Shenzhen Ministry of Health covers a case of a child falling and getting a brain bleed. The grandma asked, “Could we not get a CT scan and not do tests?” The Ministry of Health explains in this PSA that in accidents involving children, accidental falls are responsible for 30%. The average age is only 5 years old. The six-year-old Bibi is one of them. He fell off the couch and because no one followed up on it, it had developed into a brain herniation and required open-skull surgery. The grandma was worried about radiation and didn’t want to take him for a CT scan. Every minute you waste is one that the doctors will eventually have to wrestle back from death. Thankfully, the paediatric surgeon was able to complete an open-skull surgery in 15 minutes—less time than it would take to finish a round of gaming. That concludes episode two of our “Shining Paediatric Doctors” series!
Comments agree, “People who don’t understand anything but feel like they do are literally the worst.”
“This is exactly like my mom. Bad diabetes, but oh no, insulin is bad for you!”
”If you’re not going to listen to the doctors, why bother taking him to the hospital to begin with? Just stay at home.”
“Sometimes, I don’t understand some people’s sexism at all. Like, having sons to take care of you in old age is complete bullshit. Just take a look at my village. There are tons of families with multiple sons who all don’t take care of them. All the filially pious children are always daughters. Even if they married super far away, if they discover their brothers aren’t taking care of their parents, they’d take their parents in and take them on vacations and everything. And sons are constantly fighting each other over the meagre inheritances that are left. If you’ve got time, just go walk around hospital wards and you’ll see that taking care of old people around their bedside is always, always daughters. Everyone who insisted on having sons regret it more and more as they get older!”
Comments say, “It’s because daughters have children who take someone else’s surname.”
“Just like my grandma. When she got sick, my uncle refused to take her to the hospital. She called crying countless times about how he’s just trying to kill her faster. Every time my mom leaves, she immediately calls begging for her to come back to keep taking care of her. But in the end, she left everything to my uncle anyways.”
An author writes, “There are three types of childhood trauma: being abandoned, being swallowed, and Oedipus Complexes.
In babyhood, you see abandonment most commonly, like training delayed satisfaction, or sleep training, etc.
In childhood, you see being swallowed most often, basically being spoiled. It’s common to see children to cling to their mothers all day, who listen to her vent, who have every aspect of their life controlled. Their mothers are like a proxy server—everything the child experiences has to go through their mother first.
In puberty, it’s common to be controlled by your sexual shyness. For example, daughters who are required to never take their father’s side by their mother. Sons who sleep with their mothers, leaving their dad in his own room. Kissing your children on their mouth, etc.”
Comments say, “I’m definitely the second type. As far as I remember, I’m always the one to comfort my mom, hoping that she would look happy and smile. But no matter how I comforted her, how much I tried to make her happy, she always looked resentful.”
“I don’t remember anything about being a baby, obviously, but I remember being swallowed. It was around middle school, in the winter, there was a big blizzard. It was the final period of the day, so the teacher decided to just let everyone go outside and play in the snow. Everyone rushed out in excitement, leaving just me in the classroom alone. And I asked myself, why are they so happy? Why didn’t I go out? And suddenly, all I could think about was my mom crying at home at my dad.”
“Another type of abandonment is just pure contempt. I would sit down next to my mom, just to have her scream at me, “FUCK OFF!” and a five-year-old me would silently get up and walk somewhere dark to cry silently. Because I can’t cry in front of her. She’d make fun of my crying, or scream more.”
“I can’t get a taxi, they’re scalping for way too much. Maybe Chongqing needs to learn a lesson from Zibo. I used to really love Chongqing. But this time, visiting the Hongyan Caves, I was super disappointed. My rose-coloured glasses for Chongqing since 14-years-old has been shattered today. So, so disappointed. It’s not even a matter of how crowded it is. Everyone is trying to scalp you as hard as you can while you’re in town. I came here full of excitement, and had a lot of fun the first two days. But yesterday really chilled my heart.”
Comments say, “That’s okay, Chongqing doesn’t want you to come back either.”
“Who the hell still depends on taxis when going out? It’s 2023. Just get an uber. Or rent a bike. There’s got to be lots of shared bike stands in Chongqing.”
