08/21/23 - I don’t know what I did wrong in my past life to get reincarnated here
“Sometimes, I really “hate” my mom. I was complaining about people smoking indoors at my company dinner tonight, and she was all like, “Are you not gonna be a part of society in the future then? Are you gonna live in a vacuum? Did I pay for you to study abroad just for you to learn how to complain about life?” I just felt pity, watching her blow all of her steam off at me. She tried to prove that she can climb high by putting her all into getting a Doctorate and working hard, just to become the best assistant her boss has. At the end of the day, any respect she gets from people still comes from respect to the boss behind her. But she gloats about it all the time, and whole-heartedly serves and cleans up after he male bosses. She’s just another high diploma East Asian woman who can’t actually reconcile with her identity. She thinks she’s a progressive mom, but she’s just another painfully conservative middle manager in the government. A perfect paradox.”
Comments say, “And just like other East Asian parents, when they can’t defeat their children with logic and reason, they’ll just threaten to cut you off. I don’t know what I did wrong in my past life to get reincarnated here…It’s numbing.”
“Why are so many comments getting deleted??”
“Wait ten years and look at this post again…”
“Every time I go to a stationery shop, my world view is updated again. Is it so easy to make money off of kids now? I’ve seen tape for 28 RMB! I’ve seen a fourth or fifth grader go check out with about half a basket full of stuff, and it came out to over 800 RMB. Her grandma was in utter disbelief, like what costs that much?? And the cashier explained that the pens were 30 RMB each and the little girl had taken a dozen of them. The old lady didn’t want to make her granddaughter disappointed, so she paid for it. The whole time, the little girl was playing around, completely unaware that she should be grateful. I saw a collection of card protectors that blew me away.
The one in the image is selling for 420 RMB.
Comments say, “I feel so bad for the grandma. She probably had to grit her teeth to pay 800, just to avoid making her granddaughter sad. That’s a small fortune for some old people.”
“Even if you’re gonna be a burglar, you can’t go this far.”
”Kids’ diaries are super expensive too. I feel like the most expensive thing in a stationery shop used to be five RMB. What the hell happened!?”
“Can girls marry well if they learn dance?
I saw a mom say that, “My daughter learned dance for five years and modelling for one year. Poise is the best gift I can give her.” Underneath the post criticising this line, an internet commenter says, “Girls who know how to dance are more likely to be spoiled by their husbands.”
I’ll say what they’re too shy to say—what they actually wanted to say was, “If girls learn how to dance, they’ll be pretty, have good poise, and if men enjoy looking at them, then they’ll marry well.”
Could such a thing happen? Back in the 80s, 90s, or even the 2000s, maybe, possibly. The reasons are just the following couple:
Pretty girls are rare. There didn’t used to be any videos or websites where you can look at hot women all day, and there wasn’t as much plastic surgery. Most of the girls in society were pretty hick, and so were the men. They haven’t seen many pretty girls, because the whole country was rather conservative. If even a single somewhat poised and pretty girl appeared, men would go after her like cats smelling fish.
Socioeconomic classes haven’t solidified yet. Back then, everyone was relatively poor. Even the slightly better off families were very limited in their purchasing power. The wealth gap hadn’t gotten as insane as it is now, classes haven’t solidified. There’s not as much of a concept back then of marrying your own class.
People were generally simpler back then, and still pursued love. They still believed love should be the basis of marriage.
All of these factors need to be in play for a pretty, elegant girl to be liked by the opposite sex, and marry well and live a happy life.
But look at how many points still apply in today’s society. All sorts of videos online have raised men’s standards for what counted as a beauty, and there are plenty of technological means for that expectation to be beyond what’s humanly achievable, with filters and photoshop. Men are pickier now. Normal beauty can’t compare to what technology can create. It’s impossible to try to marry up with just your limited amount of real life beauty.
Currently, trying to marry up just with the beauty a couple of years gives you is way too hard.”
She posts a screenshot of the original mother’s post:
As well as a screenshot of the original post criticising the mother, which reads, “Spoiled by their husbands? That word refers to the love of a superior to an inferior, like what you might show to your pet. Even if we ignore their status difference, can you be sure that the man will stay in love with her through their decades of marriage just because she learned dance at one point? You sure she can find a husband who spoils her just because of dancing?”
Below this comment is another comment reading, “It’s fine for girls to learn art, whether it’s dance or piano or violin. But it all has to start with them actually liking it, or having a skill for their future, or trying to go professional. That’s all fine.
Learning art to be more elegant and poised, saying shit like, “Poise is the best gift mommy can give you”, what the fuck does that even mean? Are you a madam at a brothel training your top whore? Is the only reason you teach poor girls arts to make them prettier and more elegant, to be sold as sex slaves to the rich and powerful? I don’t even know what to say to some moms.”
In the comments to OP’s post, people are saying, “Why not bind her feet? It can strengthen her thighs and make her vagina tighter.”
