05/05/23 - If you're going to choose to be a part of a minority, you have to accept being rejected by mainstream society.
People’s News reports on how the WHO has decided that covid is no longer a global world emergency and asks what this means for China. In the comments, people say, “During the lockdowns, the people for cohabitating with covid and the people for defeating covid were fighting every day. As soon as the lockdowns ended, the people for defeating covid suddenly vanished. Isn’t it weird?”
“Maybe people for defeating covid are really just into doing whatever the government says?”
“Just look at this recent golden week’s impact on the economy. A hotel close by to my house has been selling at 300 a night for 3 years, and this last week, it went up to 1330 RMB a night.”
“I’m still too afraid to take off my mask.”
“There are still people paying attention to covid? Seriously?”
“I feel like, if you’re going to choose to be a part of a minority, then you have to accept being rejected by the majority. You can’t have the cake and eat it too. If you can’t accept that, then just go with the mainstream. Do what everyone else do. If everyone is married, go get married too. If everyone’s having kids, go have kids too. Maybe it doesn’t have any personal benefits, but at least you won’t feel rejected by society or like you don’t belong.
But if you’ve chosen to stay single, then don’t blame other people for gossiping behind your back about whether or not you’re gay, or if there’s something wrong with you so nobody wants you, or whether you’re some kind of psycho. If you’ve chosen to be child-free, then don’t blame others for gossiping about whether you’re sterile, if you’re sick with something. If you don’t have at least that much mental fortitude, if you can’t even deal with this much social pressure, and you still insist on being different from everyone else, well…I can only say, that naive people will be taught a harsh lesson by society.
Why is there a concept of mainstream and minorities to begin with? Mainstream culture is designed to reject unique minor subgroups. You should’ve known that before choosing a minority lifestyle for yourself. There’s no perfect solution. There’s no sugar cane that’s equally sweet at both ends. The last thing a minority group should do is do a bunch of promotions and education to try to get accepted by mainstream society. This is impossible. All you’re doing is annoying people and getting more resentment your way.
The correct thing to do is to shut your door and have fun by yourself. So long as you’re not bothering other people, nobody is gonna bother you. If you accidentally bother somebody, apologise, and change so that you don’t bother other people.
Basically, make sure that mainstream society can’t see minorities at all and can entirely ignore them. That’s the correct answer. The more you talk about yourself, the more visible you try to become, the quicker you’ll die.
Also, minorities need to completely shut down the line of thought that says if we promote ourselves and get to know more other minorities, we can band together, increase our voice, and then our culture will be accepted by the mainstream. This is absolutely wrong.
I’ll use crossbow circles as an example—it used to be a super niche thing that nobody knew about. Everyone had a lot of fun. Then, they started promoting themselves, more and more people got involved, all kinds of idiots ended up joining and mucking up the waters, and soon enough, somebody fucked up, and now the entire crossbow circle is gone.
The smaller your minority, the less visible you are, the emptier your gatherings, the better off you are. The more people who know, the more you promote yourself, the more people that join, the more idiots there are going to be. You can’t select out every retard that joins. And those retards will drag you down and kill your entire culture.
The whole point of a minority culture is its uniqueness. You can’t have uniqueness without paying a price for it. There’s no free lunch in the world.”
The comments are filled with debates back and forth of, “Well, this seems like an excellent defense of schoolyard bullying.”
“I still think that anime getting promoted to the public has been a disaster for the community.”
“It’s not like minorities want to be accepted? But a lot of people will go out of their way to find us to bully us. Why do you assume it was minority culture’s fault right off the bat?”
“Cause of attitude like this—this is exactly the sort of attitude that killed the dog circle and the crossbow circle. Because of little retards like you that have to pick an argument.”
“This blog has so much truth—don’t deny it. Don’t force the mainstream to accept you. It’s too difficult. Don’t make the world your enemy. Just live your own life. If you make too much of a big deal with it, when the club comes down, it’s not going to care who gets crushed.”
“Do niche lifestyles deserve to get discriminated against? You can not like it, but you shouldn’t shut other people up just because you don’t like something, right?”
A tiktok video of a mother with hyperemesis, showing her IV marks as she relies on IVs for nutrition.
She writes, “I’m the lady who got an abortion because of severe morning sickness. I stayed in the hospital for half a month, getting IV-dripped nutrition every day. Got the flu there too, and an allergic reaction. In the end, it was with the doctor’s advice that I gave up on my baby. I made the decision with my family and my medical team. My doctor understands my condition because she’s been working with me for a long time. So long as I get the shot, I don’t throw up, but as soon as I stop, I immediately begin throwing up again. The day after I left the hospital, I began throwing up blood. This time, even the shots meant to stop it didn’t work. I lost 2-3 pounds every day at home. I needed help walking. I had such low oxygen that my blood was black when it was drawn.”
