“It’s true that rural villages have stopped dividing land 30 years ago. Now, no newborns get any land. It’s just reality.
But boys can apply for housing land [land in rural areas designated for residential buildings], and girls can’t. This is the main reason I’ve been internet bullied for so long, because I said that women are forced into marriages, and a lot of people got upset. They think that women are just selling themselves short when they get married, nobody’s forcing them.
But the reality is, rural women can’t get housing land no matter what they try, and they can’t afford a house in the city because it’s too expensive.
Add on all the dangers women face living alone—and yeah, I’ve been bullied for saying that too, people saying that I still live in the Qing Dynasty, that society is plenty safe now, there’s no criminals around.
No housing land + dangerous to live alone means that lower class women have to marry somebody. It’s a cruel reality where they have to rely on a man.
And people go on and on about how rural farm work means that things have to be designated to the household, blah blah blah, but old single men get to count as a household on their own.
Also, my hometown has both systems in place. What does that mean? Some villages have always given land to everybody, regardless of gender, and has any one starved to death as a result of that? Oh wow, not at all! What a surprise.
In these villages, when girls marry off to somewhere else, they can’t take their land with them. So the girls protested. And now the policy’s changed as a result of their ceaseless protests. Now, you can keep your hukou in the village even after you marry, but your children can’t put their hukou in the village.
They’re still upset. They’re still protesting.
And what happened after that? My friend’s baby is under her hukou. Her husband’s also from a rural village, but his village is super poor. There’s no yearly dividends. Whereas her village is rich and pays out dividends every year.
And did her village suffer a complete economic collapse? Nope, not at all!
Coincidentally, her village is in a very awkward position. My village had already switched over to mechanised farm machines for years, and her village never did. Their geography meant they had to rely on human labour to sow all the fields. It’s exhausting.
But that didn’t stop women from getting their own land.
And yet my hometown is the typical situation where women can’t have land or housing land.
They just subjectively don’t want to give land to people. It’s got nothing to do with the nature of farming. What a great socialist country we live in. What kind of bigot thinks single women can’t farm by themselves? What, is it illegal for single women to come together to farm each other’s land?
Not to mention, if single women can’t do the work, then how come civil servants can?
You ever seen entry-level civil servants get assigned quotas to ensure farmed land area? That’s the proper way to have a socialist country.
Either way, another one of my friends have complained that he worked hard all his life to get into a good university so that he didn’t have to farm. And then guess what? After he got into a government job, he’s had to learn all the farming he avoided as a kid. Now he knows how to do everything. He even knows how to grow lotuses.
Made me laugh my ass off.
This was a female friend too. And I’ve never seen her sit on the sides because she’s just on her own, as a civil servant, and couldn’t work with everyone else.
So stop telling people that they just don’t understand the realities of rural villages.
I’ve seen plenty, okay? Why do a lot of people think I know a lot about rural life? Just look at all the policies I know—I’ve seen everything.
It’s not unusual to see all kinds of different local policies going on in each village even in the same county as each other.
Over a decade ago, even in hilly areas, they have been able to share the same set of farm machines among all the villages in the same county. Not hard to find places that are at least half mechanised.
Now it’s even better. The government’s built all kinds of farm roads. Forget grown ass single women. You can send out a single 15-year-old girl and she could farm the land all on her own, so long as she can get a driver’s license.”
Comments say, “Face all kinds of danger? I mean, I’ve never felt that way my whole life. You can’t say that China has no crime at all, but it’s certainly not as bad as all that, right?”
“There’s been a study a while back into female poverty, about how women make up of 57% of China’s farmers, and that statistic is rising every year. The study even pointed out that women shoulder on the majority of agricultural labour now.”
“At least where I live, it’s only women who are farming the land. Back in the day, men went out and fished at sea. Now they go work in construction sites. They’re basically never home.”
“My friend gave me a surprise but I want to throw it away.
My emotions are getting all out of whack.
My good friend gave me a surprise custom-made cake. But I’ve been dieting recently, going to the gym every day. I told her to not make the order, and she told me that she’d already ordered it, so I had to fake being really happy and accepting it.
But I felt really uncomfortable on the inside. Like, I was in a good mood today, and now all of a sudden, I feel really complicated.
I just wanted to tell her that I didn’t want to eat a cake today, or tomorrow. I never planned on eating a cake!
When I got home and saw this cake, I just wanted to throw it in the trash. I know that I’m not in my right mind, and I’m trying to control my emotions, telling myself over and over again that my friend was being nice. It’s proof that she was thinking of me.
How should I moderate my emotions?”
Comments say, “Just make it your cheat meal. It’s not a big deal if you cheat once in a while.”
