[Thanks everyone for your support! I will definitely keep going <3]
People’s Daily News is getting prepared to air the latest news about Typhoon Doksuri. The Central Meteorology Station has been issuing red alerts since 6AM this morning. Doksuri is expected to make landfall between Xiamen and Hui’an, bringing with it strong or extra strong winds up to 48-55 metres per hour. Xiamen Meterological Station is issuing “Level 1 Typhoon Warnings and Level 1 Rainstorm Warnings.
Comments say, “Hopefully, no one gets hurt.”
“It’s starting to rain now. Not much wind yet. Hope it won’t affect anything.”
“It’s here. Quanzhou’s having a tremendous downpour, and a lot of wind.”
A blogger posts screenshots of an expert’s interview, saying, “This guy has a great take.”
The expert, a researcher at Fudan University’s Population and Development Policy Research Centre, says, “Some people say young people these days don’t like to get married or have children. That’s not understanding young people today. They have a different concept of success. In the past, when girls grow up, whether they can get married is a crucial question. After they’re married, whether they can have kids is crucial. Whether the kid they give birth to is a boy is crucial too. If you succeed at all three, you’re set for life. But nowadays, girls know that the most important part of their life is their career, their ability. If they can’t guarantee that, then they can’t guarantee their marriage or their children either. So they care more and more about their career, and so they can’t put themselves in the shoes of a good wife and mother.
If we’re going to encourage people to marry and have kids, the first thing we need to protect is the employment of women everywhere. If their career is going better and better, then she’ll naturally be more enthusiastic about marriage and children.”
Comments say, “He’s still being too polite. Women used to get the shit end of the stick. They have to give birth, raise kids, work, and serve men, serve women, serve elders, and they have to produce boys.”
“Full-time mothers, or married women of birthing age, can’t find jobs and don’t have income and have no protecting—that is the biggest joke of the 21st century, aside from “shared areas”.”
“It’s so rare to see an expert who knows what he’s talking about. This is exactly the source of insecurity for women. If you know that marrying and having kids are going to bring damaging factors into your life, most normal people would go about avoiding it, right? Why would you throw yourself into it? Most people work hard half their lives for the sake of having a relatively safe, peaceful, and comfortable lifestyle. Once you marry and have kids, you lose your job, you lose your livelihood, and you’ll probably end up worse than before. So why take on the risk?”
A lawyer writes, “Today, let’s talk about the hashtag #taking out a loan to pay a down payment on a house before marrying or even paying in full. People have asked me about this before, that their boyfriend got an interest-free loan from a family member to pay for a house in full. That way, they don’t have to deal with interest payments on a bank mortgage. This sort of strategy seemingly saves you interest, but it’s very risky for the other party involved.
If the house is under the purchaser’s name
From the point of view of evidence, so long as the purchaser produces the purchase contract and the record of ownership of the house, as well as proof of a transfer to the seller of the house, that’s enough to prove that the house was bought before marriage, and paid off in full. After you’ve been married for many years, and the purchaser used his own income to pay off the loan, then he can divorce you after another 3 years. The court isn’t going to look through all the documents for your entire marriage if it’s been that long, so they’ll only look at financial documents the year leading up to the divorce. They can’t see any payments. You, as the wife, can’t prove that mutual income was used to pay back the loan. Or, maybe, you as the wife don’t even know which account made the payments to the lender, so you can’t show proof either way.
The result is obvious—the house is considered premarital personal property.
This sort of personal loan is fundamentally the same as a bank loan. It’s still paid back using your mutual property. The difference is, at least with a bank, there would be a record of payments every month, there would be proof of a loan existing, there would be proof that there was a mortgage on this house. When it comes time to divorce, the judge would obviously order the bank to provide proof of mortgage payments, which would be used to track how much you’ve both paid back on the mortgage and interest. And so you can’t possibly lose out on your rights to this property.
If you have to get a private loan to buy a house, you can negotiate to put the house under both your names (or even write out what portion of the house each party owns based on loan payments), and then write a contract that pre-marital debt will be paid by both parties.
2. The house is under both of your names, or even just under your name
That’s a more complicated situation. You’d have to see why it has both your names on it, whether it was a gift, or a shared marital house for the purpose of marriage, or you’re acting just as a holding party. You’d have to look into whether parents paid any money towards it, whether you’re actually married, or whether the wedding got called off.
Either way, it’s always good to have a written contract clarifying things. If you really don’t want a contract, then you need to hire a lawyer to analyse your context specifically.”
Comments say, “What if the man’s family pays off the downpayment before marriage, puts it under his mom’s name, and wants the woman to pay back the rest of the loan with him after marriage?”
“My husband bought his house before we married. It’s only under his name. His parents paid the downpayment and are paying off his mortgage for him every month. He hasn’t paid a dime towards it. If he divorces me, and his parents insist that all of this money was a loan, would I have to pay it back?”
“I started the trend of single girls buying their own houses at my workplace. After me, all of the girls who came to work just after graduation bought their own house in the second or third year they’ve worked here.”
A tiktok video of a mother getting furious while helping her child with homework, and slaps the kid a dozen times. She’s yelling, “What you wrote—this summary—is completely wrong! What the fuck did you write? Change it! The fuck are you doing!? Stop it, will you!? Sit up straight! Sit up! Sit straight! Sit! Sit and change it!”
I don’t think I’ll post it, because I’m not sure it’s okay to post videos of straight up physical child abuse.
Comments say, “Oh my god, I’m begging people, if you can’t control your emotions, then don’t have kids. I’ve went through it, it’s fucking terrible.”
