03/13/24 - This guy doesn’t respect his girlfriend, and this girl has no respect for herself either.
“What the hell are these people arguing about? Do they have daughters? “If you sign your daughter up for dance lessons, it’s only so they can marry rich one day?”
I’ve told you, dance and marrying rich has no connection at all, because 99% of kids learn dance just to have fun, maybe work out a little bit. Forget going to an Art College. They might not even make the cut for their school talent show. It’s just like how your parents spent a fortune on maths and science tutoring for you, but you probably didn’t end up with grades to match.
“It’s easy for girls to get hurt dancing?”
What gets people hurt is dangerous moves, not gender. And common sense says that any sport has a risk of injury if you don’t know what you’re doing.
“You don’t have infinite money/time. If the kid learns dance, they can’t learn maths/physics/chemistry/programming.”
Maybe this is a cultural difference, but at least around me, there aren’t any parents who would give up on maths just to teach their daughter dance. If their daughter showed talent at a young age for both Olympic Math and dancing, 99% of parents would pick math classes, because that’s a required subject for the college entrance exams.
Normally, parents sign their kids up for all kinds of piano/dance/sports lessons between kindergarten and third grade, get them fit, pass the time, etc. Rich parents might go for even more variety, while poor parents just sign up for whatever is cheapest.
I’ve only heard of parents who drop their kids’ dance classes so they can focus on their grades. I’ve never heard of any parents stopping their kids from studying maths so they can go practice dance. Any student in public school who’s still dancing at high school definitely has true talent in this field, and their parents couldn’t stand to not cultivate that.
To be clear, I’m not saying that dance lessons are necessarily the best choice. I’m saying not to slander dance. It’s just a sport. Parents probably had good intentions when they signed their kids up. It’s not going to be “to marry their daughters to rich people” or “to oppress girls and keep them from STEM.”
I don’t want girls to get made fun of every time they dance, “Oh, you’re just looking for a sugar daddy.” “You’re just trying to please men!” That’s gross!”
Comments say, “If you’re a girl, and you think the reason you have bad grades is because your parents made you learn dance as a little kid, then the reason you’re bad at STEM is because you have no idea how logic works.”
“But you’re way better off playing some soccer or basketball or something. It’s better for your body and it’s more fun.”
“Marrying rich is pretty mild, honestly. I’ve heard even more savagery, like, “Why would you bother teacher your daughter dance? You want her to grow up to be a stripper?””
A tiktok video of two students kissing in a university cafeteria. The original poster has helpfully added mosaics to the scene, in case that’s too spicy for you to watch:
Comments say, “In some uni cafeterias, girls will get out of the shower and just throw on a winter jacket or some pyjamas and come downstairs to eat. Do you think they’re doing it on purpose to…?”
“I’ve always felt like this kind of girl is so cheap.”
“Sigh. This guy doesn’t respect his girlfriend, and this girl has no respect for herself either, doing this in a public space. If her parents knew, would they beat her for being so loose, or feel bad that she feels such pressure to please her boyfriend even in this situation? I feel like any guy who does this to his girlfriend in public was never taught manners and probably doesn’t respect women.”
A news story has come out about a female only child who reported her 62 year old father for finding a surrogate to have a son. A blogger writes about this, “Lol, look at this invoice. It doesn’t look any different from all the “getting in the car red pocket” “getting out of the car red pocket” “changing name fee” “gold jewellery” “first meeting red pocket” “bride price” and “diamond ring” that women get. What, you can make money off of having kids, but other women aren’t allowed to?
Maybe we should do away with marriages and surrogacies. This stuff is illegal right now anyways. The government should just establish a new department, and hire women who are willing to have kids. They can get paid a fortune just to have kids and raise them, and the more they have, the earlier they can retire. Women who don’t want kids can just pay taxes, 100K a year, and stop bitching on the internet. What do you think, girls?”
Comments say, “He’s right to want a son. Feminazis need to stop trampling all over people’s freedom. He just shouldn’t have hired a surrogate. People who agree, upvote me.”
“It’s just like how, in the sex work industry, it’s not the prostitutes who make all the money, it’s their pimps. The surrogates aren’t making the most money out of the surrogacy industry either, but their bosses. If you turn the human body into a commercial business, it’s women who suffer.”