“Don’t blame yourself, this is totally understandable. You’re working hard in the gym, cutting out carbs, and your friend gives you the precise gift that you’re trying to remove from your life, so of course you want to turn her down. But at the same time, you know it’s a sincere gift, and you want to force yourself to accept it, so that’s what’s driving your emotional conflict. The reason you’re upset is because you’re forcing your mouth to accept this gift. If I was you, I would separate my mouth and my heart, and gift this cake onto someone who would appreciate it. Or just throw it away.”
“Humans just can’t function without carbs.”
“I don’t understand how young people these days spend their money.
If my daughter buys something and it goes on sale the next day, she’ll get so mad she throws a tantrum. She’s owned a pair of shoes for ages, and she still checks its price regularly. If the price goes up, she’ll get really proud of herself, like a cock that’s just won a fight.
She never hesitates buying cute stuffed animals, but every time she goes out to eat, she gets all kinds of coupons (but I encourage that). She’s always complaining about how much she hates her job, but she’ll set alarms so she can buy her idol’s merch right when it comes out. But I guess it’s worth it to spend money on whatever makes you happy.
She has all kinds of fashionable outfits for going out, but she wears her primary school uniform all day long at home. The fabric on her butt area is so threadbare it’s practically see through, and she still refuses to buy a set of pyjamas.”
Comments say, “She’s just spending money on worthwhile things.”
“She cares about appearances more.”
“I can buy expensive things, but I can’t overpay for things XD”
A tiktok video of a…man swimming up stream? A swimming pool where the water’s flowing in a fast current? I’m not sure the technical term for this:
Comments say, “It’s nice, but I need a safety rope, or else you can only fish me out of the other wall.”
“Put a blender in on the other side, and he can swim even faster.”
“I’m exhausted just watching this.”
“Sperm is a pretty widely-available consumer good.
This auntie is pretty smart. She found a tall guy’s sperm to improve her own genetics. Her daughter is 170cm by 12 years old.
When babies are born, they’re usually about 50cm long, and there’s not a ton of deviation on that. Giant babies usually refer to weight, which can differ quite a lot based on pregnancy nutrition. Bigger babies make for a harder delivery, so you need to maintain a healthy diet through pregnancy and control your sugar intake. (But even if you find a 160cm sperm, you can still end up with a 8-9 pound baby because of overeating. Fat babies aren’t good at all.)
I want to pick out at least a 195cm+ high quality sperm at the sperm bank, only give birth to the best. I want a big, strong daughter at least 175cm+. I don’t want a frail skeleton. Gonna teach her boxing, make her strong and assertive.
Your body will affect your personality too!”
Comments say, “If the baby is too big, you can get a C-section. But there’s nothing you can do if the baby is too short.”
“My 11-year-old niece is 169cm. Her dad is 186cm, her mom 165cm. She’s worried about getting too tall XD”
“Lol, my mom is 162cm, and my dad is 173cm, and I’m 176cm. Grew up playing basketball and swimming.”
A blogger shows a comment on a post, “Can you raise a bit of awareness about the case of an innocent male uni student getting beaten up by five uni girls? Men’s rights are just as important.”
And the blogger says, “Men need me to protect their rights?”
Comments say, “When they’re bragging, they can beat up five girls on their own, and now they’re getting beaten up by five girls?”
“The demographic that can punch out Zhang Weili [female MMA fighter] in one punch needs women to protect them?”
“What happened to overwhelming upper body strength :P”
“Just read a novel that starts with a zombie apocalypse. The female lead manages to escape from her school after a lot of danger, and finds herself a scooter that she can use to flee town on.
And then she notices the male lead pleading for help inside a car, so for some reason, she gets briefly possessed by Saint Mary and decides to save him.
But he’s hurt, so she has to go find medicine and help dress his wounds, forcing her into an adventure into the heart of town for resources.
After wasting a ton of time, it’s now evening, so they have to spend the night in town.
The next day, they can finally get back on the plan to flee again, but the male lead is still injured and can’t run. Like, he’s just a straight up burden on her, putting her in danger of being attacked by zombies several times.
I don’t understand making a male lead like this. What’s the purpose of it? It’s the zombie goddamn apocalypse. Who the hell is going to take time to save people?
Even if you happen to have the time and resources and save somebody, who the hell would stop when they’re desperately running from pursuing zombies, and risk their life to smash a car window to save somebody?
Even if you wasted precious time to run away to instead save somebody, who the hell would go out of their way to find medicine for him?
What the hell is wrong with you?
Nobody in their right mind would do this.
Can writers these days at least think a little bit when plotting their story? You can’t make him rely on the female lead for everything just because he happens to be the male lead, right?
Honestly, there’s a lot of webnovels of this genre on male-oriented sites that I’ve read. And no male author would ever make their male lead save somebody under these circumstances.
Not even if you’re the most beautiful woman in the world. Not even if you’re Michelle Rais.
In male-oriented novels, the male lead just focuses on getting himself to safety. If a woman wants his help, fine, what can she give him in exchange?
