06/12/23 - If you don’t breastfeed, how’s that different from just slowly killing your baby?
“Would you forgive someone who hurt you in the past? I’ve seen a set of MIL and DILs before, where the DIL had massive bleeding while delivery her baby, and desperately needed money to save her life. Her husband wasn’t around, only her MIL was. The MIL wasn’t super wealthy, but she certainly didn’t lack money either. But she waited until the baby was born, picked the baby up, and left the DIL to die. The DIL got lucky, managed to make it through a whole day, until her husband got to the hospital and paid and saved her life.
Later, the MIL got old and wanted to retire in the DIL’s house. The DIL wouldn’t agree to it, so the MIL threw a fit about how she wasn’t filially pious. A lot of people were trying to talk the DIL into it, including the husband.
Some people say, “But it turned out alright in the end, right? Stop obsessing over the past.”
Some people say, “She’s learned her lesson already, and she’s so pitiful. You’re family after all—don’t make too huge of a deal out of it.”
And some people say, “Don’t put your husband in this situation. You still have to spend the rest of your life with him. Don’t ruin your relationship.”
But the DIL wouldn’t budge, she never forgave. So more and more people began accusing her. Her husband got mad too, said that he was a son, he had to take care of his mother.
The DIL said, “You can take care of your mom. I can’t stop you. Just get a divorce with me. Once we’re divorced, you can take care of her however much you want.”
And that’s when the husband shut up.
Honestly, when I saw these supposed “relationship experts” trying to talk the DIL down, I was super angry. It was easy for them to say! She was trying to kill her DIL! How can you ask someone to forgive a person who literally wanted them dead?
In modern society, there are always people who try to stand on a moral high point, and persuade others to be kind, to be generous, to forgive people who’ve hurt them, like all wrongs can be forgiven and forgotten.
Only people who’ve actually been hurt know how many nights they’ve spent crying themselves to sleep. How many times they’ve had a lump in their chest that’s painful to breathe around. How much strength it took to struggle step by step out of that trauma and survive to this day. Some victims bow to social pressure and choose forgiveness, and have to put up with continued hurt by constantly having to deal with the one who hurt them.
Some refuse to be coerced and insist on never forgiving. And people others consider them petty, but at least they don’t have to put up with shit.
If you haven’t been through what they’ve been through, don’t demand others forgive. That’s up to the people in question. As an outsider, just stick to watching, don’t comment, don’t persuade, don’t get involved. That’s the best course of action.
I hope all bad behaviour will be punished, and all victims will be treated kindly by time.”
Comments agree, “If that happened to me, I’d never take care of such an evil MIL either.”
“Just because they’ve admitted to their mistake doesn’t mean they deserve to be forgiven. Just because they’ve been forgiven doesn’t mean they can act like nothing happened.”
“I mean, I got lucky and survived. Now it’s your turn. Let’s see how good your luck is.”
A Singaporean-born American standup comedian Jocelyn Chia has gotten into trouble with Malaysia for making a joke in America about flight MH370. Hundreds of Malaysian youth have been protesting at the American embassy in Malaysia, and the American ambassador has had to personally attempt to quell the incident. Currently, Jocelyn has still refused to apologise, but her twitter and instagram accounts have been banned.
Comments say, “She’d never dare to make a joke about 9/11.”
“You’d need at least ten years of stroke before you can say something like this.”
“This is why everything needs a bottom line.”
“The worst thing I heard since having my baby came from a doctor! After I gave birth, I was feeling great. It was super chill after I got into the Month-Sitting Centre. And since I didn’t breastfeed, I just spend my days eating five meals a day and taking naps in between.
That’s until this morning, when a male paediatrician came in to check on the baby, and found out I wasn’t breastfeeding. He asked why. And I said it’s because breastfeeding hurts a lot, so I didn’t want to feed. And there were a lot of other reasons too.
He said, “If you weren’t gonna breastfeed, why would you even have her?”
I was like ??? and immediately argued back, “What, the purpose to having a baby is just to breastfeed?”
And he didn’t say anything.
I honestly couldn’t believed that a doctor would say such a thing, and he’s ruined my mood for the whole day. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong by not breasteeding, but it’s super upsetting.”
Comments say, “The doctor wasn’t wrong, he just expressed himself wrong. His words are blunt, but his reasoning isn’t.”
“If you don’t breastfeed, how’s that different from just slowly killing your baby? If you want the baby to die, why bother giving birth to her?”
