“I want to get in touch with some divorce lawyers. I’m a new mom, 6 days post delivery. I’m really going to get depressed. It’s super hot in my house. The baby’s so hot, she’s growing hives all over her. I’m so hot, I’m frustrated all the time and have no appetite. We’ve got no AC at home. I want to install an AC, but my MIL says it’s a waste of electricity. The second day after coming home from the hospital, both me and the baby were sweating to death. When he saw the hives all over our baby, my husband spent 240 RMB on a fan, second-hand off of the internet.
I’ve still got no appetite all day. My MIL says I’m acting like a special snowflake. She makes porridge for breakfast. And if I don’t finish all of it, she’ll throw it into the fridge and reheat it for lunch. I’ve got no mom. I’m living with my in-laws after marriage. My husband’s from Hegang in Heilongjiang, but they’ve been living in Changchun for a decade. They’ve got a two-bedroom unit fully paid off. I sleep in the Master bedroom with my husband.
I work in Changchun, and was still renting at 29 years old because I wasn’t married yet. I thought I’d marry early and finally have a home, and met my husband through introductions. And now, I feel like this isn’t the life I wanted. I had 100K in savings when I got married. Got 50K in bride price, and 50K in dowry from my dad. I want to spend my own money on an AC, and my MIL won’t let me, because it’ll raise our electricity bill. And she says I can’t use AC while sitting the month anyways.
My husband wants me to put both the bride price and dowry in a bank account under his name. I didn’t agree to it. I told him I wanted to order an AC on the internet, and he told me that if my MIL says not to, then I shouldn’t. That I’m too young and inexperienced to be in charge of the household. I’m honestly so mad. I’ve been crying all night. I told him in the morning that as soon as I’m done sitting the month, I’m going to get a divorce. He said that if we divorce, I have to give him back his bride price. That I was insane. Told me I don’t do anything all day except pick everyone else apart.
I’m honestly so mad right now that I’m getting milk backflow. Am I really being unreasonable?”
Comments say, “You’re at a particularly vulnerable stage right now. Focus on taking care of yourself. You’ve got plenty of time for revenge later.”
“Dude, just book yourself a hotel for 3 weeks. Don’t put up with that shit.”
A woman named Xie in Sichuan is exposing her husband on social media for beating her 16 times in two years of their marriage, causing a lot of controversy. She claims that the abuse started 2 months after marriage, when she got pregnant. The incidents add up over the last two years to be 15 or 16 times. She’s tried to bring up divorce, but he won’t agree to it. The last time she was beaten, it was because he discovered the paperwork she’d put together to submit an appeal for divorce to the courts and apply for a protective order. He dragged her to a hotel and beat her into the ICU. She attaches photos of her injuries. The police are investigating this case now.
Comments say, “This isn’t domestic violence. This is attempted murder.”
“Marriage laws are literally killing people.”
“She called the police literally after every incident, and what has happened?”
Someone’s reposted the compilation of jobs people will never do again even if they’re going to starve to death. I won’t repeat it here though.
A person posts seeking advice. “Back in 2021, my mom wanted to buy a second-hand house in Guangdong while housing prices were super low. But at the time, my brother said he didn’t want her to put his name on it, because he wants to use his first-house discount to buy houses in other suburbs of Guangdong with his girlfriend. So my mom came to me and said that since my brother doesn’t want it, she wants to put my name on it, since houses are so cheap right now. When my brother wants a house later, she’ll come up with something later. I explained what I could contribute to my mom and Guangdong’s rules on first house discounts, and put my name on it, spent my first-house discount on it, did a 30% down payment. My mom said everything was fine at the time. After we bought it, my mom and I both pay back the mortgage on it, while we rent it out.
Now my brother’s getting married, and my mom’s brought up several times that she wants to use this house as his marital house, for him and his wife to live in. Then she says maybe we should sell the house, and give the money to my brother to buy his own house with. Or that I should move the house under his name, and he and his wife will pay back the mortgage on it. The first time she brought this up, she didn’t mention at all how I put my own money in, spent my first house discount on it, and whether or not I get paid back for the down payment. My mom just kept insisting that she paid for it, she gets to decide what to do with it. And that if I wasn’t going to get married, then I don’t need a house.
