09/22/24 -
“Went to Happy Valley [amusement park] yesterday, and turned me down today.
We’ve been chatting for four months, sharing our daily life, talking about our views on love, raised pets together on tiktok, ate out a couple of times, went to the library together, sat next to each other in class, went to Happy Valley just the two of us, and now he’s trying to say he’s just friends with me?
He’s always going out with different girls all the time, while he claims to be sleeping or out with his roommates to me, and yet he claims he’s never lied to me? We make plans to eat out Saturday, and he’ll flake on me because of a new girl he met, and even while he’s arguing with me, he’s still flirting with other girls.
Before, I’ve told him that I liked him, and he said that he didn’t feel chemistry with anyone so he’s not thinking about dating, but he never said he wasn’t into me, so I thought it wasn’t a complete refusal. I still kept inviting him out, and he also agreed. Now he’s claiming that I’m trying to invite him out every day and he only agreed once, trying to paint me like some sort of harassing stalker while he has a sense of boundaries and is respectful or something.
I told him I liked him, and he never agreed or refused. Now he said he never knew, that I wasn’t direct enough. He’s inviting me out and then turning me down and is sharing all kinds of stuff while we’re chatting while claiming that he’s always been clear about not liking me?
I’ve gifted him macaroons, bought him boba tea, spent more money on him than he did taking me out to eat. He got the taxi to go to Happy Valley, and on our way back, I asked him where we were gonna get our ride back, and he didn’t say anything and just kept walking. It wasn’t until I said that I was gonna try to hail a taxi here that he stopped.
We’ve completely ripped off any facades today and I can finally put an end to four months of anticipation and internal friction.”
OP attaches the text exchange where the guy turned her down:
Guy: Because I don’t like you.
OP: If you don’t like me, why would you go out with me? Stop keeping me on the hook.
Guy: You’re the one that wanted to come out. I’m not keeping you on the hook. We’re just friends. Have I ever sent you anything flirtatious?
OP: Is that your definition of things?
Guy: What else would we be? You’re a friend I go out with frequently. Do we have to be a couple to go to Happy Valley?
OP: Is it not supposed to be romantic to go to Happy Valley with just two of us?
Guy: Lol. If that’s how you’re gonna think of this, there’s nothing I can do. I don’t have time for food. I’m free on Wednesday, and I don’t want to flake on my agreements, so I invited you along. Okay?
OP: If you know I’m into you, then stop inviting me out, okay?
Guy: How would I know? Whatever. I thought I was plenty clear before. Why would you still think this way?
OP: When did you make it clear? It’s always, “Let’s talk more tomorrow.” “See you tomorrow.”
Guy: Just ask your friends. When have I ver said something that implied I wanted to date you? Fine. When I say, “Let’s talk more tomorrow” or “See you tomorrow”, it means I don’t want to keep talking to you anymore. Not that I was looking forward to flirting with you tomorrow. I’ve said more than once I don’t plan to date anyone.
OP: But you’re always turning me down and then inviting me out.
Guy: Can’t you tell?
OP: Is that really a solid refusal?
Guy: You’re always asking me out and I only agreed once. How am I turning you down? I didn’t want to embarrass you by always turning you down.
OP: Do you think you’re being respectful?
Guy: What else am I supposed to do? You wanted me to come out. I thought it was as a friend, so that’s how I treated you. Not every guy and girl who hangs out are dating, right?
OP: Half the people at Happy Valley were couples. Do they look like normal friends to you?
Guy: So you’re just stereotyping everyone as a couple? What if we went to Disney together?
OP: Most people would assume so, right?
Guy: If we went to Disney together, would you think we were married? Do you have to be like this? Did I ask you to act this way for the last four months? If it were anyone else, they would’ve gotten what I meant already. Do I have to tell it to you so straight? Is it a problem with my communication? I said I wasn’t planning on dating anyone. You’re still fantasising. Is that not blunt enough for you? If I don’t want to date you, do I have to tell you to never talk to me again? To fuck off?
OP also attaches past conversations with the guy:
Guy: You eat yet?
OP: Yeah.
Guy: Ok.
OP: I’m free tomorrow for dinner though.
Guy: Wanna go to the library?
OP: When?
Guy: Wanna eat?
OP: Sure. When?
Guy: Now.
Guy: You going?
OP: I got classes.
Guy: After classes, I meant.
OP: My extracurriculars don’t end until 7:30PM.
Guy: I’ll be just done with dinner by then.
OP: I can maybe get to the library around 8. I gotta drop by my dorm first to grab my laptop.
Guy: K, I’ll just study in my dorm then.
Guy: You got classes in the afternoon?
OP: No.
Guy: Wanna go to Happy Valley?
OP: That’s sudden. When?
Guy: I’m gonna be super busy after this. I’m fine whenever. Weather is nice today.
Comments say, “Don’t overthink things. If he keeps being silent, that’s answer enough.”
Hunan’s #Zhuzhou Lusong Bridge incidence has resulted in 6 deaths and 8 injuries. #Driver at fault has been controlled. “On the morning of the 23rd, in Hunan, Zhuzhou, a traffic accident occurred on the Lusong Bridge. Jimu News reporters learned from Zhuzhou government that the accident has caused 6 deaths and 8 injuries.
According to insiders in the Zhuzhou government, at the time of the incident, a taxi and a rideshare car crashed into each other, causing the rideshare car to spin out of control into the oncoming traffic lane, causing a series of crashes. Right now, various departments are sorting out the scene. This insider claims that the accident caused 6 deaths and 8 injuries, and none of the injured parties are in danger of death. The driver at fault has been controlled. Local funeral home claims that the bodies have been delivered there.
