08/10/23 - Anyone who doesn’t exclusively eat 10 RMB bentos by the side of the road is a gold digger.
“My boyfriend says I have a weird sense of beauty. I just think he has really pretty hands. Take a look and tell me if I’m a weirdo?”
Comments say, “I’m pretty sure pig feet that haven’t had their hair removed cleanly look exactly like this.”
“Well…you…um…whatever, what do you want to eat for lunch?”
“Yeah, I guess they’re pretty. He’s got all five fingers, and they’re all where they’re supposed to be.”
“Lol, what a great summary I just saw from an internet commenter. Gold diggers back in the day: houses, cars. Gold diggers now: iPhones, cherries, durians, boba tea, and hotdogs.”
Comments say, “Don’t forget getting your nails done and eating Angus beef burgers.”
“Most importantly, you’re still only spending your own money.”
“Men be all like anyone who doesn’t exclusively eat 10 RMB bentos by the side of the road is a gold digger.”
“I’ve had two babies. My oldest was when I was 24-years-old. It was a vaginal delivery that turned into a C-section. God, giving birth was exhausting. I got myself a KFC bucket and soft serve that very day and ate it all by myself. It was so tasty.”
“Leaving the hospital, the doctor told me that I can wash my hair three days after going home, and shower my body in 7 days after my wound heals. I need to stay clean. I can’t not shower or wash my hair for a whole month. I’m breastfeeding after all—being dirty is bad for the baby too. I showered pretty much every day. Ten days after getting out of the hospital, I went out shopping with my husband. Watched three movies while sitting the month. Didn’t wear anything on my head while going outside. Does it sound like I’m being suicidal?
I gave birth to my second kid at 28 years old, stayed at a month-sitting centre, and sat the month the same way I did the first time. I sweated a lot after giving birth, and that can really promote bacteria growth. I couldn’t take long showers because I was too weak. I kept myself warm. I blew my hair dry after washing it. Not only did I not have any hair loss after showering, but showering frequently can actually prevent hair loss. The reason you have hair loss is because of hormonal imbalance after giving birth, causing you to produce too much oils which block your follicles.
I’ve never had these supposed “month-sitting illnesses”. I’ve always been the healthiest woman in my friend circle. I can carry a barrel of water for the office water dispenser in one hand. Does it sound like I basically didn’t sit the month at all?
No, that’s not the case. Within 100 days of giving birth, aside from breastfeeding, I never held the baby. Even when I played with the baby, I did it while laying down, or while they were in daddy’s arms. After I learned how to breastfeed laying down, I never breastfed while holding them. I didn’t do any housework. I was basically one step away from having my husband spoon feed me. I waited a year after giving birth before I ran or jumped. I never dieted, and just ate whatever what nutritious. I only started exercising again after 18 months. Same with the second baby.
From my own experience, it’s not really so important what you eat while sitting the month. The important thing is not to tire yourself out. It’s not just the first month either. For several months afterwards, you need to rest well too. Think about it—you were carrying a baby for nine months. Your body has been preparing for the better part of a year to give birth. Do you really think you can totally recover within one month? That’s impossible. Eat what you want, when you want. Just watch your portion sizes. You can turn on the air conditioning. You can go outside. You can shower. You can brush your teeth. But you need to rest! (You can move around as normal, don’t lie completely still.)
Don’t exhaust yourself. Exhaustion is the basis of all the month-sitting illnesses. The wrong breastfeeding posture can cause your muscles to get overworked and hurt. Holding the baby for a long time can cause joint pain. Exhaustion is always hard on your body. Remember to supplement calcium while breastfeeding. New mommies are frequently low on calcium. Taking calcium supplements can really help with joint pain too. If you’ve always been weak even before you got pregnant, then it’s even more important to rest while sitting the month. Giving birth is just like getting ill. People with a strong immune system can get better right away. People with a weak immune system can really screw themselves up if they don’t rest well.
I’m not saying that you don’t need to sit the month at all, but you can do it in a modern, comfortable way. If you feel like the way you sat the month worked for you, you don’t need to tell me I’m misdirecting other people. I’m just sharing my experience. All the mommies need to choose for themselves.”
A lady in Shandong spent 12,888 RMB on a year’s worth of buffet food at a five star hotel. It’s very close to her workplace, so she’s been stuffing herself on fish and shrimp every day. After she eats there every day three meals a day, it works out to only 35 RMB per meal. Comments say, “I’m so afraid the hotel’s gonna change owners half way through and your membership card won’t work anymore.”
Comments say, “35 RMB a day? Do you work 365 days a year?”
“I wouldn’t take it if it was free—I don’t even want to think about how gross and dirty hotel food is.”
“Is she not afraid of high cholesterol eating like this for a whole year?”
