08/12/24 - No wonder you guys all love male uni students. I love them too.
#Ukrainian military has controlled settlements in Kursk. #How will the attack on Kursk affect the Russian-Ukraine War? “Local time 12th of August, commander in chief of the Ukrainian armed forces, Sersky, announced at a meeting of the high command that currently, Ukraine controls roughly 1000 sq km of Russian territory and will continue to attack the Kursk area. In addition, the Russian Ministry of Defence announced in that day’s report on the war that the Russian military continues to invade Ukraine at multiple points on the front line, and attacked their anti-artillery radar, ammunition stores, electronic warfare bases, and other such targets.”
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“What the fuck. My mom wants me to buy my aunt a phone.
I don’t know what she’s thinking, using my money to give her sister handouts. Does she not have her own kids? Why do I have to buy shit for her? Using her daughter’s money to help out her sister? What the fuck. And I thought they were family. I guess I’m the outsider after all. She’s just afraid she can’t fleece me. It’s not the first time she’s done this, that’s why I’m complaining. She’s taken my money to give to her three brothers and two sisters all the time. Fuck. Anything similar happen to you guys?”
Comments say, “Lol, that’s nothing. I was pregnant and had just had a c-section. Had a bleed out the day of the surgery and had to get a transfusion and everything. My surgery was at 4PM, and my mom called me at 7PM and said she didn’t feel well, and wanted my husband to go back home and take her to the hospital. Never asked how I was feeling. I couldn’t even move on my hospital bed. And this was during covid, so the hospital didn’t let you change who accompanied you. And my mom was like, “So what? The kid’s born anyways, it’s all over. You can handle the rest by yourself.””
“My mom wanted me to use my entire savings of some tens of thousands of RMB to help some old relatives get surgery (my maternal grandma’s older brother—his kids are rich too, with several houses and cars under their name). I just figured there’s no way that’s any of my business and refused, and my mom called me a bitch and said I was unreliable.”
“Maybe it’s just a back and forth. Maybe her daughter bought something for your mom, so you have to give something back. It’s not like you can’t treat your aunt well for your mom’s sake, just make sure it’s not all one-sided.”
[Screenshots of interviews with Wu Peng, a rock-climbing athlete, making fun of what an obvious introvert her was.] “What do? I feel very complicated towards Wu Peng. What a huge contrast before the competition and after!”
Interviewer: “Rock-climbing is a sport that tests your state of mind a lot, right?”
Wu Peng: “Yeah, state of mind is definitely important. Yeah. That’s it. Ask my coach.”
Interviewer: “How did you fall in love with rock-climbing?”
Wu Peng: “Ah…um…the coach told me to.”
Interviewer: “After breaking the national record, are you more determined than ever to get on the biggest award stage in the world?”
Wu Peng: “No, that’s something I’ve wanted since the day I started training.”
Interviewer: “Have you analysed why you’ve improved so quickly this year?
Wu Peng: “I have no idea.”
Comments say, “It’s so hard to interview this batch of athletes XD”
“What a cute puppy hahahahahaha Wu Peng is so cute!”
“No wonder you guys all love male uni students. I love them too.”
“Is it always girls who move out after a divorce? Never thought this day would come for me. I’ve lived in this house for over a decade. I’ve been packing these last few days, blankets, clothes, all the stuff I need once I move out. I need to take them all. I still break down into tears when packing up my closet in the master bedroom today. It’s so oppressive.
My 12 years of youth is gone. My money is gone. My house is gone. And my health is wrecked. The only thing I want to do now is make money and buy a house that only belongs to me. I never want to move again.”
Comments say, “The biggest lie in the world is that you don’t have to buy your daughters a house.”
“This is why I have no interest in men’s premarital houses and never ask them to add my name to it, but at the same time, I’ll never really think of it as something I can rely on. It’s just a temporary place to live. Of course, I’ll still live my days as normal. I just know deep in my heart that this isn’t my “home”. This is why it’s so important to have a little place of your own, even if it’s just a studio apartment. That’s still a studio apartment that’s all mine.”
“Five years of marriage, and in the end, he smashed all my house and kicked me out. But I’m really happy now because I’m finally free.”
#Just how cruel was Unit 731? “Before 清水英男 [I cannot figure out how this Japanese name is pronounced to save my life, but he’s an activist that’s been trying to raise awareness about Unit 731 all his life.] set off, he accepted an interview from CCTV and said that, “The Japanese government has never offered China a sincere apology.” He’s always wanted to come to China in-person to pay his regrets and repent his sins. For the 94-year-old 清水英男, this may be his first and last change to fulfil his wish. In 1945, a 14-year-old 清水英男 witnessed Unit 731’s various cruel and inhumane acts while he was in Harbin.”
