A relationship blogger posts her conversation with a fan’s submissions to her over the course of a year.
January 30th: “Hey, what do guys feel about getting money from someone they don’t like? I really like a guy, but he doesn’t seem responsive to that at all, so I figured that if we can’t be lovers, we can at least be normal friends who see each other often. So tomorrow, for new year’s, I was thinking about sending him 2022 RMB. It’s not like I’m trying to buy his friendship with small change like that, I just really like him. But I’m worried he’ll think I’m cheap, because his salary is pretty high. What if he doesn’t take it and doesn’t respond to my texts? Would it be super awkward? If he doesn’t like me, what do you think he’s going to feel about me sending him money? Can you show this to your readers and see what they think?”
January 31st: “Hey, I read all the comments. They’re right—I don’t really know him well. We met up at a hotel before, but we didn’t end up having sex. I don’t know if we still count as friends with benefits. I’ve never dated anybody, I really like him. I’m not trying to make anything happen with the money, I just want to do something for him. I guess, we’re not really friends. I guess we’re more like FWB. I paid for the hotel room when we met up too, cause I figured it’s not like I’m not going to be staying in the room. What should I do? I like him so much.”
Later the same day: “I sent him money! I sent 1888 RMB, and he took it. After he took it, he said that he still doesn’t want to be with me. He didn’t say why, but I get that he was saying he probably never wants to date me, but maybe we can still be friends. What should I do?”
Blogger: “What do you mean what should you do? Didn’t you say what you wanted was to be normal friends with him? Or were you lying about not wanting to buy a relationship with him?”
OP: “But he took the money. I just want to ask if he’s still worth pursuing or not. I really didn’t think he’d actually take it.”
Blogger: “My comment section already told you—he’s not worth it.”
OP: “Okay. Well, lesson learned for 1888 bucks. I give up. He makes several times what I do anyways. I’m an idiot. Thanks for helping. Honestly, I was just trying to test him. I don’t like him as much now that he took my money. If he’d turned it down, I think I’ve have fallen deeper for him. Honestly, I’m feeling kinda disappointed in him.”
February 4th: “He blacklisted me! I’m so upset! I really, really loved him. Even if all I could do was watch his social media posts, I’d have been happy. I was going to send him a goodnight message and I saw that he blocked me! How could he do this? I’m genuinely having a breakdown. Are there any good men left in the world?”
February 6th: “I fucked up again today. He added me back, and I couldn’t control myself. I got him a gift worth like 5K RMB. I thought he’d be a man and just never contact me again if he doesn’t like me. I thought he’d turn down my gifts. I thought maybe he’d feel touched to receive a gift that expensive, and maybe he’d contact me more or something, so I bought it for him. It just arrived two days ago, and I said yesterday that I want to see what’s up with his life. I wanted him to send me a picture. And he still hasn’t responded to me yet. I understand now that no matter what I do for him, he’ll never care. I feel disgusted. It’s so not worth it. I really want to get my 1888 transfer and 5K gift back. How should I go about saying this? What if he doesn’t want to give it back?”
“The only reason I sent these gifts is so that maybe he would chat with me every now and then. I wasn’t hoping to become his girlfriend or anything. Now I’m feeling a lot more lucid. His behaviour is really driving me to despair. I just want to get my stuff back. Is this okay? I did give the gifts willingly in the first place. But he never even said thanks. He doesn’t even bother to type a one word response to my texts. This is the first time I’ve seen a man like this.”
July 28th: “He invited me to go to a massage parlour with him. Is this normal? I’ve never gotten a message. He says it doesn’t mean anything. Do you need to take off your clothes at a massage parlour? How many people to a room?”
August 5th: “Is it really okay for men and women to go get massages together? He’s asking me out to get a massage. Is that a thing that normal friends do with each other?”
September 29th: “Do men and women get massages together when they’re not dating? It’s a proper, famous franchise massage place, all the staff are old ladies. Can I get a response?”
Blogger: “It’s been two months and you still haven’t went to the spa with him?”
OP: “I’m just wondering. He doesn’t like me. Not at all. But if we were in a room together and I took my clothes off, would he do something?”
October 4th: “Alright, I admit it. I tried to have sex with him and he wouldn’t do it. I said I wanted to meet up with him, and he said that’s fine, but it can’t be at a hotel. I said I’m okay with any place that’s quiet where we can be alone, so he suggested a massage parlour. So I asked to go to a two-people SPA. He said fine, so I ordered a 1800 RMB couples spa and we are gonna go next month. I waited this long because I was super busy with work and couldn’t take a day off. I’ve quit my job now until next month.”
“I’m super into him. I met him on tiktok. He has over 100,000 fans on tiktok, gets hundreds of thousands of upvotes on his videos. Maybe you’ve seen his content too. I followed him on the internet for ages, and he finally agreed to meet up with me, but he wanted to go to a hotel. I agreed. When I got to the hotel, like, middle of the night, he said he was passing by and wanted to come in and see me. I said okay, and we chatted for like 15 minutes, and he stripped me naked. He wanted me to suck him off, but I’m a virgin and I’ve never dated anyone, so I refused. I felt like that really pissed him off. We didn’t do anything together, just hung out for an hour, and he left. The next day, when I tried to contact him again, he wouldn’t say anything to me. So, around new years, I sent him the 1888, and then I got him an iPhone 13 a little later. Then he got back to talking to me. I can’t forget about him, I want to see him. Maybe I am crazy. I’m willing to see him even if it’s just to fuck. I asked if he wanted to get a night at Bulgari Hotel, and he didn’t say anything back, so I figured that meant a no. So we decided to meet at the spa instead.”
