04/25/23 - I need to tell her to eat her fill at kindergarten and stop spending my money on food at home!
The incident yesterday of a lady and a mother getting into a fight on the train over a crying baby has become a trending topic, and a childcare blogger writes on the topic, “Stop telling mothers what to do if their babies start crying on the train, how to comfort them, what to do to prevent fussy babies. Mothers know better than anyone how to go about comforting their babies and making them comfortable for travel.
This types of incidents—fussing, screaming children on trains, subways, flights, and all kinds of public places—always go viral, but this isn’t about what to do with a crying baby at all.
Babies have the right to use trains and flights and subways in order to travel, but none of these places attempt to accomodate babies at all. There’s no effort made to provide a comforting, relaxing environment for babies. There are no resources dedicated to mothers travelling with babies.
There is no infrastructure built for them. There aren’t carriages dedicated to babies—they have to spend the entire journey in their parents’ laps. There are no nursing rooms—any attempt to breastfeed could mean people filming you and making fun of you. There’s no place to change a baby who is wet or poopy. There are no slopes to push strollers up or down subways, you have to lift the entire carriage.
You’re destroying the habitats of babies, creating difficulties for them to travel, of course they’re going to cry. And then you turn around and blame them for crying, try to lecture their mothers on how to comfort them? What about the mothers who are robbed of the resources they were due for raising babies? Is it their responsibility to figure out how not to bring trouble to other people?
This is about an unfair distribution of societal resources. Why should the burden fall on mothers and babies? You don’t allow an environment or resources for the baby to survive in, but they’re not even allowed to cry about it? People who are bothered by fussy babies, did you not come from a mother yourself? Were you not a baby once? Are mothers just supposed to sit at home and never leave the house?
Serial child trafficker Aunty Mei has been captured in Guangdong. Comments are full of celebrations and people calling for death sentence, with some saying that death is too easy, she should die of a thousand cuts.
“My daughter just assassinated my wallet again. She gets three meals a day at kindergarten and still wants snacks when she gets home. We passed by a supermarket with huge bread that can more than fill her stomach for just 1 RMB, and she insists on getting wings that are 8 RMB for two pieces. And she ate four pieces! I need to tell her that she needs to eat her fill at kindergarten and stop spending my money on food at home! I don’t know if she’s going to listen to me or not, but if she keeps spending money like this, I’m not gonna have any left for my second child.”
A mother posts, “Sorry, baby, I couldn’t win against your dad! I’ve always wanted a baby with big eyes and double lids, but my daughter is just a copy-paste of her dad. I’m just the copy machine. Like some kind of human delivery service. Everyone’s comforting me that at least I participated in the process. I refused to accept this! They all say that sons resemble mothers more, and my second kid was indeed a son. But…he looks even more like his dad! He’s just like a miniature version of my husband! I’m crying in the bathroom now, just ignore me.
She attaches a photo of her husband as a baby and her as a baby.
Followed by a photo of her daughter and her husband.
Followed by a photo of her son and her husband.
Someone asked, “What was the worst beating you got as a kid?” The are lots of answers.
“My dad got home from work and I wouldn’t open the door for him. I even stuck my face against the window and laughed at him.”
“I pulled out a used menstrual pad of my moms and stuck it on my dad’s head. He didn’t notice when he got up in the morning and went to work that way.”
“It was my birthday. I don’t know where my mom found someone talking about how each child’s birthday is the anniversary of their mother’s suffering. She took a look at how happy I was and kicked the shit out of me.”
“I saw someone put a little urn in a little cave and thought it had treasure inside, so I took it back home. The next day, the whole family took turns beating me.”
“I’ve only been beaten once. I grew up super poor, and we had a big jar of sesame oil at home. In the afternoon, it started leaking oil. When my parents came back, they asked me why there was so much oil all over everything. I told them I just wanted to find out how much would leak out. My dad didn’t even try to hold my mom back.”
“I took some money off of the table when I was little. My parents asked me if I saw the money that was over here, and I said, “I didn’t take the five dollars on the table!””
“I caught a dung beetle and my dad stepped on it. I threw a tantrum demanding he resurrect the dung beetle and just got a beating instead. I think that was the only time I was beaten in the last twenty something years.”
