A blogger reposts a conversation thread in a comment section, which reads:
“I’m not pitiful at all. My brother is super great to me. He’ll help me peel chestnuts, pour water for me, close the curtains for me. Even when he only has 5 bucks on him, he’ll spend three of it on a bracelet for me. He’ll split me 100 RMB when he gets a 200 RMB red pocket for Chinese New Year, and when I said that I wanted all of it, he hesitated and agreed (though of course I was joking). So not all girls with brothers are pitiful. It’s only girls in sexist families who are pitiful.”
“It’s just a matter of whether your parents are fair to you.”
“They’re pretty fair. We buy two of everything in our house, including snacks and stuff, and I’ll take my brother’s share a lot of the time too lol.”
“So who’s your family’s house and savings going to?”
“My parents are still alive. It’s hardly polite to split their estate now. Are your parents dead? Why are you so obsessed with houses and savings?”
The blogger writes, “They get like this every time inheritances are brought up.”
The bloggers comment section says, “If they don’t resolve their cognitive dissonance, it causes them a lot of suffering. Looking at her comments, she sounds very young still, probably not making money yet. Just let her be happy for now. When her parents start demanding she support her brother, she’ll wake up eventually. That’s how I eventually woke up.”
“Anyone who starts waffling whenever inheritances are brought up have no confidence in their parents. Look at only daughters or families with two girls—they can be confident that they’re getting a share.”
“Why does she sound so grateful for such trivial shit? Isn’t it normal to buy two of everything when you have two kids?”
“There’s a trend on the internet these days of deliberating doing a C-section. And sure, C-sections are a lot less risky as a one-time thing compared to vaginal deliveries. It’s a big ordeal to go through a vaginal delivery, and if anything goes wrong, you have to have a C-section anyways.
But if you get a C-section, if you get pregnant again, the placenta might end up growing on top of your surgery wound.
I watched This Is Life [documentary following four high risk pregnancies in China] back in 2017, and I didn’t pay a whole lot of attention to the cases covered in it at the time, I was too busy being intimidated by childbirth itself. I stumbled my way through that documentary and just walked away with the lesson of “don’t have kids”.
I recalled it today, and found an abridged version to watch, and one of the ladies involved had her placenta growing on her old C-section cut, and it was in danger of breaking through her uterus at any time and growing onto her bladder.
A foetus is a type of invasive substance. It has to be limited by the uterus, or else it’ll grow infinitely and cause massive bleeding. At this critical moment, the doctors had to cut her open and do a premature C-section.
She still ended up with a dangerous amount of bleeding, her heart stopped, she had to get four times her total blood volume in transfusions before she was saved.
The most dangerous part of C-sections is in the wound, so if you can vaginally deliver, you’re better off doing it that way.”
Comments say, “Your worries are unnecessary. Most people getting a C-section never planned on having a second baby.”
“I’ve seen two similar videos. One of them was about a doctor who was doing his best to persuade her husband and MIL to allow for a hysterectomy to stop the bleeding, and they wouldn’t sign the consent form until she was almost dead. She’d had a boy with her third baby, but they still wanted her to get pregnant a fourth time and have another boy.”
“My Chinese Medicine doctor recommended vaginal deliveries. He thinks C-sections are more harmful.”
Question: “Why do Hong Kong people still look down on mainlanders? Is it because we’re poorer than them?”
Answer: “After being to Hong Kong a ton of times, I’ve summarised a rule for myself: bitches are afraid of bullies.
For example, if you go to a dim sum place on Star Ferry Pier, they’ll usually aggressively shove you into the same table as some stranger. You’ve got to be even more aggressive than him. Just find an empty table and sit down, and start cussing him out in a northern accent. You can’t have an ounce of politeness, just be like, “This is where I’m fucking sitting,” and you’ll find that he’s nothing more than a paper tiger.
Or like if you’re trying to order something at Disney and get two hamburgers, and for some reason the waitresses look at each other and giggle, just be like, “The fuck are you laughing about, you cunt?” And they’ll stare at each other and silently go silent and red in the face and have no idea what to do.
Every since I’ve discovered this secret, every time I go to Hong Kong, I act like the worst kind of hoodlum, swearing up and down, exaggerating my northern accent 100 times, and pretending like I don’t speak a word of English (actually, I understand English and Japanese perfectly, but so long as they’re not speaking mandarin, I’m just like, “The fuck are you saying?”) I’ve had great experiences. Never been in a better mood.”
Comments say, “You’re the reason why nobody likes Chinese people.”
“But they’ll actually call the cops on you.”
“This only works if you’re in the right, though. It’s the fastest and most efficient way to defend your rights. Works a lot better than filing a complaint or something. If you’re in the wrong and you’re still acting like a bully, you’ll get thrown in jail, or someone will film it and you’ll get internet bullied.”
A thread that starts with OP asking for advice, “What kind of work has a labour shortage in the market right now? Preferably with decent pay? Give a young farmer with no degree some options, yeah? Anything that you can do with just a certificate, the kind that uni students don’t want to work, that’s suitable for an unskilled young man born in the countryside working in the city? Don’t keep bringing up electrician or welding, it doesn’t make any money.”
