In Shenzhen, a lady reported her doctor husband for receiving six-figures in kickbacks for medicine every year. In her report is also that he, “uses his position of authority to receive gift cards and jewellery from patients, and cash from medical reps, and so on and so forth. Shenzhen’s Nanshan Hospital had replied that they’re not aware of this situation and the management a the hospital will have to conduct an investigation. The husband in question works in their burn ward.
Comments say, “Our healthcare system doesn’t just have an economic problem, but a systematic problem too, like how personnel are trained…”
“Looks like he didn’t spend any money on his wife.”
“Does each ward at the hospital have its own little treasury? [Doge]”
“I’m a little speechless. I just moved into my new house, and my friend gifted me fire extinguishers, gas masks, safety rope, and fire carpets. I know it all adds up to a lot of money, but I still feel it’s super weird to gift stuff like this. Don’t most people gift some sort of home appliance or like some flowers or something? Am I the weirdo here?”
Comments: “Wow, so people who don’t like practical gifts actually exist.”
“Isn’t that great? I sometimes want to buy these things too, but then feel like it’s really not necessary, but I’m still worried about what if, and keep being torn between whether to buy it or not. Now someone’s bought it for me and I don’t have to feel conflicted anymore.”
“Then just tell your friend you don’t like those gifts? Why would you post it on the internet? Do you want people to make fun of your friend?”
“I’ve read a lot of time-travel novels that ends with the female lead finishing her journey, but refusing to return to the modern day, instead staying in the past with the male lead.
To be honest, I would rather cook fries in KFC for ten years than live in the Imperial Palace or Prince Castle as some sort of Queen or Princess. And it’s because the male lead can go back on his promise of, “Only you for all my life.” at literally any point.
From my point of view, she’s just being a lowest common denominator lovey dovey brain. She’s choosing to stay in a time period where she has no opportunities, no support, no plan Bs for an empty promise. If he loses interest in her at any point, he can grant her a bottle of poisoned wine and there’s nowhere for her to run.
Finally: If any of you time-travel into the past and complete your purpose there, do not, DO NOT stay there to be some guy’s wife. If you can run, run. If there’s rewards, great. If not, just think of it as a super expansive escape room. I’ll take you out for fries when you come back.”
Comments say, “The past is terrifying. Even if I put on 800 layers of rose-coloured glasses, I would know that he’s just a cunt who’ll get horny and then kidnap someone else’s wife to be his own, and then kill her when he loses interest in her.”
“As soon as I remember that there’s no menstrual pads or air-conditioning or Wifi in the past, I feel like exploding.”
“Even in the modern day when polygamy and soliciting prostitution is illegal, men still find every opportunity to cheat. Who the hell would believe that a man would only stay with them in a completely patriarchal society?”
A tiktok video of security camera footage where a two girls went home for the night. 10 seconds after they went inside, a man followed them up to the door. He unbuttoned his shirt, took off his hat and face mask, and leaned on the door to listen for movements inside. He saw the doorbell had a security camera on it, so he pushed the door bell and rapidly fled up the stairs to hide. After a while, no one opened the door, so he came down again to listen at the door. After finding that nobody was coming to open the door, he finally left. Then there are screenshots of one of the girls talking to a friend, where she says that the police have taken a screenshot of the guy and will come back today to search for him. But because the guy hadn’t actually done anything, the police can’t do much either. If he so much as stole something outside the door or left a couple of pieces of trash around, he’d have some cause to act. But if he’s just looking around, there’s nothing the cops can do.
In the end, the girl chose to move away.
The tiktok video wonders, “But once the guy had actually done something, wouldn’t it be too late? Is there some way to deal with this?”
OP also posts a compilation of the comments under this tiktok video:
“I got followed home by some guy and called the cops. Once the cops arrived, the first question they asked me was why I would wear a dress while walking home at night. This was in Beijing.”
“My friend’s been through something like that, and the cops asked her the same thing. She felt so helpless then. With sentencing the way it is, even if something had happened, he’d be out again in a few years.”
“This perv followed me home and waited for me to open my door. He pretended to be my neighbour and pretended like he was using his keys to open his own door. But actually, I’ve had a sixth sense that someone was staring at me before I even got on the stairs. At first, I thought it was just an illusion, but then I ran downstairs, and he followed me downstairs too, and followed me while I walked around my building. So I found the apartment manager and called the cops, and they didn’t do anything about it either. While they were taking my statement, they even told me to watch what I was wearing. I asked them why they weren’t doing anything about the guy? They’re saying my clothes were the problem? This is the middle of summer—what do they want me to wear? Wrap myself up in bed sheets?”