“I was worried I wouldn’t have enough milk for my baby, and took some formula to the hospital with me, and the nurses literally got mad and threatened to confiscate it T_T”
Under the trending topic #my MIL’s attitude towards me when she wants a second baby, someone writes, “My mom told my wife, “You’ve got to have another kid. If you don’t, this poor baby won’t even have any relatives growing up. So long as you have the kid, I’ll raise it for you.”
But after the baby was actually born, my mom disappeared. She said, “You had the baby, you’ve got to take responsibility. If you can give birth to it, you can raise it.” Then she said, “I’m busy working the fields. I’ve got no time.”
That’s a MIL for you. I’m her son. So sometimes, MIL really are just throwing stuff out there. And different people in different environments are gonna have different thoughts. MILs and DILs are going to think differently.
I ponder sometimes how to ensure MILs and DILs can get along. There are so many good MILs with terrible DILs, or good DILs with evil MILs. There are such few cases where both parties are reasonable. But without the MIL, how many normal average families can afford a nanny? So I think you really have to think hard before committing to a second kid, because it’s honestly exhausting.
Thankfully, our apartment building has a little old lady who is super nice. She’s taking care of her own two grandchildren. She said, “Young people are busy all the time. What’s important to your life right now is work. We’re old, we’ve got nothing to do all day. Taking care of the baby for you is how we can help out.””
The girl who exposed a guy on the subway despite him not taking photos of her has been fired from her internship at Tencent.
Comments say, “Who cares about Tencent anymore. She’s already applied to the British embassy. She’s lining up for a career writing hit pieces on China from overseas.”
“We’ll just see what Sichuan University does next.”
“@Britich Embassy in China Hey, your spy’s exposed herself. She needs to be extracted ASAP.”
A tiktok video of a little girl taking care of her baby brother. “Her dream of playing house became reality. Ever since the baby showed up, she hasn’t touched her barbie dolls anymore.”
Comments ask, “Are you fucking serious?”
“She’s just a free nanny.”
“Sure, the sister can volunteer to do this. But are we really okay with the parents here both being total deadbeats? She’s just a little kid herself.”
“The more practiced she is, the more useless her parents are proven to be.”
A finance blogger shows a fan submission asking for advice, “Last night, we were eating when my husband’s aunt called me and said that our cousin had finished his college entrance exams. He got a pretty good results, and we were going to celebrate as a family, but after we chatted with them about his upcoming expenses, nobody felt like celebrating anymore.
The cousin said that he wants to travel a bit and relax after the exams, to go on a vacation with his friends. They’ve made an itinerary together already, and needs about 6K. If it’s not enough, he’ll have our aunt wire him more.
After his vacation, he wants to use this summer break to get his driver’s license. Based on his ability to learn, he’s sure he can get it in 45 days. This way, he’ll have made full use of his holiday, and filled up his days. He’s signed up for driving classes with his friend, and they promised that for 5K, they’ll guarantee he passes the driving test. He thinks it’s a good deal, so he signed up.
And another important thing, he heard that you can get vision correction surgery to fix short-sightedness. He’s worn glasses for 4-5 years, and don’t want to wear it anymore. Especially in the winter, it tends to fog up going in and out of doors. The surgery is going to cost 20K.
The rest is all the stuff he needs for university. A phone and a computer is indispensable. His budget is 10K for a computer, and 8K for a phone. He said he picked in the middle of the price range. Of course, he doesn’t have to worry about tuition.
Our aunt started worrying when she heard all this. She had 20K saved up to buy him a computer and phone, plus a couple changes of clothes, and he should be set for university. But now that he’s listed all this stuff, they’d need at least 60-70K to get everything done.
She’s seen how hard he’s worked all through high school, and she does feel bad for him, and none of his demands are super unreasonable. So the aunt called me and asked if I had 50K that I could borrow her.
I told her that I’d just started working and don’t have that much saved up. So my aunt told me to ask my mom if she had any. My aunt promised she’d pay me back as soon as she sold her harvest at the end of the year.
I called my mom and asked if she had 50K on hand, and when she found out I was going to lend this to my husband’s aunt, she screamed at me. “Give your kid whatever kind of future you can afford. If you’re poor and have to borrow money to satisfy your son’s vanity, aren’t you just making a fool of yourself? Your cousin’s a hell of a guy too—he knows exactly what kind of financial situation his family is in, and he wants to spend 6 grand on a vacation? Even if I had the money, I wouldn’t lend it to them! And your aunt too! Fine, if she want to borrow money from your. What the fuck does she mean asking you to borrow money from me? Is this something a human being is supposed to do?”
