Someone asks, “Is it too much to ask my sister-in-law to give my daughter some of her breast milk? My daughter is two years old, but she has a lot of digestive issues, and as a result, she’s kind of behind on her development. She can’t talk, can’t grasp a lot of concepts. She’s doing recovery at the hospital. I didn’t have any breast milk when she was a baby, and the doctor suggested I feed her rice porridge and yams, and look to see where I might borrow some breast milk.”
“My sister in law had a baby too, and she had a lot of milk. She used to pump out 150cc every day for my daughter, and it’s made such a visible difference in her. In the two months with her breast milk, my daughter gained two pounds of weight, and got a lot more of an appetite. She used to take 6 months to gain two pounds. I was absolutely overjoyed.”
“But now my sister in law is also falling behind on milk production. Her baby is just over four months old and she’s only barely making enough for her own baby. I wanted to ask her whether she’s willing to have her kid take formula for one feeding per day, so my daughter can continue to have breast milk. Obviously, I’d pay for the formula. But I don’t want to put her in an awkward position.”
“My brother and sister-in-law is living with us right now, while renting their own house out for income. I’ve been buying groceries for them and cooking three meals a day for them. Aside from diapers, they haven’t have to buy anything for their baby, because they’ve been using my daughter’s old baby stuff. I honestly don’t want to ruin this relationship though. I know that breast milk is really good for little babies. I don’t know if I should even ask. Does anyone have advice?”
Comments say, “If you don’t know if you should ask, that’s a sign that you shouldn’t ask.”
A compilation of posts by men. “I’m a virgin. Wanted to try it out with a prostitute or something, but gave up, cause I’m too scared. I don’t want to wear a condom, I want to do it raw, but I’m worried she’s got STDs. And if my family finds out, I’m done for. Sometimes I get too horny and I take care of it myself. Looks like I still need to get a girlfriend.” Reply below is, “Chill, bro, once you start sleeping with prostitutes, you can’t stop. You’re probably better off getting a girlfriend. There’s a lot of girls in college, so it’s not that hard. Just text them frequently, offer comfort, and give out a couple of gifts and you’ve got it in the bag. And it’s a lot safer. Why pay for it when you can get sex for free?”
“College guys have such low standards. If a girl expresses interest, most guys are gonna go along with it. After all, who wouldn’t want a free whore? That’s what most men think.”
“Some people have asked me whether I date just to sleep with girls. My reply is, yeah, why else would I invest all this emotional value and money in you? Why not just get a prostitute? My answer is, if it was legal, I would never date again. I’m spending money on chicks every day anyways. It’s honestly a lot easier to get a clean prostitute. But I’m just a student, don’t have the connections to find someone clean, and don’t want to get screwed over, so I’m stuck dating.”
“A guide to getting rich fast for men. First, get a girl pregnant. If they get an abortion, find a new target and get them pregnant, until you get a child. Then, get married. Go with your dad to her house and kill her entire family, including her. Note, you have to play support here, your dad has to do the killing. Then, have your dad go turn himself in and get a plea deal. As the victim’s family member (as the husband), write a letter of forgiveness for him, and he’ll probably just get a sentence of two years probation. Do away with the kid, wait for your dad to come out of jail, and start on the next round. Even better if you find a girl from a divorced family, where she has a biological dad and a step dad. You can get two inheritances with one marriage.
Note, it’s important that you control the order in which people die. The parents have to go first, because then the children will inherit all their property. If you kill the kids first, a lot of relatives become eligible for inheritance. If you don’t want to wait for the cool down of your dad getting out of jail, you can get your mom to poison the whole family too. Shortens the cool down on this in half. If you can find a reliable assassin, that’s even better, because the sentencing is even lighter and the cool down shorter.
Every round of this, you’ll get the entirety of a family’s estate as the only surviving member.
Course, there’s nothing stopping women from doing the same thing, but women have to go through rounds of birthing a child every time, and it’s a lot harder to accomplish murders with a physical disadvantage. They pretty much need to apply the poison debuff every time.”
“The reason I haven’t cheated so far is not that I don’t want to, but I haven’t found a woman better than my wife yet. This woman really has a lot going for her. First, she’s good looking. Second, she’s super rich. I’ve been unemployed for over a decade and have never had to worry about money. Third, she’s super into taking care of the kids. I’ve never had to bother with my kids. She’s taken on all the jobs herself. I only bring up suggestions every once in a while—she’s the one that figures out how to execute them. Four, she makes great food. Five, she adds my name to everything. Six, she’s super generous. Every time we travel anywhere, we live in the best hotels and rent the best cars and go to the most expensive tour areas. There are lots of women near where I live, but no one really matches up to her, so fine. I gave up. Aside from being an absolute bitch, there’s really nothing wrong with my wife.”
