“The girl I dated chose the first guy. I just want to know how I lost. Things were going along great, but I got turned down anyways. I wanted to know what kind of guy she picked, and she told me very honestly, but I still can’t accept it. I don’t know where I lost.
Competitor: 178cm, 26-years-old, Master’s Degree from average university, civil servant (in city government), makes 150K a year, little chances of raises in the future, 8AM to 5PM, not very busy, can slack off at work, native born to the state capital and works there, only child, parents state capital citizens, 6 million RMB house, willing to split housework 50-50 with wife, good at cooking, isn’t willing to turn over his pay, want to put money into joint account and manage it together, only want 1 child, no demands, free range childrearing.
OP: 165cm, 30 years old, Doctorate from 211 University [a bit below Ivy League equivalent], tenure (research lab job), makes 250K a year, might raise to 350K or 400K+ with more papers published, 9AM to 6PM, work requires concentration, can’t slack off, small town native, works in state capital, only child, parents are civil servants in small town, 4.5 million RMB house, no time for housework and doesn’t like to do housework, prefer to hire a maid for a couple grand a month to do 70% of the housework, and the wife can do the other 30%, willing to turn over all my pay, trusts my wife with all my money, want 2 kids, high expectations in kids, no sexism or preferential treatment, will split estate equally.
Comments say, “Won’t do housework + two kids.”
“And comes from a small town and want two kids. If the girl is an only child from the big city, no wonder she doesn’t want to date him.”
“Even if you pay someone to do 70% of the housework, you’re gonna make your wife do the other 30% all by herself? I can’t accept those values. It reveals to much about your nature.”
“Every time they fight, he can say, “I’m the one paying for all this work to get done though!” That’s assuming he comes through on his promise to hire a maid.”
“Basically, either way, he won’t do housework. If his wife wants to waste the money, she can hire a maid. If she wants to save up, then she has to do everything by herself.”
“Ran into an old craftsman doing straw weaving, which is a non-material historical relic! And everything he made was super delicate and pretty! I asked him how long it takes him to make each one, and he said about 20 minutes, but he’s only selling them for 5 RMB each! That is to say, he makes like 15 RMB an hour max. And he said that sometimes, a whole afternoon will go by without making a single sale.”
Comments say, “He should go to an indie market or culture market or something, where young people hang out. Most people shopping at street markets are looking for food or practical items, and this fills neither category, so of course no one is buying.”
“It’s so realistic! I feel like it would make for a great cat toy. Shame I never saw anything like this, or I’d buy a couple for my cat babies.”
“He should sell them at children’s hospitals. When my daughter was in the hospital, someone was selling these by the door for 20 RMB each and there was a long ass line.”
Under the hashtag #Is it not worth it to get health insurance if you’re not sick?, China News Weekly writes, “#China’s Ministry of Health Responds, lately, most areas in China have finished collecting Urban resident healthcare fees, and those citizens who have joined health insurance has enjoyed their healthcare services. What’s the percentage of participation in health insurance around China? Are insurance fees reasonable? Is it not worth it to pay if you’re not actually sick? China’s Ministry of Health has painstakingly answered these questions in our interview.
“You never know when you’re going to get sick. In our modern society, most individuals and families find it hard to shoulder on the cost of healthcare in the case of a severe illness. The point of insurance is to combine all the forces in society to help those individuals who unfortunately come down with severe illnesses and face heavy healthcare costs. So, joining health insurance is, “having a safety net when you’re sick and helping others when you’re healthy’. It should be the rational choice of any citizen when faced with the uncertainty of illness.
In 2022, China’s healthcare system treated a total of 8.42 billion cases. On average, every citizen will visit the hospital 6 times a year. China’s hospitals have had 247 million hospitalisations, an annual average of 17.5%. That is to say, on average, 1 in 6 people will be hospitalised once a year. The chances of a severe illness is not as low as you think. When we were fighting against poverty, 40% of poverty was caused by bad health. This is more than enough proof of how much impact sickness can do to a family’s finances.
Statistics show that in 2022, the average hospitalisation bill for an individual with health insurance is 8129 RMB. If you assume 70% coverage, then you’ll save 5690 RMB each hospitalisation. If citizens from 2003 instead saved the money they were going to put into health insurance, and awe assume yearly interest rates of 5%, by 2023, they would have 3343.1 RMB counting both their capital and their interest. That is to say, if you’re hospitalised even once, the amount of money you save with health insurance exceeds saving your money in the bank instead. So, “It’s not worth getting insurance if you’re not sick” is not correct at all. You don’t lose out either way.”
Comments say, “Even though we’ve taken your money, and we’ve spent it, and you didn’t actually get any treatment, but what are you gonna do about it?”
“Farmers in the countryside over 60 years old have to pay over 100 RMB a month…”
“Honestly, if you’re making your living just by farming, it’s really hard for an old couple to make 800 RMB a year.”
“But it doesn’t cover anything other than hospitalisation…”
“Stop being brainwashed by that “for the price of a cup of boba tea” bullshit, sisters! This is a post to all you poor bitches out there, stop being PUA’d by consumerism! “The price of a cup of boba tea?” This is all the veggies I bought on Mei Tuan [food delivery app, like UberEats] for 20 RMB! That’s enough to feed me for a week!”
Comments say, “I think what OP means is for people to not get tricked by comparisons like, “for the price of a cup of boba tea”, because a cup of boba tea is about 20 RMB. It might not look like a hell of a lot of money, but you can actually buy a ton of groceries with it. So 20 RMB might not sound like much, but you can do a lot with it, maybe more meaningful things than what you were going to spend it on. She’s not actually suggesting people replace all their boba tea with veggies.”
