06/06/26 - Wang Meng only got to make offerings to her ancestors once she won gold at the Olympics.
”I thought my mom loved me.
I’m doing my first year of internship after graduation. My pay is really low so I’m pretty poor. My mom said that her mortgage interest rate is too high so she wants to pay it all off, so she asked me for my money. I told her this was all I had, all of my savings (4000RMB), and this is the conversation that followed.”
Mom: “Shouldn’t you be giving your parents money every month after work? I supported you for 24 years. It’s only fair you have to support me for 24 years.”
OP: “I didn’t want to come along. It’s you and your husband who made me.”
Mom: “That’s true. You could’ve not come to my stomach. You were the one that swam the fastest.”
OP: “What, you think I want to be alive?”
Mom: “Then slow down. It’s tens of millions competing, and you came first.”
OP: “I’m the fertilised egg, not the sperm. Go complain to your husband.”
Mom: “It’s still the fastest that wins.”
OP: “I’m the fusion of you and your husband. You can’t blame me for this.”
Mom: “I’m not blaming you. You’re blaming me for giving birth to you. Guess I can’t depend on you. I have to rely on myself. Don’t ask me for any help then. I already did my best for 24 years.”
OP: “You can buy me life insurance and I’ll go die now and pay you off.”
Mom: “I never wanted you to pay me off. Not like you can afford it anyways. It’s not about the money. You can’t buy 24 years of love with money. Once you have kids, try saying this to me again, if you’re brave enough.”
OP: “I just know I would never say something like this to my kid.”
Mom: “Yeah, sure, I shouldn’t have said that. I failed in raising you.”
Comments say, “Why is it that these conversations only happen to daughters?”
“You’re kind of rude too.”
“Do you have a brother too?”
#16-year-old girl responds to being stabbed by best friend. “6th of June, 16-year-old Chen in Hangzhou told reporters that in March, her best friend, who was in a bad mood, came over to her place to hang out. Her best friend ended up throwing her cat down the stairs and killing it, and then stabbed her with a fruit knife. Chen claims that after her best friend stabbed her, the best friend then tried to commit suicide. The police began an investigated and then stopped. The best friend might possibly have moderate depression. Chen claims that her medical bills add up to at least 100K RMB and she’s trying to get it back from her best friend’s guardian. Chen’s lawyer claims that the other party is not willing to negotiate, and if mediations fail, then they plan to defend their rights through other avenues.”
Comments say, “You can’t call any girl you know your best friend.”
“This is just anti-social personality disorder. Depressed people are more prone to harming themselves and not others. Stop slandering depression.”
“Do we have to use the word “闺蜜” [specifically the female best friend of a girl]? They’re already enemies here. It’s so weird to be calling them best friend. The media is trying to provoke anxiety to get views again.”
#Wang Meng’s [Olympic ice skater] family didn’t allow her to visit ancestral graves before she got famous. “Lemme tell you something funny. Shandong really likes to make a big deal out of ancestral graves and family trees. One year, my dad’s family was going to start a family tree. My dad has no sons, so in their words, my dad’s line would end there.
My dad’s nephew then gave my dad an idea, “Uncle, I can change a character in my sister’s (as in, me) name and write it into the family tree, so you can have a line.”
The reason they have to change a character in my name is because the last character of my name is very feminine. In order to make me look more like a boy, they want to change that character into something that sounds the same but looks more masculine. That way, I can get entered into the family tree and my dad’s line gets to be continued, so his worship wouldn’t end.
That made my dad super happy and he even called me to congratulate me. He says that I am the luckiest girl ever to make it into the family tree despite my gender.
At the time, I was busy with a case and I asked my dad, “Can I use this family tree as evidence in court? Will it make the judge listen to me? Can it make the opposing party pay my client 5 million?”
My dad was like, “How could you be so ungrateful over something this big? If it wasn’t for your brother coming up with this idea, you wouldn’t be included at all.”