“My apple charger is between my desk and my female colleague’s desk, and every day, she uses my charger to charger her Air Pods. I’m wondering are Air Pod batteries really that weak, that they need charged every day? Is this some kind of lewd hint that she wants me to take her out?”
“Guys, focus on dating. Dating means free pussy. Marriage means a free whore for the rest of your life. You gotta look for a hopeless romantic though. A lot of feminists are way too lucid—stay away from them.”
A two year old girl used her mom’s lipstick to draw all over her mom’s vanity. A comment under this post said, “God, I would be fucking furious. But I would never beat the kid, because just hysterically venting your emotions doesn’t solve any problems. I would first tell her that, “You’re covered in lipstick, just like my vanity.” And then, I would take her favourite toys and start dyeing it, and I’d tell her, “You destroyed what’s mine, so I’m gonna destroy what’s yours until we’re even. Next time you do this, I’ll do it back too.” She’ll probably scream and cry, and I’ll tell her, “You know how upset you are right now? That’s how upset I feel too, because my favourite thing was ruined too.” And then we’d clean up the vanity and her toy together. This way she knows how to take responsibility for what she did. If she doesn’t want to clean the vanity, then I’ll force her.”
A childcare blogger says, “This is a lot more fucked up than the other suggestions of just beating the shit out of her. First of all, this is your own kid, not some stranger’s brat. For a grown ass adult with income and money and savings, a messed up vanity and a ruined lipstick only takes a couple of months at most to afford again, even if it was honestly beyond salvaging. That’s not to mention that all it takes is wiping it clean again and just buying a new lipstick. If you want to teach your kid a lesson, just have them help with cleaning, teach her that it takes a lot of effort to clean up the vanity again.
Children have no financial independence. They are entirely dependent on adults. Her attachment to toys is completely different from an adult’s attachment to lipstick. When lipstick or makeup gets ruined, an adult is going to think in terms of how many pay cheques it’s going to take to get replacements. That’s not how a two-year-old thinks about her favourite toy.
This form of discipline looks fair and equal at first glance, but it’s super unfair. It’s just like how, if this was your best friend or any other equal adult who had ruined your lipstick, normal people would just demand that they buy a new lipstick, or clean the table. Nobody would say give me your most beloved thing so I can destroy it back. You destroy my stuff, I destroy your stuff, and now we both have ruined stuff. That is fucking insanity if you put it in the context of an adult relationship.
This is shitty parenting. This is just taking revenge on your child, using your power over them to make them upset. A lot of people understand that, as a civilised person, they’re not supposed to beat their kids, so they’ve come up with brand new forms of emotional abuse.
A lot of people claim that this little girl is naturally bad. If you don’t beat her, if you don’t hurt her, she’ll never learn. The original poster only said that she had drawn all over the vanity with lipstick. There is not a single mention of other damage done. When a toddler takes your lipstick to draw with it, they are not intentionally trying to destroy your stuff. They are merely curious about things that leave colours. You have to understand whether she is maliciously trying to destroy things, or just into doodling. If she just wants to doodle, you can buy her art supplies, let her explore that interest safely.
Looking at internet comments on how to deal with children, I feel like a lot of adults might be parents for the first time, but they’ve also forgot that they used to be a kid too. There are people who claim, “When a kid is tantrumming for a new toy, the parent should just pull their phone out and ignore them.” And there are also people saying, “My parents never bought me toys as a kid, so now that I’m an adult, I can’t stop buying mountains of toys.”
Spoiling a kid to no end raises a shitty brat. Abusing them raises just as dysfunctional a brat too. And whether now or in the past, most people think that all you have to do to be good parents is make sure your kid has enough to eat every day.
Even though they know how frustrating it is for their parents to say to them, “What pressure do kids today have? When we were kids, we didn’t even have any food to eat.”, yet they’ll still turn around and say, “Kids today grow up with iPads and phones and laptops. We didn’t have anything like that when we were little. What do they have to complain about?”
A lot of parents, including myself, get super angry when their kid can’t learn something. I got so mad trying to teach my niece English that I never wanted to see her again. A lot of people would just start beating the kid. Why, can you literally beat English into their heads? Does each beating give you IQ+1? And some parents will use their power over their kid to give them pressure, to make them upset.