“Me too—my phone kept alerting me someone was outside at 12:30 AM. I scared myself half to death watching my phone. There was a guy trying to look in through my cat’s eye. I called the cops in the middle of the night too.”
Someone from Australia says, “At my IP address, if something like this happened, the police would set off right away and immediately confirm what had happened. Once they find the guy, they would issue a restraining order against him, to make sure he can’t harass you or even come within 100 metres of you again. If you find that he went against his restraining order, then even if he hasn’t done anything, it still counts as breaking the law.”
“My roommate used to be a girl. At 2AM, someone rang out doorbell and woke me up. I got up, angry, about to beat a son of a bitch, when he ran away in a panic. Guess he didn’t think a 200 pound muscle guy was going to come out. I only learned later that she got stalked.”
“I’ve seen someone say in a different comment section that the first lesson young people learn about life is when they call the police.”
“But stalking is “actual harm.””
“I just want to know: so if I’m in this situation, what can I do to get the law and the police to protect me instead of waiting for it to happen again?”
“I’m just answering: Nothing. Before actual harm is done, there’s nothing anyone can do. You just have to stay alert and keep yourself safe. There’s no other way.”
“Life is very cruel. I have a female friend who used to be very beautiful when she was young. She’s 51-years-old now, but although she’d always taken care of herself well, at this age, she’s still old.
After divorcing over ten years ago, she hadn’t remarried, and still lives like a young girl (since she’d always been spoiled by a man). She’s always telling me that the most important thing to her was love. But now, she’s discovering that love really doesn’t matter at all.
She was attending some kind of community event. She was still a well-known beauty in the group, because it’s filled with people her age anyways. So she’s still beautiful among the women.
And she fell for the guy organising the events.
The guy had just turned 40.
The guy was always praising her for showing up on time and dancing well and stuff.
So she ended up crushing on him, and always feeling like he’s flirting with her. She was happy all the time in that period.
Then she gathered up her courage and asked him out, and the man turned her down gently but immediately…
And she was mad. She took me out to complain about the whole thing, how he shouldn’t have flirted with her if he wasn’t into her. He was always praising her, asking her to dance and stuff.
Honestly, I think for this guy, he was just praising her because she was cooperating with the events that he was organising. He liked to see all the old ladies have fun.
For a guy in his 40s, a 51-year-old woman to him is nothing more than just, “A really lively little old lady.”
It’s not that love doesn’t matter. It’s that the love of a woman in her 50s doesn’t matter.
In their 20s, women are pursued by men. When they’re 35+, they need to pursue men. And at 50 years old, women need to buy men with money.
That’s how society works.”
Comments say, “I mean, if it makes you feel better, men have to buy women with money even when they’re in their twenties. Life is like that, it’s like a rollercoaster ride.”
“It doesn’t matter the gender. A lot of people much younger than me realise they need to buy love with money. If you don’t want to spend any money on it, a 50-year-old woman has to be looking for a 55+ year old guy.”
“Either she’s insane, or she’s never done housework. I feel like most normal women in their 50s don’t even want a man.”
A compilation of wechat texts which tell a story where a man was fishing, when something big caught his hook. Easily 30 pounds, this thing fought him for a long time before it gave up. He called his friend over to witness his moment of victory as he reeled his prize in…only to find that it was a canoe with another man in it. The guy had thought he’d bumped into some kind of ghost at night, dragging him to hell or something. He was so scared he peed his pants and had went limp in the boat. The “fish” had stopped fighting him because the man had given up and decided if death came to him this day, then this was it.
Commenters say, “It’s true what they say—fishermen can catch anything except fish.”
“I mean, from a certain point of view, I guess he did catch a big fish.”
An imported youtube video of a man focused on cleaning the kitchen counter, while the rest of the family looked at him like an idiot.
Comments say, “I don’t think he’s being stubborn. If you stare at something for a long time, it leaves an impression on your eyes.”
“He doesn’t look too smart. [Doge]”
“Diagnosis: he definitely has OCD.”
An askreddit question, “People who have multiple houses in first line cities, why don’t you sell one of those houses and achieve financial freedom?”
The top-voted reply is, “I’ve got five houses, two of them in Guangzhou, two in Foshan, one in Huizhou. One of the ones in Foshan is the bottom level of an apartment building. All the others are independent houses. To prove I’m not lying, here’s a photo of my deeds.