Comments say, “History teaches us that forgetting history is a betrayal, and if you fall behind, you’re going to get beat up.”
“I’ve seen some videos, and it was really horrible. I hear that after Zhang Chunru wrote The Rape of Nanking, she got depressed. I really get her…”
“The truth is worse than anything we can imagine. We always need to remember how hard it was to achieve the peace we have today.”
“Hi, guys, I’m Hayata Hina [Japanese Ping Pong athlete]! Thanks, everyone, for all your support during the Olympics! I just registered a weibo account! Thanks for following me!”
Comments say, “A sweet apple-chan who never stopped smiling whether she won or lost, welcome to weibo! Remember to stay positive here!”
“An opponent and also a friend, this is what the Olympics is all about!”
#Villagers talk about how much Quan Hongchan’s [best female diving athlete] hometown has changed. “13th of August, Guangzhou, Kanjiang, after Quan Hongchan got gold at the Olympics, crowds of tourists poured into her hometown of Maihe Village. Villager Mr. Wang explains that before, they only had one convenience store in the villager. Not only did roads and car parks get built overnight, but the village has turned into a change marketplace. Stalls line the streets for hundreds of meters on end, and there are crowds everywhere you see. Mr. Wang claims that everyone wants to be a part of the celebration. There are professionals around maintaining order, and now villagers don’t have to travel far and can make enough money to support themselves right outside their door.”
Comments say, “It’s not easy for a small village like that to produce a world champion.”
“This is a good thing though. It’s helped her hometown’s economic development.”
“Lol, Guangzhou people are so practical.”
“You’re talking like these people actually have the manners to just buy stuff at stalls, instead of crowding around her grandma and grandpa’s house taking phone videos. You guys are making money so of course you’re happy.”
“Lately, law enforcement officials received complaints from the public that a woman has been posting abusive and slanderous comments about Chinese national athletes and coaches on social media.
After investigation, Wang (female, 38-years-old, resides in Guangzhou, Panyu District] has repeatedly posted abusive comments about national athletes and coaches on social media, causing a bad influence on society. Her behaviour is already potentially disturbing online order and abusing and slandering others.
So far, suspect Wang has been arrested by Guangzhou, Panyu police according to the law, and the case is under further investigation.”
Comments say, “So many people are making up bullshit about Chen Meng. They should all be arrested. Everyone would celebrate.”
“Why dare she call Chen Meng old when she’s 38??”
“Great! Guangdong’s earned some points! My upvotes to the Guangdong police! Reforming fan culture can’t just be something we talk about in documents and promotion. We need to actualise it into handcuffs and prison time.”
Question: “Are kids raised by their grandma more distant from their mom?”
[The answer goes into a lot of obvious stuff about the importance of bond-building during a kid’s younger years and how much their authority figures have an influence on them. But it contains quotes from a lecture by a professor, which uses the example of Last Emperor Fuyi’s autobiography “The First Half of My Life”, that I thought was interesting.]
“Let’s look at this passage. The First Half of My Life, that’s the last Emperor, Fuyi’s account. He records that when he was little, everyone knew he was a little prince, and he was spoiled by everyone around him when he was young. He said that when he was 11-years-old, it was a daily routine to abuse eunuchs. He said that at that point, his cruel and abusive personality had already formed. There was no talking reason to him. Every time he was in a bad mood, some eunuch had to pay for it. And every time he was in a good mood, the eunuchs still got unlucky.
“I had a lot of weird interests in childhood. Aside from camels, ants, earthworms, and fighting, my favourite hobby was pranking people. Before I learned how to use the Eunuch’s Office to beat people up, to give orders to beat people up, I still pranked them a lot in daily life. Around 8-9 years old, I had an idea with these perpetually obedient eunuchs. We all know that eunuchs are basically slaves, right? You can tell them to do whatever you want. I thought it was really funny the way they did everything I said. So one time, I wanted to test them, to see if they really listened to the Emperor. So I picked out an eunuch and pointed to some gross stuff on the floor and told him to eat it. And the eunuch really knelt down and ate it. And one time, I got the sprayer for fighting fires and was spraying water for fun, and a really old eunuch walked by. So I got the idea to spray him with the water, and the eunuch stood right in place and was too afraid to run away. He passed out from the cold water and had to be resuscitated. Everyone’s obedient and sucking up made a habit of abusing people in me.”
