10/23/23 - In total, they embezzled over 350 million RMB from the bank.
“Been working the ER lately, and getting connected to a lot more patients. The one that left the deepest impression with me was a woman coming in for a C-section. It was her first baby. When I saw her, she was already on the table, with an enormous belly. But she still had neat twin braids, make up on, a red hair tie. She dressed up really pretty and really formally to welcome her daughter into the world.
She cooperated with us all throughout anaesthesia and was quiet the whole surgery, didn’t say a word, like it was no big deal. But after I pushed her back to her hospital room after the surgery and she saw her mom, she burst into tears and couldn’t be comforted. My heart clenched. I wasn’t worried about her health, but I hadn’t become numb yet, and I felt bad for her.
Of course I know what she’d just been through. Here’s a small detail. After the surgery, the paediatrician would take the newborn baby, head down, and push aside the green sheet in front of the mother’s chest, expose her breasts, and squeeze them with his hands hard until the baby can drink her first mouthful of milk. The mother has her legs tied up in the air, her stomach still open from the surgery, her breasts out, covered in sweat, hair in disarray, makeup all runny.
It’s just like Chen Danyan [biography author] wrote, “Pregnancy takes away a girl’s mysteries about her own body and her love of it, and a beautiful woman’s confidence in herself. While giving birth, no matter how much you praise the process of creating life, at that moment, you know you are closer to a beast, without any trace of the pure dignity of a woman.”
As a woman myself, I thought at the time, that maybe she was crying for the girl who died on the table back there. The moment she was wheeled out of the room and for the rest of her life, she’s a mother now. I couldn’t help it and told her mother, “Your daughter was super brave during surgery. You need to take good care of her at home.” The worst part is, the man beside her said, “It’s all over now, and you’ve got painkillers. What’s there to cry about?”
“Every woman needs to be good to themselves. You have to take care of yourself first before you can be someone else’s mother, daughter, or wife.” These words are so true, but there are so many cases in real life where it’s precisely the opposite. It’s my sincere wishes for all women, though.”
Comments say, “See, this is why men don’t deserve to be born.”
“It’s super painful though, painkillers or not. It’s a sort of pain I’ve never encountered in my first half of life. And OP forgot to mention, that a C-section is super scary for someone who’s never had surgery before, and yet you can’t choose to not have it. And when you feel unwell afterwards, you just have to bear it. It’s just like married life.”
“I don’t get it. Why does she have to breastfeed right away? Do they do this even if you tell them beforehand you don’t plan to breastfeed?”
Based on a New York Times report, 28-year-old nanny Michelle Hidalgo in California has been accused of molesting and sexually assaulting an 8 month old female infant. Hidalgo sent photos of her molestation to a male, and he directed her over social media to do increasingly inappropriate things. The case is currently still in court, and if she is declared guilty, she will face a sentence of 60 years.
Comments say, “? An 8 month old infant is basically just a meatball. They look like a bun you make for the New Year! How the hell could anyone get aroused by a meatball? I don’t get it.”
“Can we not post stories like this on the front pages anymore? More bad people are gonna see this and copy cat it.”
“That’s a proper punishment. The abductor in Sun Haiyang’s case only got sentenced to five years.”
“The proper heading for this is, “Man directs nanny to sexually assault female infant and photograph it.””
A tiktok video teaching people how to use a crescent moon hairpin:
Comments say, “I just saw a mother wearing a hair claw, and she slipped and fell with her baby, and she was so busy protecting the baby that she didn’t slow down her own fall at all. She slammed into the ground with the back of her head and broke the hair claw into pieces, and started twitching and her heart stopped. I’ve seen bob pins made if steel get rammed into someone’s brain in a car accident too. Whenever I see this sort of sharp, hard hair accessory, I can’t stop thinking about how dangerous it is! People need to be careful!”
“Can you get that through TSA? [Doge]”
“If you find yourself in a bad situation, that could double as a weapon too, right?”
“Just saw a social way of pressuring people to have more kids that’s pretty interesting.
Some class from a top university was having a 20th anniversary reunion get together. They were all from some kind of STEM class, so out of the 30 people who showed up, only about 20% was women. Most people were making pretty decent money and had a smooth marriage. Only three people were divorced. Everyone else had a wife and kids.