Right now, I’ve brought up in argument every time that I have been paying back the mortgage, it’s taken up my first house discount, and I’ve cried to my mom about her favouritism and unfairness towards me. But she still hasn’t given up making me do what she wants. I haven’t even owned this house for two years yet. If I put it under my brother’s name or sell it, do I need to pay off the mortgage first? If I really give it to my brother, how do I get back the money I’ve spent on it, and the fact that I can’t use my first-house discount anymore?
It’s true family means nothing in front of profit. I only found out today that I’m just a tool in a sexist family. I feel like an orphan. Like there’s nowhere I belong. Like I don’t have family.”
The lawyer reblogging this writes, “From a legal point of view, this house belongs to you. Even if your mother claims that the money she put in is a loan, she doesn’t have sufficient evidence for it. Given your relationship as mother and daughter, I find it unlikely a court is going to rule in her favour. And even if they did, at most, they would make you pay her back for the money she put in.
You do have to make a choice between money and family, though. If you choose family, you can discuss how much you’re willing to sell the house for to your brother. If you want to put the house under someone else’s name, you do have to pay back your mortgage first. But I think some banks will allow you to transfer ownership with a mortgage on the property. You’d have to ask your bank for the specifics.
If you choose money and just refuse to hand the house over, there’s nothing your mother can do. She can sue you, but she’s very unlikely to win.”
Comments say, “They were planning from the start to take advantage of your first house discount. They just never thought you actually had a backbone. No matter what you choose, don’t feel held back by your morality. They’re the ones who abandoned family relationships for money first.”
“If your name is on the title, there’s not shit they can do if you just refuse.”
“I mean, you can tell how things are gonna turn out just based on the shit they’ve already done. If you bring up wanting recompense, they’ll agree for the moment, trick you into transferring the house first, and then just drag it out. Say they don’t have money on hand at the moment. They’ll pay you back once they’ve got money. But either way, you’re not getting a cent out of them.”
“Seems like for the latter half of this year, childhood vaccines are gonna reach an all time high. From the routine vaccine schedule we always had, to now the HPV vaccine which used to have nothing to do with children. Did you notice? Aside from the trending word “cancer”, the earlier half of this year has been entirely occupied by the word “rabies”. All of this only has one purpose—to get shots into your body.
People say that rabies has always been a thing. And rabies has a great name (in Chinese) — 狂犬病 (literally “mad dog disease”). It’s great for that word—mad. Isn’t that some scary shit? It’s just like tuberculosis. It’s just a myth. But aren’t you scared? You’d better go get that shot. And that’s how they get you.
The entire field of virology and vaccines was started by a guy named Louis Pasteur, who claims he both discovered “rabies” and invented the rabies vaccine. And from that moment on, the whole world started discovering all kinds of viruses and vaccines as a profitable business venture. And even man’s best friend, dogs, have become experimental subjects and the targets of mass slaughter. Louis Pasteur has been honoured as one of the Titans of microbiology. The Pasteur Institute that he founded is still an elite and respected organisation in the field of microbiology and vaccine studies. This person is a Catholic.
The other Titan in microbiology is Robert Koch, who’s also a giant fraud. He invented tuberculin, the supposed tuberculosis cure. This drug has killed tons of people, but is still viewed favourably today. The Robert Koch Institute that he founded is still an elite and respected organisation in the field of infectious diseases.
Who’s ever actually seen a tuberculosis patient? Is it actually contagious at all?
Does rabies actually cause madness? No. Your nervous system is getting damaged by the vaccines.”
Comments ask, “Did you completely avoid all human education? Or is this some kind of high level satire that I’m not getting?”
“I’ve been telling everyone around me not to get the HPV vaccine.”
“I don’t want my kid to get vaccines, but I hear you can’t go to school if you don’t.”