He had a teacher, and every time he acted up, people would ask his teacher to do anything about it. And the teacher would try to teach him the ways of mercy. But he said it was no use. “It didn’t matter how many stories of good Emperors they’d tell me, I’m just a mortal being, after all. Those stories didn’t mean anything to me.” You can tell that the way he was raised has formed his abusive and evil personality.
But when he was talking about this, who was the one person who could stop him? It was his wet nurse, Wang Jiao. He said that, “The momo [older female servant in the palace] that they’d cry to in front of me, she was an illiterate old lady who didn’t know any stories of past Emperors or how to talk about morality. But when she talked to me, I felt like I had to listen to her.”
Why? Because he mentally relied on her. This is emotional capital. This is why no matter how hard it is, you have to raise your own child in that first year.”
[The answer goes on about the importance of parenting.]
Comments say, “This made me think a lot. I have a lot of trouble with insomnia. If I sleep with my baby, then I can hardly sleep at all. For the sake of my health, I had to rely on grandma to sleep with the baby. But I do everything for the baby during the day, including daytime naps. Right now, the baby is 18 months, and he really does rely on grandma a lot for night time, and I’m stressed out about it too.”
“I agree that if neither parent can actually take care of the baby during the first 2, 3 years, and grandparents are only going to spoil the kid, then you just shouldn’t have kids yet. When kids are small, they don’t notice the wealth or poorness of their environment, but they’re extremely sensitive to the amount of level they get from their family. If you don’t buy brand name stuff, and use playing with mud and playing games to substitute for toys, kids really don’t take that much money. And you can go back to work once you’re over the first 2-3 years.”
“There’s different levels to taking care of a baby. Grandma’s love is grandma’s love. And whether you’re the mom or dad, you still need to put in your love. To put it bluntly, the kid knows very well who does more for them, who loves them more. And the kid is going to be closer to that person naturally. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you’re worried they’re gonna be distant from you later, then you need to take care of them more. Don’t wait for the kid to grow up and accuse them of being distant. Ask yourself whether you did your job right.”
“How much does it cost to go on a date for Qixi for a uni student? This is my budget (using 6PM as an example):
Two cups of boba tea, 30 RMB.
Taxi there and back, 40 RMB.
Snacks on the street, 50 RMB.
Dinner, 300 RMB.
Movie tickets x2, 80 RMB.
Hotel room, 300 RMB.
That’s a total of 800 RMB for a date on Qixi.”
Comments say, “Normal every day for a couple in Beijing, return tickets from Haiding to Zhaoyang, 100 RMB. Coffee or boba tea, 60 RMB. Food, 200 RMB. Movie, 100 RMB. [Something that’s censored here] 60 RMB. Hotel, 450 RMB. Total, 970 RMB.”
“Coffee, 9.9 x 2 = 19.8. Subway tickets 4 x 2 = 8. Snacks, 50 RMB. Dinner, bought from a scalper, 100 RMB. Movie tickets, bought from a scalper, 20 x 2 = 40. Hotel, from a scalper, 180 RMB. Total, 397.8. I won.”
“Don’t like to drink coffee, prefer boba tea, 15 x 2 = 30. Usually ride subway or get a ride share, 10 x 2 = 20. Snacks 25 x 2 = 50. Go for a date at the mall but don’t buy anything and just window shop and maybe get some flowers, 50. Dinner, 200. Movies only occasionally, 80. Go back to the dorm at night, so it’s free. Total 430. I don’t like to split the bill. I prefer that if you pay for boba tea, I’ll get the movie tickets. After a whole day, we’re both out about the same amount of money.”
“Before I started dating: I don’t understand who would run out of money by the end of the month. After I started dating: give me more money, bitch T_T”
“If you go on a date once a week, that’s 3000+ in a month. Plus your own food expenses, you’d need 5-6K a month just to survive. Working people don’t even make that much a month.”
“I’ve spent 5K just on hotels meeting up 20 times a year.”
“Pet cats, 108. Drinks 19. Split the bill on dessert, 42. Movie, 67. Split the bill on dinner, 156. Bought a hat, 69. Transportation (subway+taxi), 38. I felt like I spent maybe 300, but after calculating it all out, it’s over 500, and all I did was just have a normal day out. Didn’t buy anything too expensive.”
“If the guy is hot enough, I don’t mind paying for everything T_T”