05/20/23 - So I had to have a c-section with no anaesthesia at all.
“My boyfriend’s mom got mad at me for getting her a Mother’s Day Gift. She’s been complaining to him that she hadn’t spent more than a dozen bucks on some clothes for over a decade, but I’m wasting money on gifts for her? I’ve been with him for three years, and every year, I’m the one buying her a gift. She’s never gotten me anything. He has no car and no house, just a whole load of complaints, and she’s still trying to push me into marriage? I want to flee from here on a fucking rocket.”
She attaches a photo of a pearl necklace and a Mother’s Day card.
“Lately, after a close relative of mine just gave birth, I had some “worrying” thoughts. Why do a lot of small local hospitals, especially in poorer areas, push c-sections on women so hard? I’ve talked to doctors about this before, and they always suggest that it’s because ob/gyns make more money with a surgery, it looks good on their resume, and it avoids the liability of a vaginal delivery not going well.
But I’ve got another, much more worrying hypothesise. A lot of c-sections result in the mother having trouble getting pregnant again. This is even worse in the context of our rapidly declining population. Back in the days of the one child policy, doing this might have just been going along with the government’s wishes, but now that we’re encouraging more births, is this just policy inertia? Or, if you think about it closer, are there western white liberal forces secrets behind this? This is vital to China’s future, it definitely needs to be investigated.”
Comments say, “So arrest all ob/gyns and torture them all? I’m sure we’ll find lots of long-term spies that way.”
“Do we have to be politically correct by tying everything to western forces now?”
“I live in a super small town, and the hospitals here have quotas on vaginal deliveries. That’s what they’re pushing.”
“How soon can I get pregnant again after a c-section? It’s been 6 months and I can’t wait anymore. I’ve photocopied all my hospital records and sent it into the state hospital. Next is just waiting for an appointment. Hopefully, I can get some useful advice online. I was going to wait a year and a half before getting pregnant again, but I can’t wait anymore. Could I get pregnant in 12 months? That way, I just have to wait 3 more months before I start taking folic acid.”
Comments say, “I mean, if you don’t care about your life, you can get pregnant whenever you want.”
“I hope you have 108 babies.”
“Are you mad?”
“Don’t they say you have to wait at least four years after a c-section?”
More news on the Wu Xieyu matricide case appeals process. After a year long pause in the case, Wu Xieyu has once again appeared in the defendant seat, trying to get out of the death penalty. In his appeals court, his defense lawyer has put the emphasise on Wu Xieyu’s motive and whether or not he has mental illnesses. His defense lawyer argues that Wu Xieyu was temporarily mad when he committed the murder, and could not tell what his actions meant legally speaking, or what their consequences would be. The prosecutor shows that Wu Xieyu had performed plenty of premeditation before the murder, the entire process was very logical and ordered, and he even took great care in cleaning the scene of the crime. At the end of the hearing, Wu Xieyu stood slowly and expressed that he knew he had committed a great sin and deserves whatever he gets, but whatever the case, he still hopes the court will allow him to live and make up for his crimes with the rest of his life.”
Comments say, “What a poor guy. I hope they shoot him ASAP.”
“Go to your mom in the afterlife and apologise in person, why don’t you?”
“So he never thought about making up for his crimes all the years that he’s been fleeing from the law, doing hookers and blow, and now that he’s been caught, he suddenly wants to make up for his crimes?”
A goddamn adorable tiktok video of a six month old baby, delighted at seeing a one month old baby.
Comments say, “There’s so much love in her eyes! She’s looking at her like a grandma looking at her granddaughter.”
Someone posts for advice, “Is this what young people are doing for wedding gifts these days? This is a coworker of mine. I invited her to my wedding back in 2018. She didn’t come, but she sent me 300 RMB in a red pocket on WeChat. Today, I suddenly got a bunch of texts from her. At first, I thought her account had been hacked by a scammer. Am I out of touch with society after being a stay at home mom for too long? Is this how it goes nowadays?”
She shows texts from her former coworker, reading, “Hey, you there? I’m not holding a wedding ceremony with my SO, I’m just telling you we’re getting married. Just send me the money. I gave you 300 back then. A wechat transfer is fine. Hello?”
Comments say, “Seems reasonable to me. She paid you 300 in 2018, and she only wants 300 back even though it’s 2023 now. You’re the one being rude.”
“I think a more significant number like 368 or 388 would be better.”
“She gave you money. Why don’t you want to pay her back? What are you trying to achieve, asking the internet about this? Do you just want to justify being a beggar?”
“My 9-month-old baby is displaying more and more male characteristics. His head stinks. His feet are sour. He farts. He poops a lot. He’s more and more like his dad. My sweet, soft little baby is gone. T_T“
Comments say, “This is what happens when parents are lazy, but also attention whores.”
“If his head stinks at 9 months old, you need to bathe him.”
