05/21/23 - Women who were weak and needed to sit the month were all eliminated in western society hundreds of years ago.
“My mom makes such awful food. She makes the same dishes every day. It’s always salty and spicy, and rice is always hard as rocks. I have no appetite at all, but she keeps forcing me to eat more. She only knows how to cook this. My aunts are showing off the meals they make on social media all the time, learning new recipes from tiktok. My mom only ever watches shitty soap operas or trashy tiktoks. I’m seriously depressed over this meal.”
Comments say, “So you cook. That way, you don’t hurt your mom, and you get to eat what you want.”
“A lot of people don’t understand the point of sitting the month. It’s not just eating or laying in bed. First, I’ll cover what doctors keep saying against sitting the month.
1. They reason they’re against sitting the month is because westerners don’t sit the month, only Chinese people do. Lol. First off, in ancient times, westerns eliminate weak soldiers. You get kicked out if you suck. Now, of course, it’s different. We’ve got to save private Ryan, leave no man behind, throw in a whole squad of soldiers over one guy, because we’re just so great and loving and morally upstanding. China’s always been about advancing together as a society. We never gave up on the weak, they just need a lifestyle that suited them.
Chinese medicine doctors say that the women who were weak and needed to sit the month were all eliminated in western society hundreds of years ago. Only strong women survived. I think it makes sense. Even today, China has lots of strong women who don’t need to sit the month. People are different, you can’t generalise in any era. But don’t make fun of people who are weak, who have to sit the month. Female athletes can be in tiptop shape, but if you lock her in a room for a month and don’t let her leave, she’ll be super weak afterwards. Well, yeah, sure, she’s the type to recover quickly. If she feels up to moving, then move. I support it.
2. All the symptoms of not sitting the month well are problems that would show up later with age anyways, such as back pain, joint problems, advanced ageing, etc. They’re more related to getting older than whether or not you sat the month. Yeah, dude, giving birth is generating an entire life with your body and pushing it out. Even for minor surgeries, doctors will tell you to rest well, don’t push yourself, and watch your diet. But you don’t think it’s necessary for giving birth? What double standards.
Yeah, most women are fine after giving birth, but that’s because most women give birth at the peak of their health, when they’re full of energy, and they can just push through. Once you get up there in age, and you’re weaker all around, you’re gonna notice problems a lot faster. Chinese medicine doctors call this “burying a root of disease”. It makes a lot of sense.
3. So how should modern women sit the month?
I don’t want to talk about diet anymore, because I’ve written on this topic a lot in the past, and also because nobody lacks food now. The whole family is obviously going to leave the best for the new mother. I’m going to emphasise that sitting the month requires peace and quiet.
This is something we need to learn from our ancestors, the idea that you should receive no visitors while sitting the month. Why? It’s so you don’t get distracted and tired out. The main point is you need to recover your mind, your mind, your mind. Important things should be repeated three times.
The main reason modern women don’t sit the month well is because they’re too tied up with other things. Sure, nobody visits friends who are sitting the month, but women will seek their own entertainment. They’ll scroll social media, watch TV shows, keep worrying about work. I’ve got a friend who was in a company zoom call right before she went into the delivery room, and as soon as the baby was out, she went right to checking whether her underlings were doing their tasks properly. For this type of women, even laying still in bed doesn’t count as rest.
The best part about ancient times is that you didn’t have all this information and distractions around. The point of sitting the month isn’t eating or drinking, it’s peace and quiet. Sure, you might need to get up at night to feed the baby, but you’re supposed to sleep with the baby during the day too. When the baby naps, you nap. Don’t assume that’s the time to party and watch livestreams.
Some people ask that postpartum yoga is really popular, whether that’s a good idea. If you’re recovering well, why not? Seriously, we’re in 2023 AD. You don’t have to lay straight in bed. Women are supposed to exercise a little, so long as they make sure to stay warm and out of the wind. Just don’t use your mind too much—that’s what people have trouble with.”
