03/10/24 - Everyone in the family refused to take it to a hospital, and it died, and finally set the family free.
“Should kids with Downs Syndrome not be born?
My suggestion is no. I saw a post on the internet, talking about OP’s grandma’s sister’s DIL who got pregnant, and found out the baby has Downs. She insisted on giving birth to it, and dragged the whole family down with her. Nobody could go anywhere all day. Everything revolved around the kid. Finally, one night several years later, the kid started burning up with a fever, and everyone in the family refused to take it to a hospital, and it died, and finally set the family free.”
Comments say, “I think if you find any kind of heritable issue at all, you shouldn’t give birth to it. It’s not just the kid who suffers, but the whole family. Some people might say that it’s a life, but have you ever considered asking the kid whether they want to be born into the world this way?”
“My parents had enough trouble raising me, and I’m perfectly healthy, fit, and average intelligence. And it’s not just because of materialism or whatever. Just simply growing up is a big strain on my parents’ energy.”
“A couple from Fujian rented my house last summer. The wife was 5 months along, and once, while we were chatting, she mentioned that her MIL had intellectual disabilities, and was taken in by her FIL to be his wife. Her SIL has issues too. Her husband is normal though. She said she was too exhausted taking care of both her MIL and SIL at home while pregnant, so she came over to join her husband.”
A tiktok video of what a month-sitting centre’s food is like in Korea:
The breakfast consists of seaweed soup, rice, mapo tofu, three sides, and a salad. Then a morning snack of croissant and milk at about 9:30AM. Lunch is stir-fried pork, yuzu salad, three sides, fish soup, and rice. For afternoon snack, it’s three kinds of fruit. Then dinner is bulgolgi, lettuce, another assortment of sides, turnip and clam soup, and rice.
Comments say, “Just watching this is already giving me postpartum depression.”
“I think this is nice! It’s nutritionally balanced, there’s protein in every meal. I don’t know what everyone is eating usually that they’re complaining this much.”
“It’s not bad as a daily meal, but I have no idea if this is enough nutrition for postpartum recovery or what.”
“If you put this shit in a middle school cafeteria, you’d have a revolution on your hands.”
“Lemme tell you guys a joke. This is just a joke.
I’ve got a female reader, big long legs, fair and rich and pretty, and a great personality too.
She’s got a very colourful private life. She’s in between relationships right now, because she likes clean, well-dressed, well-mannered middle-aged men, and she’s out of good targets.
I tried to comfort her, “Have you tried younger guys? Although they have no brains, they’re at least physically fit.”
And a friend of mine overheard our conversation and was like, “Young men these days really do have no brains, but they’re not physically fit either.”
This friend is an experienced Casanova [female friend, but I can’t find any positive term for women who sleep around a lot], been catching men for thirty years now, and she’s just as good as her game today as when she started.
She gave an example that she’s been playing with various kinks since 30 years ago, and back then, men could handle it no problem. It was considered normal.
But thirty years later, when she proposes it to young men, they usually react like, “How is that even humanly possible? You read it in a novel, didn’t you?”
And she was just confused. Especially she said that, “Thirty years ago, fitness culture hadn’t started yet. Average men didn’t work out much and don’t have a figure to show off, but they can still do basic tasks. But thirty years later, all the young men are working out, showing off their muscles, but they can’t actually pull anything off.”
I’m a little doubtful about what she’s saying. After all, I’m not a man. I have no idea if the things she said are actually hard or not.
But I interviewed an education expert yesterday, and he said that he did a study in Qinghua and Beijing University, the two best universities in China, and discovered that the number of pull-ups Chinese young men can do infinitely approaches zero.
Really?
Is that true?
That is, the vast majority of young men can’t even do one pull up?
That’s not even as good as me. If I work out enough, I can at least do half of a pull up!
And I’m a middle-aged women!
And I could’ve sworn that I vaguely remember that when I was in school, you had to do 10 pull ups to pass PE class.
I kind of understand my friend now. It’s true.
If young men have no brains and no body, then…
No wonder young girls can’t find anyone to date.”
Comments say, “I just want to know exactly what can your Casanova friend do 30 years ago that no one can pull off now.”
“I feel like girls are also heavier today than 30 years ago? Like, just in terms of their skeleton and bones. Young girls 30 years ago were like willow fluff. No matter how thin girls these days get, they still feel like they’re made out of solid steel.”
“Based on my observation in all the PE classes I’ve ran, boys can either do 0 pull ups or well over 10 pull ups. There’s no in between. And the vast majority of them do 0 pull ups.”
“Reading my friend’s post, it reminded me of something I saw on Xiao Hong Shu [Chinese Instagram] a while back. A mom took her kid to America, and neither of them had good English. The kid had a lot of trouble to begin with too. Now they’re in their third year, and the kiddo’s finally starting to fit in, and even got chosen for the school’s gifted program. The mom is super happy so she shared the good news with people online.
And someone commented underneath: “Wow, I can tell you have terrible English. These programs are meant for, like, neurodivergent kids or kids with ADD, so they stop disrupting class for normal kids.”
Another couple I follow finally decided on their dream house, about 600K USD (in an area with low cost of living).
And someone commented underneath: “Oh my god, if you’re gonna buy a house, why not buy a liveable one? How the hell can you live in a house that’s only 600K? I can’t imagine how depressed I would be here!” This guy went on to say that any house under 2.5 million is unliveable. It’s not meant for human habitation.
