08/18/23 - If those looks qualify, could some sugar mommy consider my husband?
08/18/23 - If those looks qualify, could some sugar mommy consider my husband?
“A lot of girls working as sugar babies chat to me. How can I put this….50% of the time, it’s their family’s fault. No woman is born a whore and wants to be some guy’s sugar baby. Most of them don’t have a choice. They’re only 19, and their family’s demanding 10K from them. Where are they gonna get it?
That’s why I’m telling all pretty girls, you can stay at the bottom of society. Seriously! If you’re a pretty woman with no diploma, remember my extreme advice: in your hometown, you might just be another bitter melon, but in Shanghai, you could be Yang Chaoyue! [Chinese idol from a famously poor family wo only graduated middle school.]” (That’s how ridiculous it can be!)
A lot of mistresses have talked about their past. I never tell them off, because with that amount of temptation, even girls from wealthy families could end up falling for it. Because sugar daddies really give too much.
Peipei fell for it that way. She’s a Jiangxi girl from absolute poverty, 155cm. Her sugar daddy is also from Jiangxi. They’re both in Shanghai, but they can talk to each other in their local dialect. The sugar daddy’s wife is in his hometown. I’ve seen her photos—and she really does look like a proper wife. Her sugar daddy’s bought her a house in Shanghai and pays her 50K a month.
With those conditions, am I suppose to shamelessly tell her that she’s supposed to refuse? That she needs to work hard at a minimum wage job in a boba tea cafe, instead of taking that money?
Even if I said this to her, would she listen? Can she be persuaded? She said herself she’s from absolute poverty, and now she has a house in Shanghai and plenty of savings and a good life. She thinks her sugar daddy is her saviour. What can I do? I can just chat with her. Am I supposed to tell her that this is immoral, and she needs to leave her sugar daddy to date normally? She has no chance of finding a date at all as a Jiangxi girl from poverty.
Another girl, Lin Xiao, she married down in her first marriage, and after her divorce, she’s been working sales in Beijing. I’m telling people, Henan really is a magical place. She got a divorce because her husband was spending her money on his mistress, and all her MIL had to say about it was, “What did you do that you drove my son to cheat?”
Her current sugar daddy has a wife in Macau too. She lives in his house in Beijing, and he bought her a house in Yunnan, because she mentioned that she wanted to go retire in Yunnan some day. The sugar daddy made a bunch of money from a big deal right before Covid hit, and he gave it all to her, a million RMB total. He said she brought good luck to him. The project he was working on went through just after they started dating.
In this circumstance, am I supposed to tell her that she can’t take that million? That it’s immoral money?
Maybe there are young girls in my comment still indignant, but anyone who’s experienced any kind of hardship in life wouldn’t be too hard on these girls. I’m not trying to whitewash cheating or anything. There’s no need. I’m just describing a real phenomena. If the comment section gets too bad, I might put this behind a paywall.
I’m sure everyone knows, it’s hard fucking work being a sugar baby. Their life is completely different from the single daughter of a normal family. When people start at different points in life, well, they’re just living their own life. They’re gonna end up being responsible for their own decisions. As an advice blogger, my main job is just companionship. And I hope my audience can stick to their job of just being entertained by all this gossip.”
Comments say, “Yeah, I don’t pity anybody, and I don’t tell anybody off. I respect other people’s lives.”
“I can understand it, really. When survival is a problem, you don’t have time to worry about morality. This is just such a risky path to take though. You could easily get screwed over by the wife and the sugar daddy both and end up with nothing. But on the other hand, is it any less risky for normal girls to marry somebody?”
“Yeah, I get it. I’ve got a girl like that as a friend, and I feel like she has it so hard. She’s basically her brother’s nanny. Every vacation, she has to spend taking her brother to school and back, give her brother money, buy groceries for the whole family and cook every meal. Her family doesn’t care about her at all. But she doesn’t even think her brother has male privilege…”
A compilation of the effects of low birth rates in China:
“Has there really been a drop off in kindergarten numbers? My second kiddo is going to kindergarten starting in September, and we signed up in July. The public kindergarten below our apartment is accepting four new classes of students, 30 students per class, so that’s 120 kids total. At first, I was super worried that we might not make it into the public kindergarten, because our hukou isn’t local, and the teacher said they’ll prioritise kids with local hukou. So I made a plan B that if I couldn’t get into the public kindergarten, I’d find a private one and just pay a couple hundred extra a month.