“If you feel like you’re having an emotional meltdown, just remove yourself from the situation, do something that makes you happy, and come back once you’ve calmed down.”
“I’ve doubted people like her. I’ve understood people like her. I’ve become people like her.”
“I totally understand where this mom is coming from.”
Under the hashtag #48 year old man stabs sleeping fiancee to death over bride price, a blogger writes, “Based on the information revealed in the news, they’ve both had previous failed marriage. The crux of the conflict is “bride price”. Obviously, the woman wanted a lot, and the man couldn’t afford it, causing them to both abandon any pretense of civility with each other.
As for exactly what astronomical number the woman named for her bride price, no one will say. But using bride price to turn marriage into a transaction is fundamentally wrong. It should be obvious if you look at how we’re the only nation on Earth to do this. Bride price should’ve been eliminated ages ago. If it’s a transaction, then prices should be open and clear. If it’s love, then don’t soil it with money. Who wouldn’t get mad at a woman who wanted to be a whore, but have a chastity monument too? Do poor people not deserve to have families?
There’s not enough information in the news story, so I’ll hold back on saying more until we know more about the event. After all, some people get what they deserve when they go too far.”
Comments say, “Really? We’re the only country on Earth that does this?”
“When you deny poor people their right to reproduce, never forget that poor people can deny your right to live. We’ve both got one head.”
“Every time there’s a female victim of a crime, the comment section is full of feminazis.”
“Really? Second-hand is so expensive too nowadays?”
“Question of the day: You travel back in time into the body of the Crown Prince’s wife. You brainwash the Crown Prince until he swears that he’ll only marry you his whole life [that is, no concubines and such]. The Queen feels like you’re a danger to her son, so while he’s away, she brings poisoned wine and has two strong maids hold you down and force it down your throat. What do you do?”
Comments say, “Brainwash the poisoned wine, make it swear that it’ll only not poison you its whole life.”
“Keep the poisoned wine in my mouth, struggle free of the maids, and kiss the Queen.”
“What poison could possibly be more venomous than my mouth?”
A compilation of comments under a tiktok video about how polar bears are running out of space to live in with the melting ice caps.
“At over 30K per square metre, I’m running out of space to live in too.”
“I can reduce energy my whole life and not save as much as what one private jet trip produces.”
“I can save water my whole life and not save as much as what a golf course uses to water its field in one day.”
“Xiao Ming lived 80m away from the Children’s Palace, but it took me thirty years to walk there.”
“Before: I’m so sorry for being human. Now: The hell does this have to do with me? I haven’t done shit.”
“And those PSAs about shark fin, I was so confused when I was a little kid. Now, I’ve discovered that I’ll never be able to afford it in my life. Who were those PSAs even targeted towards?”
“The Kardashian family uses as much water in a year as I’ll use in my lifetime.”
“Lol. When I was a little kid, I’ve eaten shark fin. My mom made me shark fin soup. Once I saw the PSA about shark fin, I cried for a long time by myself and swore off of shark fin. Then, I grew up and found out that all the shark fin I’ve eaten were fake, because nobody sells shark fin for 10 RMB for 3 pounds.”
“Cool Fact: If you’ve eaten expensive Japanese omakase, the water the chef uses to wash his hand between courses is enough for a family of three for a whole day.”
“If you think the arctic isn’t good enough, then go help it grow, don’t stay here and complain.” [A common line whenever someone from outside of China complains about China—if you think China isn’t good enough, then go back and and help it grow, don’t stay here (overseas) and complain.”]
Comments say, “Refuse per capita sin.”
“That’s where the upper class get their resources from. That’s why the bottom class has it so hard.”
“I just want to live my life. I don’t want to be taken hostage by environmentalism. Stop preaching to me about keeping the AC off when I already work in 36C heat. Go talk to Katar about shutting off their outdoor ACs. Environmentalists only know how to bully the weak.”
“A lot of people think that if children took their parents’ money, then they need to accept their parents’ control over their life. Let me tell you a story of how German parents give their kids money. I’ve got an employee in my company who’s a single child, over 50 years old, with two grown children. In order to dodge taxes, his mom transferred her house to him, then used the excuse of “rent” to give him money every month.
They’re doing this to avoid tax. His mom just wanted to use every excuse on the book to get her property to him without paying tax on it. German parents are determined to overcome every obstacle to make sure their money ends up in their kids’ hands. The most important thing is, they never interfere in their kids’ personal lives, and they don’t expect their children to take care of them in their old age. They’ve bought insurance for themselves, and saved up for their own retirement.
Both the parents and the children are super chill. They never resent each other at all. The way Germans think of it is, “I’ve enjoyed the money and love of the generation before me, and I was able to live freely as myself. So I should give the wealth I’ve created to the next generation, so they can live freely for themselves.”
Because every generation takes over the money and love from the generation before them without any pressure, any attempt at being taken hostage, they’re very willing to pass it onto the next generation themselves. I think this is exactly what China lacks. We’ve never gotten anything with no strings attached from the previous generation, so when we give anything to the next generation, it comes with all kinds of control and demands too.”
Comments say, “Most people don’t know how to love children, or love their parents. They only understand one word, and that’s Filial Piety.”
“There are plenty of people who want to control their kids without giving them a cent too.”
“Because over here, children are an investment, they’re an IRA account, they’re retirement insurance. They’re not human beings. The purpose was different to start with. There’s no point in comparing the two.”
> I will definitely keep going <3
Yaay! :)