“I went to visit my friend and her baby this afternoon. It’s a familiar yet strange feeling holding a 2-month-old baby. The mother said that this baby wakes up every time she’s put down. I said I’ll try, and I successfully put her down without her waking up.
Now I’ve got a brand new feeling. Or maybe it’s just a hallucination. Like, if you want to successfully put down a sleeping baby, the key is to not be afraid. If you’re not afraid, then the whole process of you putting the baby to sleep and putting her down, you’re relaxed. Your body and movements are relaxed.
I mean, worst case scenario, you just pick her back up again. Not like there’s any cost to trying. If she successfully lays down, when is she gonna wake up? Even if it’s just in another five minutes, I’ve still got five minutes free.
Obviously, there’s still some technique after you’re done putting the baby down. For example, after you put the baby down, don’t get up right away. If the baby is whining or looks like she’s going to wake up—don’t pick her back up right away. Gently lay your body on top of her, hold her arms in your hand, make the baby feel like she’s still nestled up to body heat and is being pressed in. Then she’ll fall back asleep. You can try making shushing noises with your mouth too, to make sure that the baby is too busy paying attention to too many things to react, and have to keep sleeping.
I hope every baby has enough people taking care of them. Then maybe their sleeping needs won’t be seen as a problem that needs to be corrected.”
A Chinese movie adapted from a true story has aired in theatres lately, and many people are recalling the case it was based on, when a pregnant lady fell off a cliff in Thailand. She was 3.5 months pregnant when she went hiking with her husband in Thailand, and was pushed off a 34-metre tall cliff by him. After three rounds of trials, her husband was has been sentenced to 33 years and 4 months.
She’s watched the movie recently and remembered her despair while laying at the bottom of the cliff, and hopes that young people stay sharp when choosing a partner, and find actual happiness.
Comments say, “Lol, the years he’s been sentenced to isn’t even as high as the cliff she fell off of.”
“Some rural village girls can get on the internet now, but they haven’t gotten any smarter. They’re posting about how their brother can’t get a wife. How their parents were forced to build a house and buy a car. How their parents cried the whole way through the wedding. How their new SIL said that their dad has to keep making money while their mom has to watch her babies.
If you know, you’d know they were seeing their son get married today. If you didn’t know, you’d think they were putting up decorations and setting off fireworks to celebrate selling their whole family into slavery.
Lol.
Your parents work their whole lives and put themselves through everything under the sun to earn assets for your brother. They are crying and screaming and yet insisting on your brother being married. Can you guess why? There are hardly any girls left in the Chinese countryside. It’s harder every year to find a wife. There are chronically single men everywhere. Can you guess why?
You really think your SIL is taking advantage of your family? That house and that car are your brother’s. They’ve got nothing to do with her. And they’ve got nothing to do with you.
Their baby has your brother’s surname, right? Then your mom is supposed to take care of the baby for her. Don’t spout off bullshit about how the kid is the parents’. She went through the trouble of being pregnant and birthing a baby for [Insert Surname]’s family, then it’s up to your family to take care of her. I’ve never heard of anyone putting together a whole scientific paper just to let you put your name on it. What, you want to not have to contribute anything and just reap all the benefits?
Before you start feeling bad for your parents and feeling like your SIL is sucking their blood, ask yourself. Whose name is on that new house and new car? Ask yourself, why does your brother insist on being married despite all these unreasonable demands from his new wife and how much he’s getting screwed? Then, finally, think hard to yourself, now that your brother has a car and a house and a wife, what do you have?
Just a monument praising you for being like a mother to him?”
This makes me wonder, what was the attitude in China towards COVID vaccines? Cursory online search shows there's 7 Chinese vaccines out there, all traditional stuff like inactive virus or subunit. Plus, Pfizer is trying to get it's mRNA vaccine approved. Did people resist vaccination there for any of the same reasons as here? Or any other reasons? Does Pfizer's mRNA stand a chance there?
Typos:
"everything under the son" should be "everything under the sun"
"That house and that car are your brothers" should be "That house and that car are your brother's"