But just a couple of days ago, I got a notice from the kindergarten that I’ve been accepted. I got pulled into the parents’ group chat, and found out that they ended up only opening two classes, and each class only has 15 kids. I hear that in two years, there’s gonna be even less kids. A lot of kindergarten teachers are looking to switch careers. I really do feel like there are so much less kids around now.”
“It’s about halved, yeah. Our local public kindergarten is the best one in the whole city, and among the best in the state. A couple of years ago, you had to pull all kinds of connections and practically fight your way through a battle royale to make it in. This year, they had online sign up, and I thought as soon as it opened up at 8am, all the slots would disappear in three seconds. But my coworker only found out in the afternoon that she needed to sign up that day, and she could still sign up by evening. Then later, they publicised their list of students. They’d originally planned on 5 classes, 150 students total, but they only ended up getting 133 people. Later on, I heard that due to lack of students, a lot of private kindergartens around town were slashing their tuition fees, which was cutting into the student supply for public schools too. If my second baby had been born just a year later, I could’ve saved a lot of money.”
“The private kindergarten next to my place is shutting down once summer camp is over. The public kindergartens are expanding their services into day cares too. My daughter was born in 2017, and managed to be in a peak year with lots of kids. The kindergarten had 14 classes, with maximum 34 people per class. Now she’s signing up for primary school, dunno how many classes yet, but at least 20. Later, she’s gonna face a lot of competition both in high school and university. My son was born in 2022, the lowest birthrate year. He’ll be able to coast through life.”
“2017 is the worst year, by far. My nephew was 2017, and he had to go through a lottery system to make it into kindergarten. A kid from the same apartment development as him didn’t make the lottery and had to go to a private one. This year is his final year of kindergarten, and he’s wanting to transfer back to public. Normally, there’s a rule that you had to start at 3 years old, they don’t accept transfers. They were just asking about whether it’d be possible, and surprisingly, the kindergarten agreed. Because after 2017, the number of kids drop off dramatically. Maybe 2017 is just a peak for some reason.”
“It’s really a sharp drop off like a cliff. My son’s kindergarten couldn’t even fill two classes this year. Several teachers have already left.”
“It’s true. Even last year, there were a lot of posts about how hard it is to get into a public kindergarten, and all the tricks people were pulling. This year, all you had to do was sign up. 900 RMB per month, plus 220 RMB of lunch fees, and you’re good to go. They don’t ask for anything now, no real estate deed, no social credit points.”
“Some rural villages in Sichuan are seeing several 80-90 year old people pass away a year and no kids being born. Soon enough, there’s gonna be nobody left in the countryside.”
“Our local public kindergarten demanded in 2021 that anyone who didn’t have a local hukou had to pay 10K in “donations”. Last year, they didn’t ask for donations anymore. This year, anyone who applied got in, whether they had a local hukou or not, and they all got a welcome gift XD”
“But having less people is great. They won’t have to stand in line nearly as much.”
“All the kids going to kindergarten right now were born three years ago. If you want to see how bad current birth rates are, you have to wait another three years.”
“I’ve got four relatives who are around 30 years old. One of them is a post-Doctorate, one Doctorate, one Masters, on Bachelors. None of them want to get married. And all of them are handsome men above 170cm.”
Comments say, “Great! I hope the population goes down even more, otherwise, human lives really have no value.”
“Above 170cm. Handsome men. Lol.”
“Less people means less resources, means things get more expensive. Nobody’s thinking about what’s going to happen when they get old. I don’t understand what people are celebrating about XD.”
A compilation of stealth cats:
“I almost cried my tears dry looking for my cat.”
“He always likes to sit up there. It’s impossible to spot him at a glance.”
“Hahahahaha he’s got a great sense of artistic placement though!”
“I called for him for hours and he didn’t make a noise! I seriously thought I’d lost him!”
Comments say, “??? Where is there a cat in the first picture? Are you screwing with me?”
“Kitties are too good at hiding. So long as they stay still, it’s impossible to spot them.”
“But you can tell from the first image that OP really really loved their cat.”
A tiktok video of what it’s like when a restaurant is at its busiest.
Comments say, “It’s like they want to cut the owner in half to use him as two people XD”
“Most of the time, the owner is a jack of all trades that fills in wherever he’s needed XD”
“I just have one question: who gets the biggest share of the money made that day? [Doge]”
An askreddit question, “Why do trust fund babies never marry influencers, and only want to screw around with them?”