And I was like, “Stop bothering me. Write whoever the fuck you want on there. Don’t waste my time with this backwards nonsense. What’s the fucking point if I don’t even get paid.”
Ancestral graves, family shrines, family trees are all barriers to entry that men specifically erected to keep women out…these backwards customs were designed to reinforce the patriarchy’s oppression of women.
Wang Meng only got to make offerings to her ancestors once she won gold at the Olympics. Quan Hongchan didn’t get written into her family tree until she won gold medal.
But how many women can win gold at the Olympics? Very, very few.
We don’t have to fight for rights then normal men have just by being born but women can only earn through enormous achievements.
We don’t have to judge ourselves by their standards. We should just look down on all these backwards customs.”
Comments say, “Maybe a lot of famous people back in the day weren’t men at all, and a lot of famous women never got written down.”
“It reminds me that Dong Mingzhu [famous CEO] was also threatened with having her name removed from the family tree if she didn’t give jobs to her uncles and nephews? (I don’t know if I remembered right or not.) The ancestor worship server is just as hilarious as ever.”
“I have it the best. My dad’s family has no family tree. My grandpa was adopted. My great-grandpa was sterile. And from me onwards, my kids are gonna take my last name, hahahahahaha!”
A compilation of how nasty restaurant food is:
“After working in a convenience store, I learned that the first thing you do on morning shift is get all the bug out of the Oden soup.”
“The tupperware containers you use at barbecue buffets are reused. If it wasn’t for working there, I would’ve thought they were disposable.”
“When I worked summers, all the cake is frozen in the freezer. If you guys eat too fast, then I have to get more out, and they all have ice crystals frozen to them. I don’t know why you like them so much. I can’t stand them.”
“Don’t get the garlic scallops at buffets because the shells are all reused. And you have no idea if the last person got the scallop off the shell with chopsticks or with his mouth. It doesn’t count as plates so they never go through disinfection either.”
“I know the food industry is like this, but I just look the other way. I didn’t lose my shit until I started working at a raw oyster bar. They make a big bucket of sauce at a time and will use it for a month, but they don’t package it or put it in the fridge or anything. They just put it on the iron racks, and cockroaches and rats will fall into it and marinade for days and only get fished out whenever someone goes to get more sauce. And we’ll keep serving the sauce to the customers. I used to eat at this place too and it always gave me the shits. The crayfish we use is also pre-processed dead crayfish shipped from somewhere else. They can be served as soon as they’re fried. And they’ll claim on delivery apps that it’s freshly-made live shrimp, holy shit.”
“I worked at a hotpot and skewers place. All the ice cream is expired for a year and the boss says it’s fine. They say on the wall that they don’t re-use skewers, but we definitely take them back, wash them off half-assedly, and reuse them. There’s flies and fly larvae all over the skewers that we just pick off with our fingers.”
“I have a weak stomach and get diarrhea all the time. If I shit myself immediately after eating, I won’t go again. If I only shit myself by the next day, then I’ll go occasionally. If I don’t shit myself at all, then I’ll be a regular.”
“Doesn’t mean anything if you don’t shit yourself. A lot of places will add anti-diarrheal medicine.”
“We kept our fast food place super clean and I let my own son and daughter eat there when they were in primary school and daycare. And then we had to close our doors. It cost too much in water and electricity.”
“It has nothing to do with cleanliness. You have to shut your doors because it didn’t taste good. The most important thing for a restaurant is that the taste has to match the price. Then you can keep going no matter how thin your profit margins are. If your food is tasty and clean, then you can charge more for it. If it’s not tasty but still clean, then it’s useless.”
“You know, Muslims only eat food they make or halal restaurants. Even if they’re buying snacks or fast food, they’ll check the ingredient list super closely. We were taught growing up to be careful about what we eat. I didn’t get it when I was a kid and would sneak snacks I’m not allowed, but now I know how to check for myself as an adult.”
“I’ve found bugs in my food at a halal restaurant.”