“Maybe men should pay 100K in taxes first. They take up over half the population and can’t produce a single baby. What do we even need them for?”
“Maybe humans need lies.
Someone recommended an “art film” to me, saying that it was about “female power”. I took a look at the summary, and it was a typical film about the suffering of East Asian women. I knew pretty much right away that this movie wasn’t worth watching anywhere—not in the theatres, not on your TV, not even on your phone.
What was it about?
The main female lead was born in the cities in 1948, and went into a factory in 1966 and became an honoured textile worker.
In 1967, her mom introduced her to a boy from a rural village.
? Is her mom insane?
No, maybe the director just genuinely didn’t know that back in the 60s, textile workers are like programmers in our day. They’re skilled, highly-paid professionals. They made twice as much as government officials in pay.
He just instinctively looked at it from our current society’s point of view, that a sweat shop worker should marry a rural farmer. That’s pretty reasonable.
Since it’s about the suffering of East Asian women, of course she needs the full set of an abusive husband, a sexist MIL, and a problematic pregnancy and childbirth.
They even had a fight about condoms—she demanded her husband had to use condoms to have sex, and her husband refused.
Wait a minute. Condoms?
Condoms didn’t enter the Chinese market until 1982. You couldn’t buy them before then.
I had to look it up online, and it turns out, that in 1975, their province was assigned roughly 18 million condoms. If it was distributed evenly, then every married couple in the state of childbirthing age could get 2.
So. I mean. I guess that works.
Then later, her husband was like, “Women shouldn’t go out and work!” and made her quit her job to help out with his land, and focus on raising their children.
That’s fucking ridiculous.
Does the director know what “farmer to not” is? Does he have any idea what lengths people went to, to get rid of their rural hukou to go to the cities in the 70s?
Did anybody quit their jobs back in the day?
All the land is collectively owned. How are you going to feed one extra mouth?
What are you trying to do, cutting off the only source of income in your family? Starve everyone to death?
Nah, it’s not that her husband is insane. It might not even be that the director is ignorant.
This is just because this is an “art film about the suffering of East Asian women.”
So they feel the need to heap every imaginable suffering in heaven and on earth onto the female lead, so that the girls watching this movie can stand out and shout, “Women’s suffering is deep! Our responsibility is heavy!”
So, my conclusion is: Chinese movies are getting better. And if a commercial movie is well made enough, it can absolutely called art. But when it comes to proper “art films”, especially ones aiming to get an award overseas, it’s hard to say what the fuck they’re doing.”
Comments say, “My aunt was a textile worker in the 50s and 60s. My god, she was respected. Her photo was in the newspapers. She got free hospital visits every year. She was happy all her life. She caught covid and died last year at 91 years old.”
“It’s not that humans need lies, it’s that there’s something deeply wrong with our movie industry. Our writers just suck. They’ve been detached from normal society for too long, and they don’t actually want to put effort into their jobs, so they just come up with bullshit all on their own and make clowns out of themselves. East Asian women go through plenty of real suffering, but it all gets dismissed by these people, or perhaps maliciously exploited. All the actual suffering of women have been turned into jokes by these people. Or maybe that was their goal all along?”
“My mom was a textile worker in the 70s. She got paid 20 RMB a month. I know about condoms too. It only came in white, and a lot of kids played with them like balloons. That was around late 70s, early 80s.” [For context of how much money that is, my grandma and grandpa combined made 80 RMB a year working as farmers back in the 70s.]
A blogger posts screenshots of someone seeking relationship advice and the reply below:
“Every time I fight with my husband, he threatens to marry a foreigner instead.
Every time he makes me mad, I’d get so heated, I’d bring up divorce. And he’d get all confident and tell me if we got divorced, he’d just marry a Russian girl instead. I want to ask people who might know about this, are Russian girls really easy or something? I’ve asked him, what makes him think a Russia girl would be interested in him. And he was like, “Russian girls don’t want a bride price or money, and they’re pretty. I just gotta be nice to them.” Is it really that easy marrying a Russian girl?”
The reply: “Tell him that Russian girls don’t want money or a bride price, but they want big dicks. He might not have lost the race with his birth, but he definitely lost with his prostate.” [complicated Chinese pun]
Comments say, “My classmate actually tried to find a Russian girlfriend, and ended up getting human trafficked to South East Asia. Lol.”