OP follows with, “Everything you guys are suggesting are jobs you wouldn’t do yourself anyways. To put it bluntly, could you give some actually useful advice? Or are you hiding all the best secrets for yourself? And you don’t want to tell me? All the professions named so far are unskilled, tiring, and dirty. I want a job that isn’t too exhausting, a little bit skilled, and is something you can be proud of, get it?”
“That’s the sort of work that even city kids will fight each other to get, get it?”
“Nursing?”
OP: “That’s a job for women.”
“Why’re you being a bigot now?”
“You could try nanny? So long as you’re around your 40s, fast and efficient with work, knows how to make baby food and drive, don’t gossip, and have a high school diploma, you can make 6K a month working 8 hours a day and getting weekends off. Not counting red pockets you get for New Years.”
OP: “That’s a job for women.”
“Month-sitting nurse?”
OP: “That’s a job for women.”
“Welding. I know it pays over 10K a month in Shanghai.”
OP: “Too many people are doing that, and there’s no room for growth.”
“Sales?”
OP: “I can’t figure out jobs that involve a lot of talking.”
OP clarifies, “I gotta defend myself here. I already said, I want the kind of job I can be proud of. All the professions you’ve suggested are things people look down upon, and is completely unskilled. How the hell am I supposed to work it? There are other factors I need to consider, like I still want a date and stuff. If I have no pay and no dignity, how do I even tell people what I work? What kind of woman would want that? It’s not like I’m vain, got it?”
“If you don’t have a job at all, what woman would want you anyways?”
“I honestly don’t get what you want. Diplomas have always been a barrier. If you want a job that doesn’t take a diploma and that pays well, then of course it’s going to be tiring or something that nobody else wants to do. If it’s an actually really desirable job, why would you get it with no connections?”
OP: “But these suggestions are just terrible! If I went to drive an excavator or a crane or something, or be a bus driver, that’s all better than anything named here. It just requires too much training up front, and getting licensed costs too much, so I have to look for other options. I plan to improve my schooling later, got it?”
“A summary then: anyone have any suggestions for someone who’s too good to do electrician, welding, carpentry, and sales work, and looks down on nursing, who has no diploma? Looking for a high-paying, chill job that gets lots of respect. Actually, I do, in fact, have an idea. Make your parents go into business and start a company, and work at your own company and make your parents pay you. Everyone there will be forced to revolve around you and serve you hand and foot.”
“My son didn’t leave me a drop of water. I’m so disappointed.
We were waiting for the bus to return home after playing at the amusement park. I bought two bottles of water and only had half a bottle left at this point. I took it out for my son to drink, and I told him I was thirsty too and to leave me some. He took the bottle and drank almost all of it, with only a sip left. Then he look at me and he looked at the water, and he finished it. And he even toldme that he was still thirsty, so he wanted to drink more.
It was a big bottle of Ganten, 570ml, with probably 400ml left. He drank all of it in one go. He’s never done that before. I have to remind him all the time to drink more water, and he just takes tiny sips.
At that moment, I felt a chill in my heart. The whole ride home, I didn’t want to talk to him. I felt like I’ve failed to raise him properly.
Saw my husband when I got home and told him everything, because I wanted him to also work on educating our son with me, to make sure he isn’t the kind of boy who just knows how to enjoy his parents love and has no idea how to love his parents back. Unsurprisingly, my husband once again unconditionally supported his son, and started making up excuse for him, like “Why didn’t you buy one more bottle? He might’ve been really thirsty…”
All he could talk about was how I was overthinking it, and he absolutely refused to address how our kid doesn’t know how to care for his parents.
I’m speechless. He’s 5 years old, and he doesn’t know to leave me some water? Why shouldn’t I be upset and sad about that? Why shouldn’t I educate him that love has to be mutual between family and friends?”
Comments say, “I don’t think this is an issue about one more bottle of water or anything, and you can stop mocking the five-year-old boy and telling him to go find a job too. The problem is that she said she was thirsty, but her son still finished all the water. It’s precisely because he’s also thirsty that he should’ve been able to empathise with her. To stretch the metaphor, what if they were stuck in a desert, and she gave the last of the water to her son and just begged for a sip herself to stay alive? Would he have done the same?”
“Read more childrearing books. Kids enter this phase of “not wanting to share with others” when they’re about 2 years old, and it lasts about 2-3 years. When they’re five years old, they’re doing pretty well if they’re willing to share what they have to spare. Kids at this stage are starting to grasp the concept of “property rights” and “territorialism”, but lack the ability to properly socialise and put themselves in other people’s shoes yet. They literally can’t grasp the meaning of sharing and loving others. You’re too stingy to buy more water, and too ignorant to know child development. All you know to do is blame your child for not leaving you some.”
“Why not just take your sip first?”
A tiktok video of a Hui people Islamic wedding. OP says, “This is the prettiest Hui bride and groom I’ve ever seen.”
Comments say, “This is an Islamic outfit? I couldn’t tell at all.”
“She’s dressed up so much, and yet she’s still wrapping her head up like a marinaded egg? Do they really think this looks good or something?”
“This is the outfit of religious extremist. Around here, they’d be taken to the police station, get fined, write letters of remorse, and if they dare to talk about it, their whole family will get attention from the Community Office. Especially during the holidays, we visit these families every day, so a lot of people with crooked ideas know to keep their head down.”
Why a northern accent?