I think my mom is pretty reasonable honestly. Our cousin should know that his family isn’t too well off, and he still wants vision correction surgery? I’ve worn glasses for 10 years and haven’t considered surgery for myself. He’s too vain.
If you were me, would you borrow 50K from your mom for your husband’s aunt?”
Comments ask, “He wants a 10K computer and 8K phone when his family is this poor? Who’s he trying to match up to?”
“How could someone with only 20K in savings even consider vacations, much less a 10K computer? Is he joking?”
“Do I really not have the talent to become a cake maker? I just quit my job because despite the wages being high, it was just way too much pressure. I was going to look for a new job, but it’s really hard finding a job right now. And I just happened to get interested in cake making, so I decided to try my hand at making a cake. I sent a picture of the final product to my best friend, and she criticised the hell out of it. I’m super sad. Even if it’s not that pretty, you don’t have to be so mean about it, right? Why wouldn’t she encourage me more? Why does she have to poke directly at my heart? Girls, do you have any advice?”
She shows screenshots of her conversation. “Check out what I made. I want to try to become a cake maker.”
Best Friend: “? Um…”
OP: “What do you think?”
Best Friend: “Are you joking? Who would buy something like that?”
OP: “Does it matter what it looks like? I tried some and it’s pretty tasty.”
Best Friend: “No, really, look at your icing. It looks exactly like lines of poop! A couple of glicos sticking out of it like some cigarettes in an ash tray. This black and white colour scheme plus the glicos looks exactly like a concrete rebar construction site with a couple of logs of mouldy wood.”
OP: “…Do I really not have the talent to become a cake maker? >.>”
Best Friend: “…Yeah, you can’t force something like talent.”
She also attaches photos of her cake.
Comments say, “Wow, your best friend is good at describing things.”
“Well, I mean, I guess she could’ve been a little gentler. That’s it.”
“Where does your confidence come from, that you can just decide it doesn’t matter what it looks like?”
A lady was eating alone at McDonalds and wrote a note using her ketchup packet that she was just going to the bathroom, please don’t take away her food. And yet, they still took away her food. In the comments, people are flipping out.
“Oh my god, how can you be so calm about this? I got my food taken away once, and I went to the counter to throw an absolute shitfit. I’ve been dieting hardcore, and spent 2 days just drinking honey water, and 3 days just eating tomatoes and cucumbers. By the sixth day, I could’ve have eaten a human being alive. I ordered my favourite KFC bucket and tart and iced coke. But after a long fast, I drank a bit too much, so I kept running to the bathroom. After a couple sips of my coke and eating just one drumstick, I went to the bathroom, and when I came back out, just my bag was left on my table.
I ran to the counter and went from normal talking to hysterically screaming at them. Honestly. I’ve been starving for days. This is the first and only meal I’m getting this week. My heart and my body were both anxious as fuck. My hands were shaking uncontrollably. I felt sick. My heart was beating out of control. My screaming drew the manager out, and he made me another serving, plus a sundae.
But I was honestly devastated. Even after the new meal came out, I couldn’t calm down. It wasn’t until I was done eating and sat down for a while that that panicked feeling went away.”
“Yeah, I would burst into tears right then and there and start screaming.”
“Who understands me! I ordered a super expensive avocado shaved ice, and it was tasty as fuck. And all I did was step away to look at the price of some other snacks, and a old man janitor threw it away. I was honestly away for less than three minutes. I was honestly furious. Even now, thinking back, I’m still getting genuinely upset and angry. But I couldn’t do anything. I mean, am I gonna start flipping my shit at an innocent old man? He was just a bit too quick about cleaning up. He genuinely thought we were done. AHHHHHH who would throw away a full cup of boba tea!? AAAAAHHHHHH I’m honestly getting hysterical. I want to cry about it even now! I will never eat at that food street anymore. I will never get the avocado shaved ice again (because it’s too expensive). I hate janitors with no sense of boundaries!!!”
Comments say, “KFC should have a little sign that you can put up that says, “do not clean this table”.”
“You really do get in a perpetual bad mood if you don’t eat for a while.”
“Honestly, it’s really hard to eat out by yourself. If I’m by myself, I don’t dare to leave my food and drinks for a moment, in case someone put something in it…it’s like an invisible price to safety.”
“If someone took away my unfinished McDonalds, I would literally! Right then and there! Throw myself to the ground! And start screaming! And crying!”
“I’ve asked before, and the janitor said that they have to clean unattended food right away, or else someone might tamper with it. Then if something happened, the restaurant might be liable. So the best thing to do is to bring your tray to the counter and ask them to watch over it. Most places will agree to this.”