“I hid my two-month-old sister in my book bag to take to school to show my classmates. I swore I vaguely saw my dead grandma that day while passing in and out of consciousness.”
“I swore at my video game and my mom thought I swore at her. She told my dad, and he drove all night to get home to beat me, then immediately left.”
“I drank a carton of milk when I was little, and was scared that people would find out, so I put a brick inside. My mom didn’t know and took it as a gift to somebody. When she got back, I got whipped with a belt.”
“I had a crush on a girl in my class and went over to play at her house. I saw her mom was super pretty too, so I told her that when I grew up, I would marry her daughter as my wife and take her as my concubine.”
“I pulled down my 80-year-old grandpa’s pants in the living room in front of the whole family.”
“I told my grandma to do my homework for me. My dad kicked me across the room.”
“My dad worked as an accountant. When I was little, we didn’t have enough RAM on our computer and couldn’t download Cross Strike, so I deleted all of his excel sheets and tax tools. I almost reincarnated again that day.”
Someone asks for help on the internet, “Does anyone know a good doctor for arthritis, or even a good traditional Chinese doctor? I’ve got a relative, girl, 28-years-old, not married, has got bad arthritis for almost a decade now. She’s taken all kinds of medicine, shots, whatever, almost everything for it. She’s taken so much medicine, it’s causing her to lose hair, cease her period, and get kidney damage. Even so, her condition isn’t getting any better. It’s worsening, in fact. I’ve watched her get tortured by this all these years and I’m really worried about her. On the one hand, she’s so young and she’s on the verge of collapse due to her health condition. On the other hand, she’s almost 30, it’s time for her to get married. I’m honestly despairing.
Could you post this and see if anyone knows a good doctor or a Chinese medicine doctor with lots of experience?”
Comments is a warzone of debates over which one is better, a doctor or a Chinese medicine doctor.
A tiktok of a guy walking through a street-side market in Chengdu, seeing how many stall owners he can find with unfair scales. The first store he stops at sells Fruit Lao (fruits in thin, milky yogurt, a popular dessert), where the scale was off by 200g. Next is boneless chicken feet, where the scale was off by 37 grams. Next seems to be some kind of fried foods store, where the scale was off by 98 grams. Next, he buys some…I dunno, garlic? or mushrooms. The scale here is off by 221 grams. Next he buys some ugly oranges, which are off by 875 grams. His phone is 240 grams exactly. He tries his phone on the old lady’s scales, which report 360 grams. He buys more oranges, where by putting his phone on the scale, he finds that it’s off by 70 grams. He buys some mangosteens, where the scale is off by some 400 grams again. He ends by buying a stick of sugarcane, which weighed on the merchant’s scales as a little over 2 kg, but which weighed on his scale as just 1kg, off by half.
By confirming with his own scale, he saved 110 RMB between 8 stalls, which is enough to eat a decent hotpot meal in Chengdu.
The blogger reposting this says, “I can’t believe there are people who think tiktokkers who call fraudsters out are embarrassing. Do you know how many times you’ve been scammed?”
Comments worry, “God, I’m so scared someone’s gonna try to get revenge on him.”
A blogger complains about live action Little Mermaid and her 6 sisters, saying, “The difference here is a biiiit big.”
Comments are joking, “So, did their dad cheat, or is he a cuckold?”
“Maybe he’s also got nine wives?”
“It must be a lot of effort finding the Asian actress with the slantiest eyes to mock us.”
“Are they wearing fishskin underwear? Sea shells make sense to me, but what’s up with this fish skin? Does it naturally grow on them, or did they rip it off of some fish? Or are they wearing other mermaids’ skin?”
A healthcare blogger writes, “Everyone complaining about modern medicine, honestly, I think they just have too much to eat. Their lives are too easy.
Without modern medicine, most people can’t even get past the first danger of being born. These days, if you have any difficulty at all, we’ve got C-sections. Before modern medicine, it’s just a matter of choose the baby or the mother to live.
Even if you’re successfully born, you’ve got to worry about tetanus. Before modern medicine and labour and delivery methods, baby tetanus was everywhere and lethal as fuck. Nowadays, who’s even heard of such a thing?
After you’re born, you’ve got to face all kinds of diseases: from smallpox to polio, from measles to chickenpox…which one of these diseases hasn’t killed millions of lives? It’s with modern vaccines that we’ve eliminated smallpox and polio and drastically reduced measles and chickenpox. And there are certain illnesses, like salmonella, where although we don’t have vaccines, we can treat it easily with antibiotics.