A current affairs blogger posts, “You should be glad houses are what’s exploding in price, and not necessities. We’re printing more and more money every year. Without the water tank that is houses, all of that inflation is going to flow into food. Imagine a pound of bread for 100 RMB, imagine rice going for 200 RMB. How are people going to live then? We all need to support high housing prices.”
Comments say, “But then we need to be thankful to Mister Yuan (GMO’d rice for China), not housing prices?”
“What says only one thing can explode in price at the same time? What’s your logic?”
“Yeah, but farmers are still starving, lol.”
Today is the second anniversary of the death of Yuan Longping, the father of mixed-strain rice. Xinhua News posts a rare clip of him tearing up, as he walks about his dreams, that people can rest in the shade of crops, and that mixed strain rice will cover the Earth.
An interview with Yuan Longping’s son reveals that he was a very humorous person, with a strong talent for language and mimicry. He could speak a huge variety of local dialects, including various places in Hunan, Chongqing, Sichuan, Nanjing, and even Zhumadian, Henan.
Someone posts asking for advice, “Guys, should I go to college or not? I really wanted to go before, felt like I could broaden my views, increase my knowledge an all that. I got admitted by my dream college, but I’m not that happy about it, because I have a boyfriend. He’s older than me, and he wants to marry this year and have a baby. What should I do? Should I even go to college?”
Comments say, “I thought you were thinking about not going because it’s such a shitty school. Never thought in my life it’d be over a man. All I can say is, never give up on your education for a man.”
“The fact that you even asked this question means that you’re not going to get anything out of college even if you went. So don’t go and at least don’t waste your parents’ money.”
“My friend told me today, “If I got slapped by someone, and I didn’t fight back, but instead I called the cops, but the cops examine me and judge that no injury had been suffered, and just fine the guy 500 RMB and lets him go, and tells me to leave…then did I just get beaten so the cops can make some money?” He asked what I would do about the situation, and I’ve been thinking for the longest time and couldn’t figure it out. So, I guess I’m asking what you outlaws think.”
Comments say, “You can get emotional damages. There’s no free slap. My friend got hit by some guy who got way too drunk. I forget if it was a slap or what. He didn’t get injured at all, but he called the cops, and still got 2000 in damages.”
“Immediately fall to the ground, and make sure to bump your head on the floor or the wall on the way down, depending on the environment. Take care to control the force, so that it’s a solid knock, but not too much. As soon as the cops get there, report dizziness, nausea, weakness in your limbs, and demand to go to a hospital right away. If you controlled the force right, you’ll be diagnosed with medium concussion, or at least a mild concussion. That’s a guaranteed minor injury right there. Once you’ve got the diagnoses, then negotiate for damages, let the other party name the price.”
An education blogger writes, “According to my observations, we’re raising our kids all backwards. Everyone knows I’m the father to two boys, and I pay a lot of attention to child rearing. I’ll talk a bit about my latest observations.
Poor people are raising their kids like nobles, signing them up for piano, dance, oil painting, music theory, art, sending them overseas, getting them whatever is the most expensive.
Rich people are raising their kids like peasants, putting them in internships in big companies, having them learn customer service, do design work, write apps, management, do whatever work is the hardest.
There are a lot of ordinary parents in first line cities who are obsessing over their kids’ artistic talent, music, latin dance, drawing, instruments, etiquette, performance…all of this is meaningless, just a waste of money. At the best, it’ll be an annoyance to your neighbours. At the worst, it’ll only teach your kids to look down on ordinary menial labour. They’ll have no idea how to work hard for themselves.
The number of people who become able to buy a house in Shanghai every year based off of art alone has to be less than 50. These days, we don’t have new singers, movie stars, or anything. What Shanghai needs in the future are either top-tier talents, or normal service workers. If your kids have more ambition than their capabilities, it’ll be a huge hassle.
Perhaps you’ll say that you’re doing this for their temperament. But if you don’t have a huge amount of money to back it up, what’s the point in having a noble, high class temperament? At most, maybe they can sleep with rich people. But unless your kid can make it into top universities, or at least an ordinary Ivy League, you’re not going to even be a suitable trophy wife/husband.