“What am I supposed to do? I’m in too deep. Is it my fault or his?”
“He’s 33. I’m 25.”
Later that same day: “Hey, after a year, I met up with him again, but he absolutely refused to touch me. He said I needed to get out of his life, stop harassing him. We chatted for three hours and he left. I can’t let him go. I want to be with him. Even if it’s not as boyfriend girlfriend, even if it’s just a one night stand, he still wouldn’t do it. Then I told him that he would sleep with me one time, I’ll give him 10,000 RMB, and we’ll sign a contract that I would never contact him again. He agreed, took the 10K, and he wants the contract to include that I can’t tell anyone about the things he’s done too. I’ve signed and thumbprinted the contract. We agreed to meet up at the end of April.”
“Am I being an idiot? But I just really, really like him. What am I supposed to do? This is my first time. I’ve never dated anyone before. He’s 35. The last couple of days, I’m starting to wonder if I’ve screwed up again. I’m starting to hesitate whether I should actually do this. But I just like him so much. What am I supposed to do? Can you post this to your readers and see if anyone can beat me into sanity?”
Blogger: “Please. You’ve already seen hundreds of comments telling you you’re an idiot. What would change this time around?”
The comments this time say, “Honestly, take some of that money and go get yourself admitted to the mental ward please.”
A blogger shows the screenshot of a text from a primary school teacher, “Parents, if some of you really don’t want to sign up for extra tutoring, you can tell me. I’ll refund you. You don’t have to post everything on tiktok. All of you should know why these tutoring classes exist. You know how important getting tutoring is. And tutoring is going to be expensive—there’s nothing I can do about that. We have to get 240-260 RMB per student. This is high school tutoring, all the teachers are accomplished STEM people.“
“I thought a long time and felt like I had to say something. All of this tutoring is entirely voluntary. If you want to come, you’re welcome. If you don’t want to come, well, nobody is making you. But teachers are going to get cheaper. If you can afford it, then come. If you can’t afford it, then stay home. Honestly, tutoring was never designed for poor families anyways. If you’re poor, then just don’t come. Don’t get jealous that other people are getting tutoring and report me to the authorities. I’ve seen plenty like you. We’re all doing tutoring over the internet now. There’s nothing for you to report. And honestly, if I can be blunt, what are you peasants going to do? God, I’ve even had people change their phone numbers to call me with a voice-changer to get audio recordings as evidence.”
“A couple of days ago, one of the moms said she doesn’t want to keep going anymore, and I refunded her right away. I’d never refuse to refund. I’ll figure out who reported me. If that parent still has a kid in my class, then just you wait and see. How do you think I can get so many STEM geniuses to come tutor your kids? I’ll tell you right now, whether it’s the principal or the school board or the board of education for Hunan District, or the board of education for the city, or the board of education for the state, they’re all letting tutoring go. You’re not going to change anything. What are you gonna do? Even if you contact the media, no one’s gonna dare to write a report about this. And I can get professionals to reverse your voice-changing technology, and I’ll figure out who you are. Just you wait. I’ll make you wish you were fucking dead for the next two years.”
The blogger says, “Is this real? As the parent of a kiddo in primary school right now, I’m literally shaking. If I could, I wish I’d never had kids. That way, I don’t have to be tortured every day.”
The Memphis Zoo is holding a farewell party for Yaya the Panda on the 8th of April. They’re inviting everyone to come wish Yaya a safe trip and celebrate 20 years of working together with the Chinese Animals Association. There’ll be performances and farewell letters there. Yaya is going to stay at the Memphis Zoo until the end of April.
Under the trending topic #should bride prices and dowries be equal? A blogger writes, “I can offer a fair form of marriage—no bride price, no dowry, split the cheque on every expense after marriage, take care of your own parents, split all housework evenly. As for children, because it’s going to necessarily involve more on the woman’s part, she should be paid according to what surrogate mothers get paid. If it takes 400K, for example, to get a surrogacy, then she should get 200K, to signify splitting those costs. The first year after giving birth, because she has to breast feed and take a hit to her career, the man should make up for it by taking on an extra share of housework. Split all expenses and care duties associated with the child. Draw lots to decide whose last name the child takes. If there’s a second child, then that kid takes the other parent’s name. Of course, it might be easier to just not get married.”
Comments say, “I still think that we need to each get pregnant for 20 weeks.”
Someone complains, “Old people babysitting kids causes so many problems. If you complain about anything they do, it escalates into a family dispute. My coworker changed nannies three times in half a year, and has to keep checking her nanny cam all day at work. She’s exhausted too. My neighbour send her kid to daycare and the poor kiddo got sick twice in one month and lost 2-3 pounds of weight. She got so scared she quit going to daycare.”
“There are so many practical problems in the course of childrearing. No wonder young people these days don’t dare to have kids. Raising the next generation is far beyond the duties of a family—society needs to do better about guaranteeing employment for mothers, regulating the childcare industry, and raising the standards of daycares, so that people can feel safe having kids.”
“How do you raise your kid? Do your kids cling to anyone other than mommy once they’re past one year old? I’m exhausted being the only person who can put my kiddo to bed. Has anyone sent their kid to daycare before two years old?”
A trending topic that #woman turns her own father in for receiving 19 million in bribes. A blogger comments, “19 million. A normal person—no, an entire normal family could work all their life and never make that much. Wow, there are a lot of rich people in the world. Maybe housing prices will keep going up after all.”
I wonder if the ultra competitive asian-style education is a reason for low asian TFRs. If having a child go through repeated examinations is a an expensive and miserable experience than why bother having more than one kid, if that?