“Isn’t it normal for prices to rise when there’s this many people waiting on a ride? If you’re trying to get a ride during rush hour or when it’s raining, don’t prices increase then too? I’ve been to Chongqing once over Chinese New Year and uber was completely unavailable. Taxi prices went from like 15 RMB to 85 RMB, but I didn’t feel ripped off. I was just glad I could leave. It’s not like this phenomenon is unique to Chongqing.”
A current event blogger posts a bunch of screenshots of The Maury Show, saying, “Amazing! Overseas, women look for the baby’s dad with paternity tests. If it turns out to be his, the dad is depressed and devastated. If it’s not his, he starts dancing a disco right away. In China, when men bring up getting a paternity test, feminazis are like, “How dare you not trust me! This is so disrespectful! I’m not going to have your child!”
Comments say, “How are these two situations even comparable? In America, it’s a matter of scumbags having way too much casual sex and not wanting to pay child support.”
“I’m almost 26 years old, and I’m crying at night because of a cake. I just came upon a tiktok video of a pineapple cake, and suddenly remembered my 13th birthday. My parents had sat me down and very seriously talked to me about how we’d just bought a house, they didn’t have any money on hand anymore. They couldn’t afford to get me a cake.
Two months later, my two-year-old brother had his birthday. When I came home from school, there was a birthday cake on our dining table, with whipped cream piped into the shape of a pineapple on it. Everyone was celebrating my brother’s birthday, when he probably didn’t even know what a birthday cake was.
I forget how I felt then, but after 13 years had passed, I’d graduated university, gotten a job, went overseas, and I can now afford whatever kind of cake I want whenever I want. And when I see a pineapple cake, I still cry uncontrollably.
The damage my family has brought me will take a lifetime to heal.
If you think I’m overreacting, don’t bother replying to me. Just swipe away, thank you.”
Comments say, “It’s not that big a deal at all. Why hold onto it after this many years? Whatever you say, your parents still gave you life, raised you up, put you through school. You need to feel gratitude for these things, and not just wave it off as the law says they have to take care of you under 18, and take them for granted. The reason laws exist is because lots of people don’t follow the law. There are plenty of people who abuse and neglect their own kids. It’s not a given that your parents would raise you properly. They’re doing you a favour. Try to look at the bigger picture and stop obsessing over details. It’s pointless. Sure, maybe they weren’t great about sexism. But nobody’s perfect. A cake doesn’t cancel out all the years they took care of you. I hope all children can learn what’s actually important and how to put themselves in other’s shoes. If you spent years of your life raising a kid only to end up hated over a cake, how would you feel?”
A healthcare blogger writes a guide to sitting the month:
“There are two vital aspects of sitting the month. One is to recover the energy, qi, and blood you spent giving birth. Second is to avoid wind, cold, and evil energies. Because a pregnant woman is open, her defenses aren’t complete, she is much more vulnerable to evil energies than normal people.
Start drinking Shenghua Soup. It’ll help you push the bad blood out faster and is good for your uterus. You normally drink for two weeks or so, until you’re done bleeding. The recipe for Shenghua Soup is female ginseng 30g, Szechuan lovage 15g, peach pit 10g (smashed to bits), radix glycyrrhizae preparata 6g, dried ginger 10g, yellow wine 100ml, boil and drink once a day.
Don’t eat too lightly and don’t eat too richly. Some places insist on giving postpartum mothers chicken and chicken broth or even dozens of eggs every day, to the point where the postpartum mothers want to throw up every time they see eggs. That is too much.
You can boil eggs with ginger and yellow wine, it’ll help restore blood and improve blood flow and chase out coldness. It’s very appropriate for postpartum mothers.
If you’re sitting the month during the hottest days of summer, you can turn your AC on at 28 degrees Celsius (82 fahrenheit), this prevents excessive sweating or even heatstroke. Sweat and blood comes from the same source. Sweating too much is just as bad as bleeding too much.
While sitting the month, avoid taking showers as much as possible to avoid getting cold. You can boil ginger and Chinese mugwort and wipe your body with it or wash your hair in it. Remember to dry your hair right after washing it.