I’m super curious just what life experience they had to make them so mean. Then again, maybe they’re in just as much pain themselves.”
Comments say, “That fits with my stereotypes about Xiao Hong Shu.”
“It’s to account for their own cognitive dissonance. It’s just like how some people are always like, “The victim must’ve done something wrong.” Anything that exceeds their comprehension has to be explained using their existing mindset, so they can still maintain their current world view.”
A tiktok video of flowers blooming out of ice. OP says, “Wow, I always thought ice flowers were something that only existed in fantasy novels! I never thought they’d look so bright and beautiful in real life!”
Comments say, “I was just feeling awful when I stumbled onto this video, and now it feels like there’s a warm stream in my heart. There’s a lot of beauty I have yet to witness in this world, that I’d like to experience one day. I don’t know whether I should give up on this demeaning job, or to continue bearing with it and deal with the realities of my life. I started to hate myself for all the things I failed to do…and I have no one to talk to.”
“We have these on Changchun Mountain! I’ve seen them while hiking near Jingyue Lake at the end of March or so. It was such a lovely surprise! They’ll start blooming way before the snow’s started to melt, when everything else is still covered by ice!”
“I almost thought this was an AI-generated video or something. I’ve never seen anything like this @_@“
A blogger asks, “Hands up anyone with kids who live like this? From everyone I know, and I know a lot of people with kids, English and maths tutoring on weekdays is the basics among basics. Plus dance or writing or something on the side. All the little kiddos are super busy.”
“29th of February, 2024, Suzhou. My kid is less than 7 years old, on his second semester of 1st grade. From 8AM to 3:30PM, he’s in class at school. He goes to after care until 5:30 PM, and studies English at the Rise Centre [tutoring agency] from 6:30PM to 8:30PM. He gets home at 8:55PM and starts working on his essay, and then do his math questions. At 9:30, he complained that he was exhausted. He didn’t want to keep doing homework. He’d been to three different classes today, and he’s bone tired. I told him to rest up, but my wife is insisting that he finish his homework, and we had a huge fight. I even thought about divorce. Even at dinner, my kiddo said to me, “Dad, I’m so tired, I’m nodding off.” And I told him to hurry up eating because we were going to be late. What should I do? I feel like only divorce can save my kid now.”
Comments say, “Nah, my kiddo doesn’t have any homework for 1st and second grade, doesn’t go to aftercare. I just signed him up for programming lessons once a week (he asked for it himself because he’s interested). Otherwise, he spends all his time after school playing. I’ve never assigned him extra homework. If there’s any complaints, it’s that he has terrible handwriting, becasue he’s never practiced.”
“I’m sorry, I’m just distracted by that last sentence. How is divorce supposed to save this kid exactly?”
“At this rate, your kid isn’t going to survive upper grades. If he’s in aftercare until 5PM, he should’ve finished all his homework from school, plus a little extra from his mom. If he has after school tutoring, then he shouldn’t do any extra homework at night, because he just won’t be able to take anything in at that point. He’s only in 1st grade. This is a bit much.”
A screenshot of a Chinese instagram post, with the captions, “Brought my kiddo to America by myself. I send him to school at 8AM every day, and then hurry to the subway myself, and then take a bus to work. I don’t have a work permit, so I can only do janitorial work. Really low pay, but I’ll still do it. Better than sitting around and getting nothing. A lot of men PM me and ask me why I don’t find a real job. If I was just gonna lie flat after coming all the way to America. That’s easy for you to say. Without figuring out some arrangement for my kiddo, even if I found a job, who would take care of my kiddo? School lets out at 2:20 PM. I can only work a couple of hours before I have to hurry back to pick him up. I have a 3 hour commute every day. Only I know how hard life is for me. There’s a lot of things I want to do. I’m not lazy. But with a kid tying me down, I just can’t.”
Comments say, “What’s she even after?”
“Maybe she figures everything will get better once her kiddo grows up more, that living in a democratic, free society will be better for him. But soon enough, she’ll have to deal with her kid being bullied, doing drugs, or even changing their gender.”
“She’s been taught a lesson by capitalist society :P”
“What should I do? My parents passed away while I was studying overseas.
I went back to China three months ago during summer break, and my mom passed away from sickness. And now, less than a week after I returned to Melbourne, my dad passed away from a sudden heart attack too.
I never thought I’d experience two tragedies in such a short time. On the one hand, I want to finish my Master’s Degree. On the other hand, I wonder if I shouldn’t just take my parents’ money and find a job in China or something. After all, with my intelligence, I’m just wasting my time studying abroad anyhow.
I just don’t know how to deal with my emotions and life. I have no idea what the future is going to look like.”
Comments say, “Uh, just because he didn’t describe his grief with a lot of words doesn’t mean he isn’t grieving.”
“TLDR: my free ATM’s broken what should I do.”
“Take a semester off, or at least get a 2 month leave, and manage your dad’s affairs first. Spend some time to sort through your emotions and your parents’ estate. Use the rest of the time to find a job and experience what kind of work you can find and how hard it is right now, and ask your relatives and friends’ opinions. After a semester’s time, you should have a better idea whether you want to start working right now or finish your degree.”