“Is it okay to send my autistic kid back to the countryside to be raised by his grandparents?
He’s almost five. We’ve been working with him for several years, we’ve got a ton of debt, and I just can’t keep up anymore. I want to give up, and send him to his grandparents in the countryside. Then I can go back to work and start paying off that debt. But I feel really torn too. The grandparents are illiterate, and don’t really know how to educate kids. I’m worried it’ll make him worse. But I can’t afford to keep him with me either. What do I do? I’ve thought about jumping off a building with him so many times. Life is so hard.”
Comments say, “My wife’s old workplace had a guy who did this, send his kid to a distant relative and gave them 100K a year to raise the kid, because none of the rehab was working. Then he had another healthy kid and just goes back once a year to visit his oldest.”
“You got struck by misfortune, and it’s gonna suck no matter what you do. It’s just a matter of how you distribute the suffering, really.”
“To put it bluntly, just feed him once a while like you’re keeping livestock.”
A news blog reports on a new phenomenon where teenagers are appearing en masse beneath tiktok videos of older, poor people vlogging their lives, and spamming the comment section telling these uploaders to “restart”—that is, to restart their lives by committing suicide and rolling the reincarnation dice again. A lot of these young people make quite emo posts on their own, talking about how much they’re against internet bullying. But at the same time, they’re also the people who would join online lessons to bully and harass the teacher.
Comments say, “Isn’t this the same as western teenagers?”
“This is all because they have too little homework.”
“This is what middle school boys are like though.”
A tiktok video showing all the different Dynastic outfits you can make out of two silk scarves:
Comments say, “If I saw this video as a kid, all the scarves and bed sheets in my house would be ruined.”
“She sells silk scarves for a living, doesn’t she? I bet she’s the best at it.”
“This is gonna make people renting these outfits for hundreds of RMB feel so bad about themselves.”
A long picture showing the difference between having two days off a week for 8K a month, versus one day off a week for 10K a month. On the left side, the girl goes partying Friday night, hangs out with friends on Saturday, chills at home on Sunday, eats out at night again, and then gets ready for work. The girl on the right works through Saturday, then sleeps away half the day on Sunday, just to spend the rest of the day checking her emails, and then heading to bed.
The extra panel at the bottom is someone getting three days off a week, all like, “I’ve got one more day off. How awesome.”
Comments say, “Can I get six days off? I just need 2K a month and health insurance + social security.”
“Forget 8K, I get 2 days off a week, and all public holidays off, plus PTO. Work 7 hours a day, and get paid 5K a month, and I feel like it’s fucking awesome.”
“It’s because the pay is too close. If you get 3K a month for working 6 days, and just 2K a month for working 5 days, then a lot of people would choose the former just out of necessity.”
“Do we even get a choice though?”
“I’m being asked to withdraw my first grader from school. What should I do?
I’m not here looking for pity or attention or anything. I just feel like I’m a failure as a mother, and want to vent somewhere where nobody knows me.
I’m not the kiddo’s birth mom, but we’ve been together since he was 1.5 years old. He doesn’t know this at all. I’ve been raising him full time from 4 years old, until it’s time for him to start primary school. And I’ve found that I can’t keep him in line anymore.
He has a lot of problems. He won’t listen to class. He’ll run outside whenever he wants to play. He’ll run around the class room during class time and disturb the other students. His dad is a very extreme person. When he’s in a good mood, he doesn’t care even when our kiddo screws up. If I tell my son off, the dad will get annoyed that I’m being a nag. When he’s in a bad mood, he just beats the shit out of the kid. So now, the kiddo acts one way with him, and a completely different way with me and at school. And he won’t even believe that such a young kid is capable of that level of manipulation.
My kiddo cries a lot too. He solves all his problems by crying. But he never dares to cry in front of his dad. For example, one time, he was throwing a tantrum outside, screaming and wailing. I had to drag him back home, and as soon as we got in the elevator, he stopped crying. When we got to the door of our unit, and he saw his dad’s slippers were outside so he wasn’t home, he started back up again. I went back to my room, and he chased after me crying for almost an hour. Then daddy came back, and as soon as he heard the door, he stopped crying, and even shushed me. I was so goddamn mad. But daddy won’t do anything about it.
Today, he hurt two of his classmate’s hand. I went to pick him up, and he threw himself to the ground and rolled around crying, and I had to ask four people to help me carry him out. The director was like, “You should withdraw him from school. We can’t handle him.”
Once we got home, I guess daddy didn’t know what to do either, so he was just like, “Well, you can’t go to school anymore,” and that was it. He saw that daddy wasn’t mad, so he asked if he could go play downstairs. I told him to do whatever he wants, I don’t care anymore, he’s free now. So he put on his clothes and left, and didn’t come back until 8PM.
We’ve fought so many times over him. When we went to pick him up today, and he was rolling around and crying, his homeroom teacher was like, “Kid, be nicer to your mom,” and that almost made me cry. I just felt like the two people I love the most don’t even care about me as much as this stranger does.
Every since he started school, I’ve been apologising to other parents and his teachers nonstop. I’m only getting my period once every 3-4 months. I just want to prioritise my health and stop getting mad over pointless things. I want to be happy.”
Comments say, “You’re doing nothing but putting the kid down. He’s still little. The main reason he’s getting withdrawn from school isn’t just because of his personality, but because he’s been neglected. Love can solve everything.”
“1. Wow, that sucks. 2. You should get away from this father son duo.”
“You’re not even his real mom, and his dad isn’t being a normal dad. What the hell are you doing, not running away ASAP?”
A tiktok video of paper butterflies made out of 5 RMB bills:
Comments say, “Folding money is illegal.”
“It’s sure pretty, but I don’t approve of this behaviour.”
“Why can’t you do this with normal origami paper instead of playing with money?”
“But it’s only worth 5 RMB…”
“Home buyers are getting more and more insane.
Nobody wants number 4, so a lot of developments don’t have 4, 14, or 24.
They don’t want 6 and 13 either, because apparently they’re “unlucky” in the west. I don’t know what kind of busybody the western demons are though, that they’d come bother homeowners in China…
8 used to be the most popular, but now it’s not anymore, because “seven up eight down” [an expression from Water Margins used to describe uneasiness, worry, anxiety], so your career will go down with “eight”…
The most ridiculous is that people now think 18 is unlucky too. People used to love 18, because it means “destined for fortune”. But now they’re talking about 18 layers of hell. And I’m all like…even if there are 18 layers to hell, it would be 18 floors below ground, right? What would it have to do with the 18th floor above ground?”
Comments say, “Lol, the 4 and 18 debuff can stack too. If your building doesn’t have the 4th and 14th floor, then the 20th floor might actually be the 18th floor.”
“But if hell has 18 layers, then wouldn’t everything from 1-17 also be unlucky?”
“Seventh floor really is popular though, with this “seven up eight down” thing.”
The campaign video from Valentina Gomez [running for Missouri Secretary of State] is getting a lot of attention, the one where she promises to shoot down Chinese spy balloons and poses with a…gun? Of some kind? [I am never going to pass the citizenship test at this rate, am I?]
Comments say, “If this is the level their politicians are at, then I can rest easy.”
“Even fighter jets can’t reach it, and she’s gonna go at it with a shitty gun? What the hell kind of IQ does she have?”
“When she fired, I thought the gun exploded or something XD”
It looks like a tacticool pump action shotgun, better against low flying ducks than against giant high altitude balloons, but she looks badass with it and that's what matters.
Wow a whole lot of abused kids and desperate sad moms in this one. Yikes.