A video has also been posted showing a white car driving down the oncoming traffic lane, crashing into multiple cars and scooters.“
”Young people these days have no idea how to be frugal.
My niece wanted to go travelling, and my SIL woke up bright and early to cook her 6 tea leaf eggs, made two rou jia mo [kind of a Chinese taco, but with fluffy steamed bread instead of a tortilla shell, usually stuffed with shredded pork], and washed her a bag of fruit to take with her on the train.
The eggs were rinsed in cold water so they weren’t too hot. The rou jia mo and fruit were all packaged in ziplock bags. My SIL packed all of that into my niece’s luggage, and my niece took them back out again and put them on the table.
My niece was like, “I don’t want to bring all this stuff. They sell everything on the train these days. All this stuff just takes up a bunch of room. Eat it at home yourself.”
My SIL was like, “A bento on the train is 40 RMB. Some fruit is 20 RMB. It’s a lot more worth it to just bring some from home.”
And my niece got impatient. “You’re always trying to save on that and save on this all day long, and you haven’t become a millionaire or anything. We still live life exactly how we do. You have to earn money, not save money. If I have to pack my own lunch on vacation, I’d rather just not go to begin with.”
They argued some more, and in the end, my niece still didn’t take any of the stuff my SIL prepared for her. All that food is enough to feed my SIL for two days.
Young people these days don’t like to bring food when they travel. They get on the train or at their destination and just start buying everything in sight. They have no idea how to live!”
Comments say, “Capitalists will silently brainwash a nice, simple girl into a little fairy.”
“It’s a consumerist trap.”
“You don’t even have to buy eggs if you keep your own chickens.”
A looong story of a girl in America who’s always dreamed of living in a castle, and eventually her parents’ house to buy a castle in France, thinking she could turn it into a hotel to attract tourists. At which point, she realised how much work remodelling and maintaining a castle is.
Comments say, “Keypoint: She has a house she can sell for 5.6 million USD.”
“She runs with every thought that comes into her head.”
“Honestly, if you can casually pull out 5-6 million USD as an America, you’re not exactly middle class.”
A compilation of people talking about poor buffet decisions:
“My friend got a bowl of egg-fried rice first thing, and I slapped her bowl off the table.”
“We need to investigate the air inside buffets. I suspect they’ve added hardtack powder to it.”
“As soon as you get into the buffet, there’s a thing of sugar water that my friend absolutely loves. You take two sips of that and you’re full, and she’ll spend the next couple of hours just watching me eat. She’s like, “You make me hungry just by watching.” And I was like, “But you’re dying of thirst every time we walk through the door?””
“180RMB per person at this buffet, and between the two of us, we ate 12 pieces of durian, 10 mangosteens, 30 shrimp, and ten servings of foie gras.”
“You guys have no clue. The best way to get your money’s worth is with seafood. As soon as I go in, I eat 1kg of seaweed first.”
“Stop bullying. I just got this.” [showing a plate of various tarts and pastries]
“My son goes in and gets a big plate of fries, and a big spoonful of ketchup, and a food-colouring drink. And, “Mom, I’m full.””
“Stuff I have to eat at a buffet: 1. Shitty whipped-cream cakes. 2. Watermelon. 3. Food-colouring drinks.”
“But I love stuff like this.”
“I’m such a bastard every time, always getting the egg tarts and the cartilage meat.”
“They told me to go eat somewhere else…”
“My roommate got three bananas…”
“Took my brother to eat a buffet that was 299 RMB per person, and he immediately went and got two fried drumsticks.”
“My dad starts every buffet with two hard-boiled eggs what the fuck.”
“I went to a buffet with my husband, and he got two plates of fruits, and I got two plates of fried food, and we just laughed at each other.”
“My friend started with a big bottle of coke and a bowl of fried rice.”
“A plate of watermelon, a plate of cakes and tarts, and a little bowl of coloured ice cream.”
“I got some cakes for myself, and my friend was like, “Why are you eating shit like that at a buffet?” And then she got herself a bowl of fried rice…”
“I always thought that the purpose of buffets is that there’s all kinds of food at one place. I don’t have to worry about the serving sizes, and I can only eat the stuff I like. If you really want to get your money’s worth, then just go buy 80 RMB of pork at the market.”
“I’m full.”
“You gotta eat the expensive stuff at a buffet. As soon as I walk in the door, I start chewing on the leather couch they have. Made the owner kneel down and beg me to stop.”
“I starved for two days, went in, and ate two ham mooncakes and I was full.”
“I suspect that buffets deliberately make their fried rice super tasty.”
“This painting of a bird sold for 430K RMB, and it looks like a primary school doodle. Experts say, “Look at the bird’s eyes. It’s worth every penny.””
Comments say, “It’s just money laundering.”
“Only 10-15% of experts are actual experts. All the other experts are just lazy gluttons.”
“That’s right. There’s sand in that bird’s eye.”
#Zhuzhou Lusong Bridge accident has caused 6 deaths and 8 injuries. “I saw tarps over five people. Guess it turned out to be six? Sigh….I heard there were little, little kids too…”
Comments say, “Isn’t this the highway? Why are scooters allowed to get on it?”
“I saw from another video that at least two were little kids.”
“Sigh…why couldn’t one of the innocent victims have been my boss T_T”