These people were all almost forty, and of course, their conversation revolved around children and education. Everyone was sharing their experience in kindergarten to primary school transition, primary to middle school transition, how to cure eczema, etc, etc.
One of the classmates brought up a problem. His kid is only just starting primary school and he’s demanding to play with a phone every day. He’s tried talking reason to him many times, and the kid will agree to it at the time. But as soon as he goes to school and sees that his classmates all have phones, he’s go right back to demanding a phone.
They’ve been fighting about this for two months now, and he’s completely at a loss. He doesn’t want to beat his kid over this, because the kid really hasn’t done anything wrong.
All the other students didn’t have a problem with this. They were all like, “Nah, my kid doesn’t. They’re not interested in phones.”
One recommended that he read to his kid.
And he said they read together all the time. Now, the kid doesn’t want to read with mommy, he wants to read by himself. Then after just a little bit of reading, he comes looking for mommy, saying it’s boring and he wants the phone.
Someone else suggested he teach the kid how to play chess.
He said that he plays chess all the time, for years now. His chess teacher will set him homework, and he doesn’t want to work on it. He just wants the phone.
And the other person was like, “No way. My kid wants nothing more than play chess with his brother as soon as he comes back home!”
Yet someone else suggested that he’s just not getting enough exercise. Take him to the park and run around.
He said that they go all the time, but the park is always empty, there’s no one to play with him, so he just goes right back to demanding the phone.
As they’re discussing, one of the students seemed to realise something and asked, “Do you only have one kid?”
He was like, “Yeah.”
The students discussed and found out that almost all the married classmates had two kids. He was the only exception.
And his classmates were like, “Oh, so that’s the problem.”
The kid comes home from school and wants to play with someone. He’s not interested in playing with adults, he wants another kid to play with. He doesn’t have any other kids at home, so his son gets bored and wants to play on the phone instead.
Just have another baby. It’s so simple.
And the guy gladly agreed.
I have very different thoughts about dropping birthrates. I don’t think it’s a cultural change at all. I think it’s just because of the wealth gap in China. A lot of people simply can’t afford to get married anymore, because they don’t have any money.
But for people who make upper middle class income, who can actually get something out of marriage, they’re still walking a very traditional path.”
Comments say, “All my life, I’ve never seen any only children complain about being lonely or bored. They only have endless happiness.”
“If the kid was two or three, he might play along with a younger sibling. But he’s in primary school now. By the time the new baby is born, he’d be, what, eight years old? And now all his parents’ attention are gonna be on the new baby, and he’ll have even less to do, and he’ll just want to play on the phone more.”
“I don’t think I’d want to play with a baby when I was eight years old. It’s pretty normal at his age to want to play on the phone. You just have to control how long he does it for, and put some kind of parent monitoring device on it.”
“I’m so bad at DIY it’s not even funny. But there’s a mommy in my community who’s really good at doing hair styles. I asked her to come over to my place and help my braiding my baby’s hair, and she charges me 100 RMB a month. That’s about 5 RMB a day. Is that an appropriate price?”
Comments say, “She’s coming to your door to help you out. You might think it’s only taking her a few minutes, but from the time she left her own door, she’s been devoting her time to doing this job for you.”
“How the hell did 100RMB a month turn out to be 5 RMB a day? If you can’t even afford 100 RMB a month, then just stop.”
“It’s so cheap…I want to mail my head over to your place so your neighbour can braid it.”
“I haven’t been commenting on some recent events, because the results aren’t clear yet, so it’s really painful to talk about it. Like that four year old girl who went missing in Shanghai on the teach. Now that her body’s been found on a beach in Ningbo. I read the police announcement at the time, that they determined the kid probably fell near the water and got swept into the sea. That’s whatI guessed happened at the time, to some extent, and 14 days later, they found her body…sigh. It’s so tragic.
At the time, there were a lot of armchair detectives on the internet who refused to believe the case turned out to be so simple. Some were speculating that this was a sexist family who didn’t want to keep the girl around. Some were speculating the parents acted it all out to drum up attention for their daughter’s acting career. Every couple of days, someone would be claiming that the kid got kidnapped and has been found by the police.
All the analysis made sense at first glance. A lot of people ended up believing it.