Why don’t I sell one to achieve financial freedom? Because having them is already financial freedom for me. Or rather, it’s only because I own real estate that I can have financial freedom. Let me talk about the one in Guangzhou for a moment.
This one is near Zhujiang Xincheng, Tianhe Street, next to Tianhuan Plaza, 80 square metres.
[He attaches screenshots of apartments in the region renting for between 10K to 15K a month.]
I’ll note that when I first bought it in 2008, the rent was only 2000 a month. So from my point of view, this is a permanent source of income that stays profitable despite inflation—why would I ever sell it?
I’ll copy-paste here an article I’ve written before. This essay is only for first or second line cities that have a constant stream of incoming population. Cities with decreasing population don’t count.
Worrying about real estate prices falling is like worrying about the Chinese currency over-inflating. Are there real estate bubbles? Sure, maybe. But what is currency? Currency is just a piece of paper. It costs nothing to make. You add a zero to it and its value goes up by 10 times. Does that seem more prone to bubbles?
Once money is backed by anything, all it is is just a unit to measure the worth of items. What actually gives an item value is its comparison to other items in the market. Money only makes that worth more measurable by attaching a standard unit to it. For example, if you time-travelled 100 years into the future, and someone told you that something cost 10 million dollars, you wouldn’t know what that meant. But if they explain that a pound of apples was 5 million dollars, then you’d know that that thing was worth two pounds of apples.
If you understand what I said above, you’d understand that money isn’t wealth, assets is. The trade wars fought between countries is fundamentally nothing more than every country trying to figure out how to exchange the paper they printed for other people’s assets (or capital, like company stocks, real estate, farmland, mining rights, everything necessary for maintaining stable production), otherwise known as an economic invasion. But you want to sell your assets for money?
So my advice to everyone is to first figure out what is wealth? What is the definition of being rich? Otherwise, you might waste your whole life. Wealth means you have control of the necessary resources in society, and use it as leverage to make negotiations with society, in return for stable income. For example, if you have several houses and collect rent, or you own company stocks and collect dividends. You and your offspring will never have to worry about where their next meal is coming from. Ask yourself, can money do the same thing? You country can print more of it any time it wants, and that’s what you want to hold? Does it count as leverage at all.
All the people saying housing prices will fall, it’s like saying that paper money is going to increase in value. Do you believe that shit yourself?
Most of the billionaires in the world already understand this. That’s why they’d rather go into debt to buy up assets (mostly stocks and real estate). Buffet isn’t actually that good at trading stocks. He just bought stocks several decades ago and never let them go. From their point of view, making money is just a means to the ultimate end of owning assets. Assets is actual wealth. Poor people have it the other way around, and see money as the ultimate goal. So, the people brave enough to go into debt to buy housing will always end up richer in the end. It’s true what Rich Dad, Poor Dad says, “the richer someone is, the more willing they are to go into debt. And the poor only get poorer the more they try to save money.”
I have a relative who sold his house in the 90s, got 300K out of it, and saved it in the bank. He gets 10K in interest every year. What was 10K RMB back then? We still the word “Wan Yuan Hu” [万元户—someone with 10,000 RMB. Like “millionaire” or “billionaire”, but in this case, it’s “ten-thousand-aire.] It’s like the equivalent now of making a million RMB a year. At the time, he wanted to pass those savings to his children. He thought he was set for life. And where is he now?
If you thin that saving money is profitable, that means that all those big organisations that provide interest to you—like banks—are all losing money. Do you think banks are losing money, or are you losing money?” The article goes on to write about how real estate is tied to the economy.
Comments say, “It sound smart, but it’s missing a lot of stuff too. Like, for example, if China starts charging property tax, even taxing property progressively, then all the income you’re depending on is still nothing more than an illusion. And if you want to sell it then, you wouldn’t be able to get half of what you put in back.”
“Lol, a bunch of hobos laughing at someone with five houses. His point of view is pretty clear—inflation. Money is only going to be worth less money, but housing is only going to be worth more money.”
“I don’t know about whether housing prices will fall, but it’s just a matter of time for there to be property tax. If it was me, I’d keep one property to live at, one property to rent, and sell the other three for gold.”
Stalkers are the worst. Restraining orders are difficult to enforce and you can't prosecute someone for "creepy" behavior. And of course, once they escalate, it's often too late for the victim. Ugh. At least we have robust self-defense laws in most of the US. From your posts I don't think things would be as simple for chinese women. (As an aside, are things like tasers and pepper spray legal? Or would using them be classified as assault?)