“What were you doing when you were picking the dad’s genetics?”
“I’ve got a friend whose dad is the oldest among his siblings. In that generation, the oldest kid is like a pseudo-parent. Her dad was like this too. He went thought a lot for his family, and for his younger siblings, even after he married.
In order to quickly get a job and start supporting the family, he stopped going to school very early on. He’s a very honest man, worked himself to the bone. Among all his siblings, he was the least successful in life. All of his siblings accomplished more than he did.
After his siblings got into the work force, whatever bonus they got at work, they’d take to their older brother’s house. Particularly cigarettes. If anyone gave them cigarettes, it went straight to their older brother. They’d use every excuse to give their older brother money.
Now, they’re all retired, but the youngest brother in his 60s still gives his older brother money, usually several grand at a time. My friend’s dad is too embarrassed to take it, but she was like, “Dude, it’s your actual literal brother.”
And her dad was like, “Oh yeah, it is my actual literal brother. What’s so embarrassing about that?”
As for his younger sister in her fifties, she takes him on vacation all over the country, the kind where she pays transportation, hotels, and food. She takes them to all the best restaurants she finds. My friend gets along with her cousins super well too. It’s the kind of relationship where if you’re a little short on money on buying a house, everyone will chip a bit in.
Why do they get along so well? Aside from the fact that everyone involved are good human beings, I think the more important factor is the grandma. First, she was super fair to all her kids. Second, she constantly emphasised to the younger siblings how much the oldest had done for this family, what he had to go through, all that he suffered. That they need to remember his sacrifice. Finally, when it came to the third generation, whether it was her grandsons or granddaughters, she treated them all fairly.
I’ve got another friend who’s the opposite example. Her sexist grandma already preferred the younger brother, because the younger brother had had a son. All of her savings and her house went to the younger brother and her grandson.
The result was that even while she was alive, her children treated each other like mortal enemies. After she passed away, they cut off contact with each other right away.
I feel like this isn’t just one example. There are lots of cases like this just around myself. I don’t know if this is what the old people wanted.
I might not be entirely right, but I think in households with multiple children, the quality of their sibling relationships has a lot to do with the parents’ attitudes.”
Comments, “Yeah, siblings are going to hate each other if the parents play favourites.”
“You need to lead by example.”
“For your question, of course the old people know how it’s going to turn out. They’ve seen everything at their age. They just don’t care. They only want to make sure they’re happy themselves.”
A tiktok video of a woman, imitating the tone of voice of the older generation saying, “I’m just saying, some women really need to calm the fuck down, talking about staying single and childfree all day, like they’re so high and mighty. If you don’t get married, who’s going to abuse you? Who are you going to take care of? If you don’t get married, how will you learn how to do housework? If you don’t get married, who’s going to wash men’s laundry and cook men dinners? Who’s going to continue men’s lineage? If you don’t get married and just eat and play all day, you won’t even have someone to tell you off for wasting money. When you go get your nails done, you won’t even have a kid who makes fun of you for being ugly. If you don’t get married, how are you going to get STDs? If you don’t get married, how are you going to search for mistresses all day and night? If something happened to you, they wouldn’t even know where to begin looking for the suspect. Women who aren’t married are like birds without wristwatches, like monkeys without keyboards, like fish without motorcycles. Don’t be foolish. Just think carefully if you decide on not marrying. When other people are fighting late into the night, screaming at their child over homework, getting close to a heart attack, with a cheating husband who’s transferring his assets, don’t laugh too loud.”
Comments say, “I don’t like extremist views like this, like only retards get married, and single people have no worries.”
“God, I want to send this to my mom.”
A tiktok clip of the kindergarten teacher that had gone viral singing a nursery rhyme, now exhaustedly repeating it on her livestream after performing it hundreds of times every day.
Comments say, “I don’t get what’s the point of watching nursery rhymes.”
“She’s super ugly without makeup.”
“Her plastic surgery is pretty ugly, and this level of talent, for 2 million a day? I just want to know what all our tens of thousands of scientific researchers think.”
“Her eyes are so empty now. They’ve lost their light.”
Someone posts, “My preschool son wants me to dress up every day to pick him up from school. He burst into tears when he saw me come pick him up today, asking why I never put on a dress, wear earrings, or put on lipstick.”
Comments say, “My son’s problem is that when he sees a pretty girl, he’ll go over and plant a kiss right on her. I kiss him a lot at home, and he’s only two now, so I can’t quite explain it to him. Whenever he sees pretty women, on my god, he’ll get all weird and shy for some reason and hide behind me and play with my hair and grin like an idiot. I’m so done with this.”
“If I throw some lipstick on at all, my preschool son will go on and on about how pretty I am.”
“I can dress up as much as I want, and my son will still say I’m ugly.”