The comments say, “I’m a nurse and I’ll tell anyone who fucking asks that yeah, if hyperemesis is so bad that it’s threatening the health of the mother, we’d 100% recommend ending the pregnancy. Whoever suggests otherwise will have a son born with no butthole.”
“I feel like only other pregnant women really understand morning sickness. When I say I’m so nauseous, I want to die, people just think I’m exaggerating.”
“Who can imagine that I can be a neat freak who can’t sleep if I haven’t showered that day, and because of severe morning sickness, I’ve laid in bed for half a month without showering. Even showering once a week seems like an impossible task to me.”
“I can’t even get out of bed, how can I shower? I’m just constantly throwing up and crying. I’m puking nothing but bile now. My throat burns. I only get these tiny little naps in before I have to wake up to throw up again. I barely even make it to the side of the bed. I don’t want this baby either.”
“What’s it any of your business whether she gives up or not? People know their bodies the best. Stop making demands of others from a moral high ground. I hate those kinds of people.”
“Only people who’ve been through it can understand it. I’m 18 weeks along and I throw up blood occasionally too. I’ve had to be hospitalise for throwing up blood too. If my life was in danger, I’d obviously choose to save myself first. People who say we’re just being special snowflakes have obviously never experienced it before.”
A real estate blogger writes, “My daughter is thirty, her boyfriend is 29, they’ve been together for a year. My daughter’s got a Bachelor’s Degree from a 211 university (one tier below ivy league), makes 20K a month, and has a house in the middle of the city under her name. It’s a secondhand house, worth about 20 million. Obviously, we bought it for her. It’s fully paid off though.
Her boyfriend’s from the Jiangsu triangle (the mess of cities between Shanghai, Suzhou, and Hangzhou which contains 1/6th of China’s population). He’s got a decent degree and job, but nothing else. No house, no car, no help from his parents. As parents ourselves, we were never against this relationship. Our daughter isn’t young. If there’s a guy she actually likes, so what if he’s a little poor? We’ve got a house and a car already. Even if his family can’t be of any help, it’s not really his fault, right?
When it was time for them to get engaged, we gave our suggestion. Our daughter’s house will be the marital house. We’ll pay 300K towards furnishing it. If they want higher-end furnishing, then they can pay whatever the difference is themselves. But then our daughter got upset. She’s got a 500K furnishing budget, and she seems to think that expecting them to pay 200K themselves is an entirely unreasonable demand.
Alright, I guess they don’t have even 200K RMB. Though, I really doubt that the guy can’t even put this much money together. So I told my daughter, “Fine, mommy and daddy will take care of everything. We’ve paid for the house, we’ll pay for the furnishing, and we’ll get you a new car. But in exchange, your first kid can take your husband’s last name, but your second kid has to take your last name.”
My daughter said that that should be alright and she’ll ask her boyfriend. But when she returned, things got complicated. The boyfriend said that, “That all sounds find if the first kid is a son. But if the first kid is a girl, what, your granddaughter is gonna take your son-in-law’s name, and the second-born son is gonna take his maternal grandpa’s name? What if the first child is a girl and takes the maternal grandpa’s name, and then she won’t have a second kid?”
The boyfriend suggested that we add his name to my daughter’s house, then he’s happy to let the first kid take my surname, and the second kid can take his surname. If they’re gonna have two kids, then he wouldn’t mind if both the kids get my surname.
My daughter actually agreed. I feel like this is kind of weird. What does it mean, that the guy wants to add his name to her house? What’s everyone’s opinion?”
Comment ask, “You’re a family who can throw around eight figures on houses for your children in fully disposable cash. Why have you not taught her anything about basic survival? She graduated from a 211 university, and she’s never read the news? Never heard of all the scams around marriage? This is so fake.”
“Or, hear me out, you could just not get married, not add any names, and just borrow his sperm.”
“I’m currently in the middle of a divorce case exactly like this. The husband’s demanding half the house. The wife’s mother is blaming the wife’s dad for agreeing to this in the first place. The wife’s dad is claiming he did it to keep his daughter happy. The wife is blaming both of her parents for not refusing to let it happen to begin with. Everyone is regretting it in my conference room. Now we’re just waiting for the court date.”
A beauty blogger writes, “I find that a lot of common sense to other people, I’ve never known, because my parents and the people around me have never told me. Because they don’t know either.