For middle class families, you’re much better off instilling in kids good worth ethic, high grades, or at least a highly demanded skill. Your goal shouldn’t be to become the kids with the best etiquette for high society in your shitty apartment building. Nobility isn’t something you get out of learning piano, it’s something you get when you grow up with more money than you know what to do with. It’s a vibe that comes along with having a Bentley and a mansion and an assistant and a personal makeup artist. If you just own one LV bag and still get ubers when you go out, you’ll just look like a club girl. And don’t keep having illusions of marrying up. People care about marrying their own class now. Even if you somehow get pregnant, you’ll just get 3 million out of it.
Sorry for ruining your dreams.”
Comments say, “I think by “poor people”, you mean middle-class people. Because actual poor people raise their kids like rich people.”
“Yes, so make sure you son knows how to do all the housework at home, from cooking to washing dishes to taking out the trash to taking care of the cat.”
Someone is sad that they were yelled at at work for not knowing the etiquette of pouring water for their boss.
Comments say, “He wants me to pour water for him for just 3K a month???”
“This isn’t your job, you don’t need to know this kind of thing. There’s no need to feel guilt. We’re in a modern society now, nobody is a slave. If he wants to drink water, he can pour it for himself. If he’s not happy, you can get another job.”
“520 is just a test for men now. Or maybe it’s torture. Didn’t buy a gift? Break up. Bought the wrong gift? Break up. Bought too cheap of a gift? Break up. You’re a woman and you bought a gift? Idiot.
Is this what you mean when you talk about being a modern independent woman? If you want to tie love with materialism, then why be so obvious about your double standards? As soon as you find a woman buying a gift for her boyfriend, you’ll fill the comment section with mockery for how stupid she’s being. That she’s supposed to be getting the man to buy her whatever is the most expensive.
If you are in support of this kind of dating culture and love environment, then breaking up is just freeing for the man.”
Comments say, “It’s a lot more than just 520. There’s half a dozen various holidays through the year where the exact same thing happens. Only expensive gifts count as love. Honestly, I’d rather save this love for my mother, instead of a vampire.”
A blogger writes, “Blizzard and Netease’s cooperation has completely fallen through. Even the compensation for closing down the servers came all from Netease. Blizzard doesn’t want to pay a cent. What’s the point of saving all of this stuff for Netease?” He attaches photos of Netease trying to sell their stock of Blizzard merchandise.
“Just did some calculations. If I never buy a house, I’m 25 this year. I’ll have another 30 years before I retire. In this 30 years, average rent per month is roughly 2000 RMB. That’s a total of 720K, a lot cheaper than a house. And once I buy a house, that means I’ll be stuck in this one place by the house and lose all my freedom. I’m a lot better off never buying a house. That’s a terrible decision.”
Comments say, “I felt that way in the past too, until I went through my landlord wanting to sell his house, so he went back on our contract and kicked me out early, a previous tenant from years ago not letting me into the unit, not getting government groceries during lockdowns…I felt like I really did need my own house. And you can remodel your house however you want.”
“Why only calculate up to retirement? Where are you gonna live then?”
“But moving is a pain in the ass. Don’t forget to think of that!”
“Why do I keep hearing from parents with kids with high grades that they don’t even do anything? Their kid just naturally gets high grades? Why?”
Comments answer, “Because the kid has internal motivation.”
“This has nothing to do with education. Internal motivation is mostly genetic. It’s probably composed of some combination of IQ, not wanting to lose, delayed satisfaction, problem solving, logic, organisational skills, and being able to summarise information and come up with counter examples. Which of the above can actually be taught? This is just determined at birth.”
“I don’t know either. At my house, daddy tutors and mommy tutors him and the results are still shit. Maybe learning is just all DNA-based.”
A blogger writes, “What the fuck is a 38kg model supposed to tell me anything about how the clothes will look on me?” attaching photos of the dress in question.
Comments say, “But models are supposed to be thin.”
“This honestly isn’t that weird of a height and weight combination for real life. I think people are being a little mean when they call her a skeleton.”
“Why can’t we use normal-sized women for models in China?”