In 1949, the average lifespan in our country was 35. By 2021, our average lifespan was 78.2. Without modern medicine, without vaccines, how would such a thing be possible?
People putting down modern science, putting down western medicine, putting down vaccines—they’re either absolutely retarded or they’re outright malicious.”
Another healthcare blogger writes, “Our hospital is experimenting with letting someone accompany the mother during childbirth. We’ve tried a couple of cases now, and all the results are, well…lol.
The first case was after an epidural had already been administered. It was a male family member, who was pretty alert and helpful. The mother wasn’t in that much pain, they just sat together, chatted, and watched TV. Later, as she got in more and more pain, the guy started freaking out. He was calling a doctor in every 2-3 minutes. When her water broke, he collapsed on the floor and begged to be let out of the room. Said, “This is worse than running 1.5km.”
For the second case, we thought we’d get a female family member to accompany. After all, she would’ve given birth before. Maybe she’ll be a little better off than a guy. So we had a family where the husband was away at work out of state, and the MIL wanted to go in to take care of the new mommy. When the MIL arrived, the mother was still asking for an epidural. The MIL had no opinions, so we got the anaesthesiologist to come in with the epidural. While they waited, the MIL even wiped away her sweat, helped her drink water, and sort out her clothes. After the anaesthesiologist got done disinfecting his tools and is about to poke the needle in, the MIL saw the needle and started freaking out. “That’s a huge needle! And you have to poke it into the spine!? No wonder so many people get fucked up by epidurals! No wonder they all have back pain afterwards! Of course that’s gonna cause back pain!”
No matter how much we tried to explain, the MIL wouldn’t agree. She insisted that even if an epidural has to be administered, we have to wait for her son to get back. She apparently thought an epidural was just a shot in the butt or arm. The mother got frustrated and asked for the MIL to leave, said she didn’t need anyone there with her. But the MIL refused to go, said that her daughter-in-law was in too much pain to think straight, she’s only worrying about pain now and not pain later, that there has to be a lucid person in the room to consider for her. Even if she was to leave, it won’t be until her son gets here.
She did her best to be a good companion, she massaged the mommy, wiped away her sweat, fed her food, and everything. After almost 3 hours, the husband made it, and the mother was already 8cm open. She was already numb with pain. I don’t know what the MIL told the husband, but when the husband came in, he said that, “Well, it’s not going to get much worse than this, let’s just forget about the epidural. It’s going to cause too much harm.” Thankfully, she delivered quickly and had a baby just a little over an hour after that.”
Comments ask, “What right does the MIL have to refuse an epidural on behalf of the mother?” And OP replies, “Well, none, but she sat on the bed and wouldn’t let the anaesthesiologist get near.”
A kindergarten teacher in Dongguan has been arrested for molesting students. The department of education is investigating his teacher certificate, the responsibilities of other staff members at the kindergarten, and fully cooperating with the police.
Comments reply, “Oh, so now we avoid mentioning the gender? We sure take a lot of care to specify female teacher, female driver…but now we can’t say male kindergarten teacher?”
“Meanwhile, also the government: we need to raise the ratio of male teachers.”
“In Fujian, men trying to become teachers don’t have to pass any tests and get their tuition fully reimbursed.”
“God, it’s so nice to be a man. You could molest kindergarten-age kids and not have your privacy exposed.”
Was the mother who is upset that neither of her children look like her getting agreement or criticism?
I wonder when Aunt Mei's capture will hit Western news, gonna try to keep an eye on that for curiosity
Also I am so upset at the stories of those beatings, wtf especially at the one mom who beat up her child for *being happy on their birthday*, and the one where the kid swore at a game so the mom called the dad to come back and beat them, horrifying (obviously abuse happens in the US as well but nonetheless I am horrified)
The bit about a guy being able to save money by using his own scale was pretty surprising — it's never occurred to me, but a crooked merchant would certainly be able to scam customers that way.
The bit about defending modern science/vaccines surprised me, though. Is it coming from the same school of thought as American anti-vaxxers (basically suspicion and distrust of authority/elites), or is this a product of rabid nationalism (the West is bad, therefore western science is bad too)?