For example, you need to make sure you babies have round heads, because not only is a flat head ugly as fuck, it’ll make their face look bigger and affect IQ development and posture.
For example, if you keep eating what you’re allergic to, it can cause severe mental problems and even schizophrenia. There are studies that show that a lot more schizophrenics have gluten allergies than normal people. It’s a long-term allergy issue, causing all kinds of disarray with the body’s immune system attacking itself, affecting the brain cells. It’ll even speed up Alzheimer’s and dementia, and could affect your IQ too. A lot of people will get moody after eating bread or gluten.
I’ve got some sort of immune issue myself. If my parents had known this, it would have meant a difference of night and day for my health condition. They might have delayed or even controlled my condition entirely. I got allergic reactions all the time as a kid, I got eczema a lot, low fevers, but my parents never took it seriously, and never thought it was related to food. Now that I’m grown up, I’ve discovered there are all kinds of food or medicine I can’t have, because I’m allergic to them. They’re severely destroying my body, triggering my immune reaction. A lot of studies even talk about how sinusitis, pharyngitis, etc could be caused by gluten allergies. If you get rid of the allergy source, you could solve most of these problems. But most people don’t care about stuff like this.
I’ve got flat feet and never gotten supportive footwear or corrective procedures done. As a result, I’m more prone to knee injuries and overextension. I found out all of this after I grew up, from my coaches and physical therapy doctors. Apparently, normal people are supposed to use their thigh muscles to walk, not drag themselves along with their calves. People who primarily use their calves to walk will build more fat onto their tummy and thighs, because they’re not getting worked out, and get thick muscles on their calves. And that makes your knees weaker too.
People with a family history of diabetes need to watch their diet more closely. Even people without a family history of diabetes need to watch their diet. The ratio of diabetes is constantly rising in our country, and more and more people are developing a resistance to insulin. This is all related to chaotic sleep schedules and eating schedules. In the ancient world, when people only ate two small meals at set times every day, their insulin got to rest well. But in modern society, there are more processed foods, more snacks and easy take out, so your insulin might be working 24 hours a day. Sooner or later, the whole system is gonna collapse. Every part of the human body has limited uses, and although they can auto-recover, it takes time. If you use it too much, it’ll break down early. That’s why westerners are all talking about intermittent fasting. There’s a scientific basis to it. The 16 hour fast every day can give your insulin and your digestive system sufficient time to rest, and increase your insulin sensitivity, and balance your blood sugar, and thus prevent diabetes. A regular diet is so important to health.
Sugar and processed foods can cause all kinds of inflammations in the body. Acne is just the most visible kind. Your insides have been fighting with inflammation for much longer. People’s lifespans are tied with inflammation. There’s only so many telomeres on your cells, inflammation forces your cells to keep dividing to heal your body. Telomere chains fall apart, and your life will get shorter. It’ll even make you more prone to cancer. Cancer is also tied to inflammation.
Temperature is super important to mental health. Staying in a cold environment for long periods can cause depression. This is inevitable. You need to take drugs to cure it, or switch to a warm environment to live. Otherwise, you’ll never be happy again.
Parents are selfish. If you want money from your parents, then you must give up your freedom and let yourself be controlled by them, to live according to their will. If you want freedom, then you need to be economically independent and move out to your own house. Then you can be free.
This is what I’ve compiled lately, a bunch of knowledge that I found useful. I wish someone had told me all of this when I was little.
Oh, and one last thing. Listening to your parents won’t bring you success, because they’re just normal people too. They can’t possibly bring you any sort of groundbreaking insights or understanding. If you want to improve yourself, you need to study more, listen more, and learn about more wide-ranging topics. Don’t trap yourself in an echo chamber. Listen to the good and the bad. Don’t blind yourself, and don’t trust in any one single person’s opinions. Including mine.”
What does crossbow circle refer to here?
I'm surprised by the passivity in the minority-majority post. If you look around the world, there have been shocking changes in popular sentiment thanks to minority movements. Gay marriage, for instance, has gone from liberal California making gay marriage illegal as recently as 2008 to universal legalization in 2015. There seem to be plenty of recent examples of minority-led action resulting in major changes in mainstream views.
And that applies to both minority identity groups and minority subcultures. I doubt anyone expected in the 1990s that one day stories about comic book superheroes and Jedi would become the dominant form of popular culture, but today the idea of "nerd" in the original sense is almost dead since everything's gone completely mainstream.
Is that sense of "nothing can be done, just shut up and keep your head down" a uniquely Chinese perspective? Or is it that information gets filtered so people don't know?