“When I was little, I often felt turned off by my mom coming to pick me up without dressing up at all. Once, I even told her to stop showing up around my school. Later on, I realised this was pretty hurtful, but when I became a mother, I put more thought into this. Whenever I’m showing up at my son’s school, I’ll take care to clean up nicer than usual. I’m sure he feels happy about this deep down.”
“Yeah, when I was in school, I didn’t want my mom to show up at school, because she was super trashy-looking and never dressed up. I wanted my dad to come pick me up, because he was a praised by everyone for being super handsome.”
“Whether or not you’re picking up your kid, you’d clean up a little before leaving your house, right? Looking pretty puts you in a better mood yourself, right? You don’t have to put on a ballgown or anything, but you can at least apply some foundation and lipstick. It only takes a couple of minutes, it’s not going to slow anything down, and it’s going to make you look so much better.”
“This is actually a separate problem—you’re putting too much value on your kid, and caring way too much about what he thinks. Another potential problem is that your husband is saying this about you, and that’s where you son learned it from. My daughter is the opposite, she doesn’t want me to wear makeup when I pick her up, because she thinks that I’m prettier without makeup on. Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, you need to take care of yourself and put yourself first. That’s the only way your family is going to learn to love and respect you.”
“I just saw the news story about c-sections. I delivered two babies vaginally. I’m not kidding, I’m the type to yell and curse over a little bit of pain in daily life, but for the whole process of giving birth, I didn’t make a sound. Just because I felt like it was kind of embarrassing to yell. I used over ten hours to deliver my son, and just two and a half hours on my daughter. I used to not believe people when they said the second baby would be faster, but it really was super fast. I almost didn’t make it to the delivery room.
Oh, the news story was a MIL saying that if her daughter in law wanted a c-section, she’d stop her son from signing the consent form. I don’t know about c-sections, but I signed all of my own forms for my delivery. So long as your life isn’t in danger, I think you sign all of your own forms. So you don’t have to worry too much about that. It’ll be totally up to you how you want to deliver your baby. Just listen to the doctor and take your own life in hand.”
Comments say, “Anyone else in here who failed to deliver vaginally? My milk ducts are blocked and it hurts to much I want to die.”
“As soon as I got pregnant, I knew I’d rather die than deliver vaginally.”
“I’ve got a bad heart with spinal problems, they couldn’t do an epidural for me. So I had to have a c-section with no anaesthesia at all. I’ll never forget when they cut into me. And when they sewed me up, I still remember that it took nine stitches. I had to suffer through the whole thing.”
In Top Story News today, a weight-bearing wall was demolished in a Harbin apartment building, and the homeowners have waited for 23 days for a plan to fix the situation. They’re being asked to continue waiting. Work has begun on temporary supportive structures being put into the building, to slow down the speed at which floors above the fourth storey are cracking. They’re hiring architects to evaluate how much damage has been done to the building to put into a report for the public. Architects, earthquake-proofing specialists and construction teams are also going to work together on a plan to fortify the building. They’re asking for ideas from the public, so they can get to work as soon as possible, so that evacuated residents can return to their homes soon.
Comments say, “That building is totally ruined. Of course the homeowners are freaking out.”
“Looks like there’s not going to be any damages paid out, so I guess people will just have to make do for the next couple of years.”
“There really needs to be more regulation on the remodelling industry.”
A death row inmate has died of cancer while in prison. His family is seeking damages of over 7 million RMB. The prison claims that he died of natural causes, the prison did not subject him to any abuse or neglect.
Between 2005 and 2008, there were three cases of murder followed by arson in Shangqiu City. Zhang Xuezhong was arrested under suspicion of premeditated murder. In November 2013, Shangqiu Court sentenced him to death under the charges of robbery and thievery, with two years of imprisonment, and ordered that his sentence cannot be reduced for good behaviour. Shang Xuezhong started serving his sentence at the Second Prison of Henan. In August 2022, Zhang Xuezhong was diagnosed with terminal stage pancreatic cancer. Because of limited healthcare available at the prison, his family repeatedly applied for him to be hospitalised outside of prison. All of the applications were denied. In December of 2022, Zhang Xuezhong died in prison and his body was sent to Xinxiang City Crematorium. Zhang Xuezhong’s family believes that the possibility that he got cancer due to the diet or daily schedule in prison, or because he was abused with disciplinary measures, cannot be eliminated. And he did not receive appropriate medical care while he was sick. They claim the prison’s failure to provide adequate medical care is the primary reason that Zhang Xuezhong passed away. They are suing the government for 7 million RMB in damages. Second Prison of Henan refused payment on the 16th of May, claiming that Zhang Xuezhong was never beaten or otherwise abused, and received appropriate and timely medical care, and had died of natural causes. They believe the prison has no legal responsibility for his death.
Comments say, “See. None of this would have happened if they’d just shot him right away.”
“The cancer is just karma from God.”
“Putting people on death row is just a waste of national resources.”