After continuous rainstorms, Jilin Province’s Shulan City is still being reconstructed after flooding. Many companies have reached out a helping hand, donating money and resources to help with the reconstruction. The Meters/bonwe group donated 3 million RMB’s worth of resources, attracting a lot of controversy on the internet. In reality, as a famous Chinese fast fashion brand, Meters/bonwe has been taking a loss for several years in a row now, and have been selling off their real estate holdings in remain afloat. They have only went back to making a profit for one season this year. The company is in bad shape. It doesn’t matter whether they donated a lot or a little, the action of donating in the face of a major disaster in and of itself should be the focus of our attention, as an act of showing social responsibility.
Comments say, “I’ve always liked Meters/bonwe stuff. Their quality isn’t half bad. I hope they can stay alive.”
“I used to be so jealous of any classmate that could afford Meters/bonwe clothes when I was little.”
“This is a true Chinese brand—they really care about the people.”
A blogger reposts someone’s posts on instagram, saying, “This is what a true wish fulfilment power fantasy looks like.”
The instagram post reads, “I filmed this video on the 30th of August 2022. My ex-boyfriend was studying for his civil servant exams and didn’t have any time to spend with me, and afterwards, he ghosted me and disappeared. I had nothing to do with my life, so I spent all day drinking and being depressed. Just to distract myself, and to see for myself whether preparing for the civil servant exams really keeps you so busy that you can’t spare a moment for your girlfriend, I started preparing for it too. And then I accidentally passed the exams and got hired.”
In the comments, OP says, “He didn’t make it hahahahahaha. And just as a reminder to everyone, there’s no such thing as anyone being too busy to reply to you. Not in this day and age where people hardly ever let go of their phones. If he wanted to reply to you, he would’ve a long time ago. No matter how busy I got preparing for the exams, I could always squeeze out a little time to talk to my friends or go out with them. If he’s not responding to you, it’s because he doesn’t like you anymore. He’s just using being busy as an excuse.”
Comments say, “In every case of a breakup I’ve seen that was during civil servant exams or Master’s Degree exams, the girl always passes in the end. I’ve seen to many examples around me.”
“My ex was preparing for his Master’s Degree, and would only video chat me for five minutes a day, and he yelled at me all the time. I just wanted to see if it really was that stressful or not, so as soon as I graduated, I passed the exam and got a government job right away. He took the exam three times and failed three times.”
“After we both took our Master’s Degree exams, my ex asked me how I felt. I said I didn’t know. He said he thought it was pretty easy. Within a week, he broke up with me. And in the end, I made it and he didn’t :P”
A lawyer writes, “The difference between a judge and a lawyer is that judges are always so low-key, and lawyers are a lot more high-key. I was eating with my judge friend, and noticed she was wearing a Van Cleef & Arpel necklace (her husband bought it for her), and I asked her about it.
Me: “Do you wear that while working too?”
Judge: “I wear it when I’m in the office, or eating in the cafeteria or going to a meeting or something. If I’m actually in court, then I take it off.”
Me: “I wear my necklace that’s a couple thousand RMB everywhere. What a pain it must be for you to be putting it on and taking it off all the time. Why don’t we swap? It’ll be a lot less hassle for you.”
Judge: “[Eye roll emoji]””
Comments say, “That is fraud, you know. That is a crime.”
“How very kind of you XD”
“How much does that Van Cleef necklace cost?” OP replies here, “A little over 20K XD.”
“A PSA about the double standards of marital laws:
If a man discovers that his children aren’t actually his biologically, he can sue for emotional damages and make the woman return his child support payments. Because men’s suffering is real suffering. They are actually hurt by being betrayed and lied to. They deserve money to comfort them.
Men’s extramarital children have equal rights to child support payments and inheritance. And due to women’s biology, it’s very hard for women to have secret extramarital children. So although the laws about extramarital children look fair, in reality, it only damages the wife and the legitimate children’s legal rights. It’s making them pay for a man who can’t control his dick.
If women find that men have extramarital bastards, she cannot sue for emotional damages or having her child support payments returned. Women’s suffering isn’t real suffering. They don’t deserve anything.
People who are cheated on cannot sue for emotional damages. And it is usually women who are cheated on. Women aren’t actually hurt by being betrayed and lied to. They don’t deserve anything.
I’m going to emphasis this again, to warn all idiot women out there desiring marriage—marital laws are written by men. Its purpose is to ensure men maximally profit from their marriage and pass on their bloodline. It’s not going to help you protect yourself. It’s not going to improve your financial state. It’s not going to give you a fairytale life.”
Comments say, “Wow, the double standards are so obvious. Men can have bastards, and they don’t have to pay their wives any money, and their bastards can legally split away their mutual assets with their wife. But the wife’s bastards can’t split marital assets and she has to pay her husband money…when the marital laws are this obvious about it, women really need to stay alert and be wary of marriage.”
“If the man is sterile and they purchase sperm to have children, he’ll still get custody after a divorce. The woman is basically just a free surrogate.”
“Is this not exactly the concubine system from Dynastic China? The patriarchy has never changed.”
“Wow. If men discover their kids aren’t theirs, they can get pay outs. But if women find the man has bastards, she has to pay the bastard child support.”