I’ve seen a video before of a dad scolding his kid. He had a perfect reason—his kid didn’t want to do homework. He was supposed to do a page of homework every day, and after half a month, the kid had only completed eight pages. The kid is crying and begging, “Can you just leave for a second and I’ll get it done?” But the dad is slamming on the desk, pointing, yelling at the kid the whole time, even uploading the vide on the internet so that internet commenters can join in telling off this terrible brat who doesn’t do homework and argues back.
Okay, winter holiday is only a month long, and kids needs to complete three booklets (180 pages roughly) of homework. Summer holiday is two months long, and it’s six booklets of work. With that much work every day, who can really enjoy their holiday? When I was growing up, I didn’t write a single page of my work and the teacher never checked. It was fucking awesome.
Like I said in my big essay yesterday, yeah, there is technically endless potential if you are good at studying, but so much depends on just luck. And there’s so much pressure on students nowadays, and they have no way of getting out from their parent’s thumb. There are a lot of kids who commit suicide over this pressure, and most people just say, “Wow, how selfish and inconsiderate. Do they not care about their parents at all?” But once children are brought to this world and see how society is, they can think to themselves, too, that, “I didn’t want to come in this world. I didn’t ask to be born.””
Someone filmed a tiktok video atop a mountain saying, “Now I finally understand why girls abducted into the mountains can never get free again.”
Underneath this video are comments, “Two girls were abducted. One of them managed to flee and get the police to go back to save the other. And no matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t find the way again.”
“It’s far beyond just the terrain. The whole village is watching you. All the local government workers and all the villagers know. If you run, the whole entire village will go hunt you down. There’s no way to escape.”
“My mom is the only one who ever managed to get away.”
“My mom and I managed to flee too. My mom was super smart, she pretended like she had no idea what was happening and rolled along with everything. Then, in the early am, we snuck out. A whole horde of people were searching for us. I was only 5, 6 years old back then and had no idea what was happening. I just listened to my mom, stayed quiet when she said to stay quiet, and we hid from their search. If I hadn’t, I haven no idea what kind of hell awaited my mom and I. My mom used to lie to me all the time that it was perfectly fine. I only realised what kind of situation we were in once I’m grown up.”
“Once they force you to birth kids, those kids are going to watch you when they grow up too, to prevent you from running away.”
“But a lot of kids from the mountains say that their mom had run off. So what’s the truth?”
“A lot of times, if the mom got beaten to death, the family will tell the kid that she’d run off.”
“Yeah, it has nothing to do with mountains. It has to do with people. A whole village of people.”
“They all know the terrain way better than you too.”
“You can go check out the movie Blind Mountain. I used to not get it either, and after I watched that movie, it literally keeps me up at night. I used to be so ignorant. I’m so lucky to grow up safely.”
“Blind Mountain is a conservative telling. The truth is a lot crueler. An abducted woman is usually shared by nine or ten different families, they’ll have lots of different people’s children. They get drugged all the time too. There are ways to turn someone into a retard.”
Someone posts a photo taken from a plane window, saying, “Suddenly, I can’t enjoy China’s scenery anymore. Who knows how many despairing eyes are buried in every mountain?”
“It’s not a single mountain, it’s a whole range of mountains squished up against each other. You can’t get out on feet alone—it took me seven hours to drive through with a car.”
“You can’t run. Reality is, these people have gotten smarter too. An old guy got a middle-aged woman from god-knows where and keeps her chained up in his room. Feeds her one meal a day, tiny portions. If she resists at all, he strips her naked, ties her to a pole outside, and beats her. It only takes a couple of months before she’s been tortured to the point of insanity. Now, he doesn’t need to watch her at all. She’s given up on escaping. She listens to his every word. He’s said to everyone that he just needs a woman—he doesn’t care if they’re crazy or sane.”
“My village only has a single road going in and out. Everything else is just impassable mountain or valley. If you don’t know the area super well, you’ll die trying to escape.”
“A lady in my village got sold to an old man for 3000 RMB. When she was 18, a man from that village said he was going to go work in a factory outside, so she left with him and we never heard from her again. When she finally got back, she was in her forties and her kid over there was 18 already. That’s when they finally stopped watching her so closely. She said she’d been chained up in a room for twenty years. Can’t find her abductor anymore, no evidence, and for the sake of her son, she never even told the cops.”
“Lol, we can make sure every person in these remote villages can get Covid tested every day, but we can’t make sure they aren’t abducting women.”
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