Oh, you have nothing? Then goodbye, good luck on your own.
I hope that female authors will write female leads with at least an ounce of rationality.
You’re on death’s door yourself, and you waste time saving somebody else? Is your head full of nothing but water?
And that’s why I stopped reading.”
Comments say, “I think in order to justify this rescue, either they’d have to know each other beforehand and are already close, or for some reason, she knows he has a valuable skill, like wilderness survival, or fighting, or has a warehouse of resources somewhere he’ll share. Otherwise, there’s literally no reason?”
“You’d have been better off writing a female lead that travelled into this story, or was reborn, or has a system or something, and knows beforehand that this is the male lead so she has to save him.”
“As far as bride price goes, I think it’s a boon to society. Bride price has put a stop to a lot of marriage that should’ve never happened.
If two people are truly in love, then they want to get married first and foremost. They don’t consider bride price. If bride price actually stood in the way of a marriage, that means it’s more important than the marriage itself.
If that’s the case, it means for the women, she could marry you, or she could marry literally any other guy that came walking along. She doesn’t care about who she’s marrying at all.
This type of marriage is gonna be fundamentally unstable. It’s doomed to fail. There’s a big chance of a divorce in the future. If you don’t want to have to go through a divorce, you’re better off just not getting married right now. At least you can reduce the damage, right? It’s a good thing for the man and the woman.
So why not thank bride prices? Without bride prices, even if you got married, you’d get divorced in another several years. Or you’d get married and be deeply unhappy in your marriage. If that’s the case, isn’t it better to stay unmarried?”
Comments say, “Bride price just makes up for men’s lack of sexual appear.”
“You’re talking about new-age bride price that’s only appeared in the 90s. Traditional bride price didn’t work like this at all.”
“You’re right. Bride price isn’t really that much compared to the other costs of a marriage. Like putting on a wedding feast is easily going to be 100K, and that money is just spent. You don’t get anything out of it. You can’t get it back if you divorce. How much do people pay for cars and houses? Bride price is just a way to help you pull out in time, and yet everyone’s all obsessed about it.”
“I totally understand older single women who’ve missed their best chance to date, because it’s easier to go from poor to rich than from rich to poor. This is why I suggest that older single women just stay single, because marriage is just going to be physically uncomfortable for them. It’s not even a matter of bearing with it. It’s disgusting, revolting, and a denial of their identity. It’s a physical and mental torture.
Maybe a lot of people don’t get it, so they are hostile towards older women who want to be married, who make a decent income. They think these women brought it on themselves.
But maybe you can understand with this example.
Say you grow up used to being surrounded by great beauties on all sides, but you’re not super into any of them. So you figure that you should just focus on your career for now, because a) that adds cards to your hands and b) it gives you time to date around a bit more.
Then one day, you suddenly realise that you’ve been working hard for over a decade now, you make a lot of money, you have a lot of social status, but all the beauties around you are already married by now. The only women left are short, fat, old aunties.
You wouldn’t be able to accept that reality either, right?
No matter how awesome they are, if they want to get married, they can only marry a peon. Or at least, the sort of peon that’s not as good as them in any respect.
The type of man they actually want to be with have all married by the time they were 28-30.
This isn’t a matter of probability. This isn’t a matter of dating smart.
In their eyes, unmarried men who are over 30, from a good family background, makes similar or more money than them, 175cm, average looks, and tolerable personality just don’t exist.
Because the men they’re around have already been picked through in school, at work, and by all their friends and family.
This isn’t a matter of lowering their standards. No matter how much they lower their standards, this is just their bottom line. Any lower than that, and they would be physically disgusted.
Of course, there are still people who fit their standards. We call them scammers.”
Comments say, “Honestly, understanding that you’re too old to date anymore isn’t what’s scary. What’s scary are the young girls who have no idea what they want and are pushed into a super early marriage by their parents and end up divorced.”
“Lol, it’s just like how men would rather stay single than marry an old maid.”
“There are so much more men than women though. Even if they were sieved through by the time they’re thirty, how can there be so many men left that nobody wants? There’s more of them, but less of them that are any good. Why are men so useless?”
A table of the number of men and women in China, versus how many of them are single, separated by age group, taken from the census:
The part that the blogger has circled out is that there are 82 million men between the ages of 20-49 who are single, versus 51.6 million women. And 10 million men between 35-49 who are single, versus 3.62 million women.
The blogger comments, “Meanwhile, people be like: capitalism has created 100 million old maids in China.”
Comments say, “Sure, there are more men, but men can just not get married, or find a young girl when they’re rich. Can older women do the same?”
“Hmm, 82 million men, 52 million women. That’s precisely 30 million extra, isn’t it.” [Referring to 30 million girl infants dead as a result of the One Child Policy.]
“These statistics include people who are dating, but just not married.”
It's apparently called a "swim current pool"