“Don’t get tricked. You can’t buy nearly that much food for 20 RMB.”
“Now that I’m used to getting Luckin Coffee for 9.9 RMB, I can’t bring myself to buy boba tea for 20 something RMB.”
“I saved up 950K behind my husband’s back.
We’ve been married for 3 years, and we just each spend our own salary without asking about the other. He doesn’t give me any money, and I don’t give him any money. He’s responsible for family expenses, mortgage and car payments, rent, and diapers and formula for the baby. I’m responsible for my daily expenses, clothes and toys and snacks for the baby, household appliances, and groceries.
My husband’s always curious how much money I’ve saved, and I’ve always refused to tell him because I like watching him get anxious.
Once I have a round million in the bank, should I tell him and give him a surprise?”
A compilation of comments below, “No, don’t. Once you tell him, he’ll think this is you guys’ money.”
“Your husband won’t even give you any money, why would you give him a surprise? If he knew you had a million, he’d go buy a land rover right away.”
“It’s true. Every since my husband caught a glimpse of my bank account, he’s been constantly bringing up wanting a BMW. I had to tell him it was all tied up in insurance payments for him to back off.”
“If it was me, I’d tell him, because I can’t keep a secret to save my life XD”
“After paying all those expenses, you were still able to save 950K in three years? Neither of you two are mere commoners anyways.”
“Everyone in the comments is saying not to tell him, but honestly, if I put myself in his shoes and my husband had a million in savings and never told me, I would divorce him right away as soon as I found out. It doesn’t feel like he’s trying to live life with me at all, like he’s on guard against me for the rest of our lives.”
“Why would you tell him? If there’s a family emergency, then sure, but just keep it to yourself if there’s not.”
“Wow, I can’t believe so many people think you don’t have to tell.”
“That’s normal, isn’t it? They’re each spending their own money, they’ve got completely split finances. So why would she need to tell him?”
A tiktok video of a girl doing her makeup:
Comments say, “Why does everyone know how to do make up except me??”
“Other people doing make up: like they’ve transformed into a different person. Me doing make up: slightly paler, sometimes with visible streaks in my foundation.”
“How the hell did you make your eyes bigger? Can you make them bigger with just false lashes?”
“My friend got a smart toilet for his house, for like 4000 something RMB. Told me that he doesn’t even have to wipe his butt anymore. The bidet washes everything clean. That he saves hundreds every year on toilet paper.
I just feel like this is all a tax on low IQ. Even if you use a bidet, you still have to dry yourself off, don’t you? That still uses paper, right? I mean, you can’t use a towel, can you?
He told me to get one too, and I’m not gonna be an idiot. You can get a normal toilet for just 500-600 RMB, and the only thing smart toilets do is bidet anyways. Only idiots would buy it.
Do you guys like smart toilets?”
Comments say, “The heated seat is a blessing! I keep it on all year round!”
“Three things I scoffed at at first and have been recommending to everyone I know: wet toilet paper, smart toilets, bluetooth earphones.”
“They’re great. You can buy a cheap one for just over 1000 RMB, and it cured my haemorrhoids.”
A compilation of what happens when you get takeout from the same place for too long:
“Once, for Golden Week [starting 1st of May], I had 7 days off and didn’t go home, and bought rice noodles from the same place every day. To the point where if I haven’t put in an order by 11, the owner will call me and tell me it’s time for lunch.”
“I really love tomato soup at this place. The owner doesn’t do online orders during the holidays, so I’d actually run to the restaurant myself to eat it in person. After three years, they closed their doors during covid. The owner called and gave me the recipe and personally apologised to me for disappointing me.”
“I ordered rice noodles for a week straight. Then the next Chinese New Year that I was back in my hometown, I discovered they closed their doors. I still think about it to this day. I feel abandoned.”
“I ordered from the same place for three meals a day for half a month. Then I went two days without ordering from them, and the owner actually called the cops, can you believe it? When I opened my door and saw police outside, I thought about every bad thing I’ve done in my life.”
“I ate from the same rice noodle place for three years in high school, and they closed down during covid too in my final year. I called and asked, and the owner moved to Changchun and is selling fried rice there. So I applied to colleges in Changchun.”
“I used to work at a fried rice place, and a guy ordered from us every day for lunch. If he misses a day, the owner will actually call him up and ask if he doesn’t like our food anymore.”
“I found this place that was absolutely great, and they only had 3.4 stars in their reviews. So I ordered from that place three meals a day for a whole month, and left a good review every time. Now they’re opening up a second location.”
“I love this grilled noodle place, and always got the same things from there. Eventually, the owner came out with a combo menu based on what I order all the time.”
“There was a teppanyaki place in my school cafeteria that nobody ate at, but I loved their food and went there all the time. It got to the point that every time I entered the cafeteria, the owner would light up and stare at me. I legit felt like I was cheating on him if I ate from anywhere else.”
“I order peppercorn chicken all the time, no utensils, extra spicy, about three times a week for a year. Once I went and bought it in person, and the cashier specifically went into the back to call the owner so he could come out and stare at me like I’m a monkey in a zoo.”
“I ate at the same fried chicken place for four years, and he suddenly closed his doors one day. I texted him like, “What happened?” And he said that he knew I was going to uni soon, so he’s gonna open up a location in the city I’m going to…”
“I’ve ordered from this convenience store like 30-40 times, got on familiar terms with the owner. And one day, they called me up and told me to come over and watch his store for me, so he and his family could go out and eat and watch a movie. I watched the store for them by myself @_@”
What does "non-material" mean in this context?
30$ -> 30%
with is -> which is