The top-voted reply is, “I can answer this question with a meme from the early internet days (around 2000):
A young, beautiful American girl posted on a large internet forum’s finance board, “How can I marry someone rich?”
“What I’m saying is from the bottom of my heart. I’m 25-years-old, super pretty, the kind of pretty that blows people away. I’m educated, elegant, has good taste, and want to marry someone making 500K a year. Maybe you’ll say I’m greedy, but in New York at least, you have to make a million a year just to be middle-class. I’m not really asking for too much.
Are there anyone on these forums making over 500K a year? Are you married? I want to ask you all a question—how can I marry a rich person like you? All the people I’ve dated, the highest they’ve ever made was 250K. It feels like it’s my upper limit. But if you want to live around the west side of Central Park, in the high class districts, 250K a year just isn’t enough. I’m here to ask for sincere advice.
A couple of specific questions:
Where do rich single guys hang out? (Please list the detailed address of bars, restaurants, gyms, etc.)
What age group should I aim for?
Why do some rich people have very average-looking wives? I’ve seen some girls who look like tap water, with anything to draw you in at all, and yet they were able to marry millionaires. And yet all the hot sexy ladies in singles bars never have such luck.
How do you decide on who to make your wife, and who remains just a girlfriend? (My current goal is marriage.”
—Miss Borse
Below was the reply from a finance guy on Wall Street:
“Dear Borse, I read your post with a great amount of interest. I believe quite a lot of women have the same question as you do. Let me analyse your situation as an investment expert. I make over 500K a year, I fit your criteria for a husband, so please believe me when I say I’m not wasting your time.
From the point of view of a businessman, marrying you is a terrible business decision. That’s clear as day. Please let me explain. Disregarding all the details, what you’re talking about is a simple transaction of money for looks. You provide attractive looks, I provide money, it sounds fair enough. But there’s a fatal flaw here—your beauty will disappear one day, but my money won’t. In reality, my income will only rise with my experience, but you cannot possibly be more beautiful every year.
So from the point of view of economic, I’m an asset that’s always increasing in value, and you’re a liability that’s losing value every year. And it’s not a slow loss either, but a very rapid one. You’re currently 25. In the next five years, you can still keep a good figure and a beautiful face, but it’s going to decrease every year. But the speed at which your beauty disappears is going to increase every year. If it is your only asset, then your value is going to be very questionable after ten years.
To use a Wall Street term, every transaction has a trading position. Once it falls below a certain value, then you need to sell immediately, instead of holding onto it long term—which is what you want in a marriage. It sounds cruel, but the smartest decision in dealing with an asset that’s rapidly losing value is to rent not buy.
Anyone who makes over 500K a year isn’t going to be an idiot. That’s why we’ll only date you but never marry you. So I suggest you don’t look for any tricks to marrying rich people. By the way, you could try to turn yourself into someone who makes 500K a year. That’s a lot more likely than meeting a rich idiot.
I hope my reply has been useful to you. If you’re interested in renting, though, please contact me.
—Rob Campbell (JP Morgan Investment Counsellor).”
Comments say, “A good post, but be careful of feminazis coming here to bully you. How could feminazis ever acknowledge that their angelic beauty will ever decay.”
“Are people on Wall Street really that rational?”
“But lots of Miss Hong Kong pageant winners marry billionaires.”
“Jianxi really is the worst part of the whole Tiny Times [movie] series! I’ve read the original novel three times and watched the movie ten times, and I still don’t understand just why Guo Jingming [the director] hired him! When he stand stands together with Ko Chen-tung, the contrast is unbelievable!”
“He paid money to get into the cast. Guo Jingming hated him too. He never gave him a good face the whole time he was filming, and he never invites Li Yueming to any of the cast dinners.”
“The sugar mommy behind this dude is some married CEO of a big corporation, who’s fulfilling her boytoy’s dreams of being an actor. And he’s the public boytoy of several sugar mommies.”
Comments say, “But why don’t the sugar mommies pick someone more handsome?”
“Wow, if those looks qualify, could some sugar mommy consider my husband?”
“His Baidu Wiki page is super weird too. I don’t know if it’s an editing mistake or what, but before, it said he was an actor, and in 2017, somehow, he changed to being a soccer player???”