Why didn’t I ever fall for it? It’s not that I believe in the unconditional love of a parent. There are plenty of parents who abuse their kids or murder their kids. But the odds are pretty low. But is that the case here? You’d be way underestimating the police if you believe that.
In 2020, a father in Chongqing threw a pair of kids under three years old from a 15 story window, and then ran downstairs and cried his heart out, to make people think the children had accidentally fallen while playing. That it was an accident.
The police aren’t dumb. It didn’t take long for them to arrest him.
Do you think the police aren’t going to think of what armchair detectives online can think of? They eliminated the possibility of murder right away. Any kind of murder is going to leave a trace. The police checked security cameras. They interviewed a lot of witnesses. They’ve got the most amount of evidence, and the most complete information. All of what people were saying on the internet is just speculating based on their imagination and incomplete information.
There’s always a lot of speculation flying around the internet about everything. How do you suss out what’s the truth? At least in this case, the above is why I came to the conclusion I did.
Right now, everyone’s discussing whether the father is at fault, for causing the kid’s death by neglect. This is a good discussion to have. Like I said before, we need to have a discussion about whether it should be criminal to leave a child in a locked car in the summer and cause them to die. But I hope this is a serious discussion, not just an attempt to push guilt on him.
A couple of months ago, I saw a piece of news from America, that some grandma caused two of her grandsons to die within a year from “neglect”, and got sued in court by her daughter.
The daughter let grandma babysit her 16 month old son, and she didn’t keep a close enough eye on him. The kid managed to open the door while the grandma was napping and walk out of the house and into a pond. The grandpa discovered his dead body when he came out.
Her daughter had an older son too. After what happened, of course they refused to let grandma be alone with the kid. And the daughter was pregnant at the time and had her own daughter later.
Of course she wouldn’t ever let the grandma babysit alone again, but the other accident happened in November of 2022. The mom went to a hair appointment, and the grandma was with a bunch of trusted friends. The mom figured that they’d all watch the kid together, so she let the group baby sit the 7 month old daughter.
But nobody thought that the grandma would drive home after lunch, and then leave the granddaughter alone in the car parked outside her house for several hours. At the time, the outside temperatures were 32C, and all the doors and windows were locked.
She said she just forgot.
But her daughter and son-in-law believed someone had to be held responsible, and were determined to send her to prison. Both of their children had been killed by someone they thought was trustworthy. But the grandma’s lawyer said this was clearly two cases of “accidents.”
I haven’t seen the results yet. It’s still up to the jury. But I saw the evidence both sides provided. Like, whether this grandma has any problems with dementia, whether she’s not suitable for babysitting at her age and with her health condition, whether the parents were at fault for trusting her, etc, etc.
In the first case of the drowning, the daughter didn’t press charges, and the grandma was never arrested. And in the case of locking a kid in a car, at least in America, if there’s evidence that it was an accident, then you might not go to jail. But you’ll definitely face a long investigation.
I’ve never spoken about this case before on the internet. It’s my first time today. No matter how much we think this father is unforgivable for his neglect, I still think he’s the most upset of anyone. I’m also pretty lost about whether or not we should heap more blame onto the biggest victim here.
But if there’s no legal punishments, are there going to be parents who use this method to murder their children?
To some extent, would the father rather go to jail to lessen his guilt?
At least one thing is certain. I don’t want to join any angry internet bullying.”
Comments say, “It started out pretty objective, but then just got more and more ridiculous. Her father is the most hurt? He doesn’t have to take responsibility because he’s hurt? Whether or not you’re hurt has nothing to do with whether or not you’re responsible. And you can’t measure her father’s degree of suffering anyways. You can’t say that he’s the most hurt.”
“In Chongqing’s case, the parents were divorced, and the mom already suspected her ex-husband was up to something, because he was never close to the kids before, but insisted on having them come over and play that day. It was very unusual behaviour. If this pair of parents were in it together, then even is the police suspected something, it’d be hard to find any evidence.”
“I saw what the girl’s parents posted. They never said a word of apology to their kid. They’re acting like they’re completely innocent.”
“A news story. There was a bank branch manager, Mr Li, in Shandong, Binzhou, who was getting to middle age. His career is going great, and his daughter is the only thing he’s worried about. Her grades are terrible. To the point where even if Mr. Li wanted his daughter to come to the bank and take over his job, he couldn’t justify it. She’s way too far off from the hiring grade line.
