing people say to me online is an attack about my IP…I really understand now that regional discrimination is not a joke.”

“You can go to the same school in the same major for 600 points in the Gaokao, just the same as people who got 400 points in other states. You can feel good about your score. And you can really increase the prestige of your school when you go on to a Master’s Degree.”

“After you’ve worked in Henan, no matter where you go next, you’ll find the pay is really good.”

“Whether now or in the past, you can have as many kids as you want. Nobody cares.”

“People from out of state can only emigrate once, but Henan people can do it twice.”

“Good at taking on stress.”

“When you’re in uni, you’ll find that your foundations are a bit more stable than other students.”

“If you were born in other states, you might have to consider whether or not to just keep working in your hometown. But Henan people don’t have this concern.”

“If I put on my Henan middle school uniform, I can quickly enter Studying Mode.”

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“Women who haven’t worked in a long time and were full-time moms will have slower reaction time and communication abilities.

They’ll even get less brave.

I’ll give the simplest example.

My friend’s place had a new woman come in looking for work. She worked there for half a month before she brought up that there’s too much overtime and she has a kid, so she can’t do it anymore.

Didn’t ask for anything and just left.

I went to get my nails done, and the girls in the nail salon were chatting, and mentioned that a woman had applied for a job there too. She didn’t know how to use the new machines. She was still using the oldest model. And it took her a lot of days before she told them that work let out too late and she had to be back in time to take care of her kid.

This happened back to back, within half a month of each other.

My complaint is the same too.

I won’t even bother with all that drivel about how they can’t find a good job because they ahve to set time aside for their kid.

Just, the simplest question.

If the time of your work doesn’t fit your schedule, why didn’t you leave right away?

Because they were too embarrassed.

They know they can’t do it, but they were too embarrassed to say so.

Or maybe they didn’t dare to say so.

These types of women live at home long-term, and their men are unreliable and selfish and cold. They might have to beg him for money just to buy a small handful of bokchoy and get ridiculed for it. This is what happens when you live with long term shame.

They’re afraid to say no. They’re afraid to make demands.

Some people were explicitly looking for work that has no overtime, and they only chose this job because it advertised no overtime.

But when there turned out to be a lot of overtime, they still couldn’t bring themselves to say that their workplace was at fault. They just say that they can’t do this job because they have kids. And they’re too embarrassed to even ask for the pay for the days they did work.

Once they lose contact with society and work long-term in an environment where their rhythm is disrupted all the time, it has a huge impact on their state of being.

It takes a while just to find their ability to normally express themselves and talk with their head up.

So I’m against being too mean to these women.

Because their brains have already been damaged by this type of heavy, sleep-depriving work.

But you gotta say what you gotta say.

The earlier you can get out and work, the better.

The later you put it off, the more hopeless you’ll be.”

Comments say, “I took maternity leave, and when I went back to work after 4 months, I was still shy. Although I recovered quickly once I started working, it’s really hard to describe how disconnected I felt.”

“I’ve been a full time mom for half a year, and I couldn’t even talk to the doctor at the hospital. True story.”

“It’s not just full-time moms, a lot of tamed ordinary people are like this—too afraid to say what they want (or maybe they just don’t know how to say it).”