“If she had that sort of free time, why not study maths and chemistry? That way, she can grow up to be a witch.”
“I had a middle school classmate who was super pretty and poised, and she got raped by chavs at school when she was in sixth grade :) “
A tiktok video of what it looks like when a romance show [or movie??] is being filmed, that everybody is laughing at:
Comments say, “The corner of the camera man’s lips are harder to push down than a firing AK.”
“So, it’s the camera man taking it all on at the end of the day.”
“What a scumbag, he’s taken three people to bed at the same time. XD”
Under the hashtag #Accused of rape by fiance 4 days after engagement, a blogger writes, “The case is literally in court right now, so it’s most likely true. The requirements for rape are pretty damn high. It doesn’t make it to court most of the time.
And I need to upvote the local cops. They didn’t dismiss the rape charge just because they were engaged. That’s better than 99% of people.
As for what the man’s family are talking about with bride price blah blah blah, adding names blah blah blah, I can only say that they sure know how to market on the internet.”
Comments say, “I mean, all her demands of adding her name and high bride prices are recorded. Maybe she’s just blackmailing him? If the negotiations go well, then they pay her and they get married. If the negotiations go badly, she can always call the cops. [Doge]”
“Thank god they’re just engaged, and they still fit the criteria for reporting rape. Once they’re already married….”
“Ahem. [Attaches screenshot of news article, which shows the police telling a reporter, “We were trying to explain that it’s not that he’s innocent of rape just because he added her name to his house. At first, we were really trying to settle this by talking it out. If they could talk it out, then we don’t have to pursue this case anymore. I mean, they’re engaged after all. It’s how it is. So I was just comforting the lady’s family first, like, they’re engaged, it’s not good to go to court. I meant to say that we won’t pursue the charges, but the man’s family kept escalating.”]”
A blogger is writing about yesterday’s post, where a man was complaining about his wife not taking any lessons while in her month-sitting centre. She writs, “Maybe you should just sign her up for a triathlon? I’ve done some plastic surgery, and the doctors tell me that men are way worse at tolerating pain. They’ll scream and cry just getting a shot. Some even try to jump off the table and flee. Girls are way better at bearing with it.
I mean, girls can go through 10 out of 10 pain, and still end up blamed for not taking enough lessons while sitting the month. If it was men who gave birth to kids, they wouldn’t stop screaming for a whole month. Sometimes, I don’t even know what to say. Men only care that they’d paid money on the month-sitting centre, and their wife has to earn that money back.
It doesn’t matter whether their wife is comfortable. It just matters that they get their money’s worth.”
Comments say, “It’s true. I used to work in the surgery department, and everyone who whines and cries when they get their dressing changed is always men.”
“Why doesn’t he take the lessons? They don’t just offer lessons to mommies. There are plenty of lessons about child care and how to take care of your wife postpartum. Do men really think giving birth is as easy as laying an egg?”
“I’m blown away time and time again by how ridiculous men are.”
Man in Hong Kong has developed a vengeful mindset after both his ex-wife and his current wife cheated on him, and began sexually abusing his daughter. He’s been sentenced to 28 months in prison. He claims to be a self employed part-timer, who admitted to sexually assaulting his 15-year-old daughter in November and December of 2020, and May and September of 2021. He claimed that at the time, his wife was depressed and threatening divorce and had stopped having sex with him. Thus, he sees himself as the victim. Doctors have found that his daughter has PTSD, with low emotions, headaches, and thoughts about suicide. The judge believes that due to their father-daughter relationship, the case involves betraying trust and using position of authority to commit a crime, instead of using threats to commit the crime. Therefore, he sentenced the man to 28 months of prison.
Comments say, “28 months!? What is wrong with this judge!?”
“This is why women need to watch out. Men will never be capable of empathy. They’ll never understand how much heart and blood you put into raising a child. Children will always only be women’s children, not men’s children. They’ll unhesitatingly kill their wives and children.”
“Just over two years? When he gets out, the victim will still be underaged. And her mom has depression too. I can’t even imagine this girl’s future.”
“Becoming parents is the easiest way to obtain power.
No matter what a piece of trash you are, so long as you have a couple of kids, you now have a group of people that you can yell at and beat at will. You can lord your authority over them for the rest of your life. You can take them hostage with supposed filial piety. You can drink their blood and eat their flesh. But if you don’t have kids, you don’t have a free supply of sandbags or slaves anymore. That’s why a lot of people absolutely need to have children no matter what.
This is very similar to marriage, in a way. No matter how useless a man is, so long as he gets a wife, he can live like a lord. He has a sex life. Someone does the work around the house. And if he’s not satisfied, he can beat her all he wants. This is how a Chinese family goes about obtaining power. Of course, in this kind of family, only men get this privilege. Women are slaves to be sacrificed, and so are the women’s children.”
Comments say, “What a perfect explanation for why the poorer people are, the more kids they have.”
“It’s sad, but this describes my ex’s family exactly. There are a lot of families like this now still.”