Mr. Li found the saviour he needed at a friend’s dinner in 2014. His friend was his high school classmate, and promised him at dinner that night that he has an uncle working as a deputy principle at some top high school in Inner Mongolia. With his connections in the Department of Education, this is easy.
This man was named Zhao, from Inner Mongolia, Chifeng. Mr. Li had no reason to doubt Mr. Zhao based on what his friend said. And Mr. Zhao’s wealth seemed to speak for itself too.
There was still 3 months left before the exam, and if any connections had to be pulled, it had to be done now. The only thing Mr. Zhao needed was money.
Zhao said that his uncle is going to help pull connections, and just needed a budget of 1 million RMB to pave the way. Branch Manager Li didn’t hesitated and wired the money over. Soon enough Zhao said that he needed even more money, 3 million, to buy a passing certificate for a performing arts exam from a Beijing school.
But the four million was just an appetiser. Zhao said that he’s already settled everything, and now they just need to systematise everything. He’s opened a backdoor through the Department of Education’s internal web, that he calls his “little database”. Basically, it’s like sitting on the house’s side at the gambling table. Through this backdoor, not only can he look at the acceptance line of every university, but he can edit people’s college entrance exam score. But in order to open the backdoor, he has to pay a deposit with his connections, a total of 6.65 million.
After spending 10.65 million RMB, branch manager Li’s little princess got into a certain Beijing academy to keep her schooling career. Branch manager Li never questioned Zhao’s abilities or connections.
But soon, new problems appeared. This princess studied for a few months at the academy, and found that she’s not actually even properly registered at the school. She kept running into trouble whenever she tried to apply for anything at school, from classes to dorms and food cards. She asked her dad for help, and her dad turned to Zhao again.
Zhao convinced the branch manager that students who got in through connections often don’t have a proper registration to start with. But this isn’t a problem. He can solve all of it.
He just needs more money.
Zhao says that in order to get properly registered, there was one final step. You had to buy the education funds set up by the Department of Education. Of course, this isn’t just throwing your money away. You’ll still get 8% a year in interest. Only internal people have this opportunity, but you have to buy at least 8.5 million up front.
I don’t know if branch manager Li was starting to suspect something was up at this point, but it seems like he chose to believe Zhao again. He’s already sunk so much money into this, he can’t give up now, is probably what Mr. Li was thinking.
Getting money is simple enough as a bank branch manager.
Li found his brother-in-law, and another friend who had a company. He had his BIL and this friend write up a fake purchasing contract between them, and used this fake contract to apply for a loan from his own bank. That way, the loan from the bank became Li’s money. And his BIL and his friend who helped in this would get their own cut.
8.5 million was easily pulled out of the bank and sent to Zhao’s account.
It was so easy for Zhao to make money, that he didn’t want to lose this free, unlimited ATM. After he received the money, it wasn’t long before he called Li again and said they were just one last step away. Studying out of state in high school requires logging onto the School Credit Website and open up a series of 16 permissions. Each of these permissions takes 500K in deposit to open. Plus some money to grease the wheels, that adds up to 14.61 million RMB.
At this point, Li surely figured out that his daughter’s diploma has turned into a bottomless hole. Zhao always seemed to be just one step away from sorting everything out. The principle still needed a guarantor fee. He needed to edit the daughter’s past grades on the backend. He needed to pay a fee to access the database. He needs to buy more into the education fund…a total of 150 million RMB.
And in the bank, Li turned into an automated counter machine, letting his BIL and his friend take out ever more loans to pay back previous loans, faking the details of over 26 companies, along with proof of assets and loan details.
In total, they embezzled over 350 million RMB from the bank.
As someone who probably got to his position from connections, Mr. Li made the mistake of putting entirely too much faith on connections. Or maybe this is the true reason why his daughter has such bad grades.”
The top comment is a pinned screenshot of evidence, “Source: Chinese Supreme Court. There’s a lot of details missing from this story, but this totally happened for real.”
“No way, this has to be made up! All the bank managers I know are devious as shit.”
“Fuck you, my mom is from Binzhou. Make up a different place next time.”
“He doesn’t know the difference between news and short stories. If he’s insisting this is news, then he deserves to have his name exposed.”
“350 million. That’s enough to build a school, isn’t it?”