“A lot of guys think that western girls aren’t drama queens, but they don’t know that western girls won’t hesitate to slap them in the face.”
“My IP is in Henan. When I went home for the New Years, a bunch of people were saying that there’s a lot of unmarried men in our village who want to go buy one in Vietnam or Laos. And I was like, “Can you even afford to go to Vietnam or Laos?””
A tiktok video of Japanese primary school girls in alternative fashion:
Comments say, “Every country has their version of chavs.”
“Ohhhh, those are false lashes! I thought they were some kind of fashion sunglasses!”
“I see you’re not allowed to beat your kids in Japan.”
Under the hashtag #QQ still has 500 million active users, a blogger writes, “This trending hashtag confused me. Like, honestly, I don’t know why people think QQ is outdated now?
They don’t compress images, you can send large files, it’s easy to save things offline, and they don’t mess up your documents just because they’re named the same thing.
If you have to come up with a con, I guess it would be that there are a lot of paid functions and it’s a mess, but Tim’s perfectly fixed this problem.
Why would people use smaller platforms?
In fact, I had to switch to smaller platforms because everyone started using wechat. Tsk.”
Comments say, “We’ve got a really dissonant thing going on in my company, where everyone chats over wechat, but whenever we have to send each other files, we switch over to QQ.”
“Isn’t the main purpose of QQ getting porn from your friends?”
“QQ groupchat is fantastic! It’s great for sharing, and it won’t tell you you can’t download some files just because too much time has passed!”
“500 million. Dude. That’s like half the people on the Chinese internet.”
“A lot of people are very scheming in the way they give gifts.
They might have a lot of resources in their hands that are very valuable. Let’s give an example. Let’s say a guy has a crate of durians. He can’t finish them himself and he doesn’t want them to all go bad. Or maybe he just hates durians. He wants some other guy’s cherries.
So he’ll show up all friendly and enthusiastic, and gift his durians to the guy with cherries, and tell him how great and how expensive these durians are.
Everyone knows durians are expensive, but the guy with cherries might not even like durians. Maybe he wants to eat some mangosteens or pepinos instead.”
But this guy had already brought over a whole crate of durians. You can’t really turn him down. So either you gift him a crate of your cherries, or you accept the durians, rewrap them, and return them in a couple of days and explain that your family’s tried it and they just don’t like it, so you brought it back because you don’t want it to go to waste.
But if this guy gifted you a crate of durians, and then wanted a favour from you later and you don’t want to do it for him, then he’ll go around telling everyone, “That guy is an asshole! I gave him a whole crate of durians, and they’re still so cold to me! What ungrateful bastards! You guys know how expensive durians are these days!”
And everyone will be like, “Yeah! That guy sure is an asshole acting this way after accepting such an expensive gift!”
So the guy with the durians has become the underdog who has the moral high ground.
Even if you never needed or wanted his durians, and he just shoved them into your hands, and you were too awkward to refuse them. Nevertheless, you now owe him a favour or have to give him a return gift.
It sucks, and you can’t even explain it to anyone.
Isn’t it just like people who don’t even need emotional connections, but got shoved a bunch of emotional connections by rock/paper women? [It’s a Chinese personality test using rock, paper, and scissors to categorise people.]
It feels like needing to throw up but not being able to…”
Comments say, “A coworker called me and offered to split a watermelon with me before, and I turned him down, but he kept inviting me out. I still didn’t go, and he went, “But I’ve already cut it open and everything. It’s been cut open for a week.” Lol.”
“So learn how to refuse people. Don’t waste your energy.”
“My relatives are exactly like this!”
A tiktok video of “the universal signal among all married couples in China:
A man kicks his wife’s butt and tells her he wants to go to bed. She hops up all excited and goes and fetches a roll of tissues. Comes back and tells him to move in a little. And he’s like, “Move in? For what? I want to sleep. Get out of my room?”
She get angry, “Get out of your room?”
And he’s like, “Yeah. I want to sleep by myself.”
And she throws down the roll of tissues angrily.
Comments say, “Her butt looks really sexy though.”
“If my husband kicked me this way, one of us would have to die tonight.”
“Ohhhh, that paper is not going to work. It’s gonna stick all over your butt.”
“Why would she get paper?”
Hard to say with all that fake smoke but it looks like the cafeteria couple were not just kissing.