Delivery a baby will do major damage to your energy, qi, and blood. If you can’t recover well during the first month, your health will rapidly deteriorate, and you’re far more likely to end up with all kinds of illnesses. It’s very important to take sitting the month very seriously and take all the care in the world.
You need to sit the month after giving birth. You also need to sit the month after having a miscarriage. Sitting the month is a vital step of recovery that cannot be skipped. It is not a superstition. Don’t try to copy western women.
Miscarriages are more damaging for your body than giving birth. You have sit the month for at least one month minimum.
You cannot have sex for 3 months after a miscarriage. Intercourse will cause your kidney energy to leak out, and your kidneys are already weak after a miscarriage, you don’t have enough blood. You can’t afford to be wasting it.
You need to wait at least 6 months after a miscarriage before getting pregnant. This is better for both you and your children.
You need to sit the month whether you had a vaginal delivery or c-section.
Losing hair after giving birth is a sign of not having enough blood or having weak kidneys.
You can do moderate exercise while sitting the month, aiming for just a little bit of sweat. You cannot have excessive sweating. You can also stand up and move around a little, and not stay sitting or laying down the whole time.
Postpartum mothers need sleep. Make sure you have your husband, MIL, or a nanny to help you with the baby at night. Don’t force yourself to take care of the baby. If you don’t get enough sleep, it’ll take even longer for your body to heal.
You can look at your phone, but don’t play on your phone for too long. You need to do it in moderation, or you could hurt your liver.
If you have postpartum depression, take wheat 100g, radix glycyrrhizae preparata 30g, jujube 30g and boil in water and drink once a day.
If you don’t have enough blood after giving birth, you can nurse it back, but make sure to avoid anything raw and cold or spicy.
After you’re done with Shenghua Soup, you can move onto Eight Treasure Soup, which will recover both qi and blood. Very appropriate for postpartum mothers. Remember, remove the toxins first, then fill in any lackings. Eight Treasure Soup recipe: Ginseng 10g, China root 10g, Bai Zhu 10g, radiz glycyrrhizae preparata 6g, rehmannia glutinosa 12g, female ginseng 10g, Chinese peony 12g, Szechuan lovage 8g, 3 slices of raw ginger, jujube 15g.
Don’t hold your child for 3 months after giving birth. It’ll reduce postpartum back pain. For the first month especially, let the baby lie on the bed on their own as much as possible. If you hold them too much to put them to sleep, they’ll get the habit of not sleeping unless they’re held and swayed and rocked. That’ll make it a lot harder to take care of them later on.
Maintain a happy and optimistic mood. It helps avoid liver damage or blocked mammary ducts. Liver damage is especially bad for women in their first month.
You can get aijiu (a form of traditional Chinese medicine where they burn Chinese medical herbs on top of you) while sitting the month. It’ll help open up your chi, improve blood flow, chase away coldness and remove humidity, and is great for postpartum mothers. You can burn wherever doesn’t feel right.
That’s it. Remember to save this post if any of you are thinking about getting pregnant, are expecting, or just gave birth!”
Comments say, “Well, I’ve already fucked up. 7 days after a c-section, I’ve been holding the baby and letting them nurse to sleep. It’s my fourth month along now, and my body is still really bad off, and I’m really afraid of cold.”
“Can you get rid of sitting the month mistakes if you just sit the month again?”
A tiktok video of Chinese women getting professional makeup done.
Comments say, “But she only charges 300 RMB!”
“Honestly, it might look totally ridiculous, but if you look at it as a rare experience, it does seem kind of fun.”
“But at the end, they’re all smiling like they’re having so much fun.”
“Maybe you’ve seen production-line princesses a lot, but they’re sitting in front of the make up mirror for the first time to see how beautiful they become.”
Meanwhile, a different blogger posts a tiktok video, showing what it’s like to have a generous roommate who is very good with makeup.
Comments say, “She needs to open a franchise in every city.”
“They’d all look scary as fuck if she closed off the photoshop filter.”
“The second girl was pretty the second the foundation was finished.”
“Clearly, she hasn’t met me yet. I will make her know the taste of powerlessness.”
I always found the chinese obsession with preserving their surnames hilarious when there are literally tens of millions of people with the same surname.