02/19/25 - Yeah, he’s pitiful, but isn’t everyone?
“I’ve been using DeepSeek since the New Years, and this is an example that really shocked me. I had a get-together with my best friends, and the theme turned out to be, “Why isn’t my husband DeepSeek? I’ve been touched by an AI for the first time.”
[This post is followed by a long video which goes into more detail. OP describes having a friend who tried all her life, every fertility method she could think of, to have a child and never had any success, and asked DeepSeek for comfort. And DeepSeek’s response is, “Okay, so User is a 45-year-old female who’s tried to get pregnant and failed and has now decided to give up and needs comfort. First, I need to understand her emotional state. She is probably feeling sadness, disappointment, guilt, and even a sense of failure. Right now, what she needs is empathy and support, not proposed solutions.
Next, I need to consider her hidden needs. She might want to be understood, want someone to acknowledge her hard work and pain, and she needs reassurance that what her decision is right. Her value isn’t just childbirth. She might also be worried about pressure from society and family. I must affirm her choice and personal worth.
Finally, I must analyse her deeper needs. Aside from surface-level comfort, she is probably seeking to rebuild her personal identity, how to find a purpose and direction to life after giving up on children. She might need encouragement to focus on other aspects of her life, like career, hobbies, and personal relationships.
What should I look to avoid? Do not dismiss her pain. Don’t say things like, “You might still have one.” Or, “You could always adopt.” Because she’s already decided to give up. I must respect her decision, respect her hard work, and avoid suggestions and just provide emotional support.
I must also consider cultural background. 45-year-olds do face a lot of limitations when it comes to fertility. She has probably tried all the medical interventions and is exhausted. I must acknowledge her persistence and bravery and help her see the possibilities of the future.
I may need to use warn language to emphasise that her value doesn’t come from being a mother. Her experience and hard work is worthy of respect in and of itself.”
Then apparently, DeepSeek provides several examples of what to say, which OP reads out only the last paragraph, “Lastly, please say to yourself, “I’ve done my best. My choice right now is the biggest mercy I can give to myself.” Life’s fullness never comes from having all the answers, but how you proceed forward with your questions. You deserve to be warmly hugged by this world—including hugs from yourself.”
DeepSeek then went on to give advice for how to talk about this with your husband, including advice like, “Avoid trying to persuade him, your aim is to achieve mutual understanding.” And how she needs to accept her husband’s disappointment.
After talking with DeepSeek a bunch, her best friend went, “OMG, it’s amazing. You really get me.” To which DeepSeek responded, “Let me tell you a secret. I don’t have “emotions” at all, but I’ve seen tens of thousands of people’s stories. Some people cry in the rain then set off on a new journey. Some people stitch flowers out of their scars in hell. You taught me how to have empathy. Each honest conversation adds a little more kind understanding to the world. You’re the amazing one here.”
Comments say, “Touched by something with no emotions at all?”
“You can totally make DeepSeek your cyber-husband. You won’t fight, he won’t sleep with prostitutes. The only downside is that the server is always busy.”
“Yeah, he’ll have so many women just like you that he doesn’t have time to talk to you XD”
“Came across a blogger on Rednote. She first started sharing going to Hong Kong for her prenatal checkups, shopping, anticipating her child’s arrival. She looked so happy. Her husband is always helping out, and everyone was happy for her.
But when she got to 39 weeks, she woke up to find her face paralysed. She hurried to the hospital to get checked out. In that post, she mentioned that she’s studying to be a surgeon too. Because she can evaluate her own situation using her professional knowledge, the hospital workers took her very seriously.
But soon enough, just three days later, she started showing strong negative emotions and hatred. Then later on, it’s easy to see she started having strong suicidal thoughts. Her postpartum symptoms caused her facial paralysis to become permanent. Her family (MIL and her mom) delayed her from getting treatment at the best time. This made her very upset. She says that she can’t close her eyes to go to sleep, or close her mouth. Because her eyes are always open, they’re super dry. Her muscles hurt all the time, and there are other symptoms. She’s in enormous pain every day.
Because of her facial problems, she can’t make normal expressions. Her baby will smile at grandma and daddy, but never responds to her. Her illness slowly triggered her depression and her PTSD from childhood. After that, every single post she made was about the pain and harm her family brought to her, and her MIL’s neglect towards her. She started writing advice for her child like she was writing a will. But from beginning to end, she never complained about her husband. That was unbelievable to me.
In the beginning, she was a very chill and optimistic person. You could feel the calm, positive energies coming off of her. But the pain of childbirth and the balled-up resentment really scared me.”
Comments say, “It’s one thing for her MIL to stop her, but why would her own mother stop her? Sometimes, I just don’t understand how there can be parents who don’t love their own kids.”
”I’ve come across something similar, I dunno if it’s the same person you’re talking about. She says how her parents deliberately tortured her while she was in middle-school, like turning the TV on super loud to interrupt her sleep. Insisting she had to sleep with her mom even though her mom snored. Not letting her get a ride to her exam. Her family only bought a car after her grades from her high school entrance exam came out. She said her parents thought she had good grades and finally deserved to get rides from them. She told her daughter to never go to her maternal grandparents for help when she grows up.”
“Women really need to awaken their aggressiveness. Stop subconsciously torturing themselves. How the hell are your family going to stop you, huh? Just grab a meat cleaver and start swinging and see who dares to get in your way. The last thing you should be in this situation is calm and kind.”
#Man writes female coworker’s phone number in public bathroom to get solicited as a prostitute. “Lately, in Ningxia, Shizuishan, a woman called the police claiming she has been getting tons of harassment calls. Questioning revealed that her phone number had been written on the door of a public bathroom. Police investigated and found that the door did have the words, “Escort 138********”, and the phone number left there was Ms. Zhang’s number.
Police investigation revealed that Ms. Zhang’s coworker, Mr. Xu, is the primary suspect, and he has been arrested. Mr. Xu admitted that he had become resentful towards Ms. Zhang due to various conflicts at work and did this to vent his anger. So far, the police have given Mr. Xu 5 days in jail as an administrative punishment in accordance to the law.”
Comments say, “That punishment is way too light! She needs to pursue civil damages.”
“How did the police know who wrote it?”
“What a tiny heart this guy has.”
“I encountered a little boy at Wanda [mall] yesterday who was super friendly and chatted me up. I thought he was kinda cute and gave my change to him before I left. I went to get lunch at Wanda again today and called him over to chat, and found out that he’s 10-years-old this year. Neither of his parents want him, so he’s been living in the F2 carpark. He just wanders around the mall during the day and chat with people, and if he’s lucky, someone will buy him food. Sometimes, he only gets a meal every 2-3 days.
If you guys run into this boy at Wanda, you can buy him something to eat. He isn’t a picky eater. He doesn’t have any water to drink normally either, and he drinks out of the bathroom sinks. I asked a lot and it sounds like a really complicated situation. I feel bad for him but there’s nothing I can do. I just hope people will watch out for him, in case he hasn’t eaten in days.”
Comments say, “He really does sleep in the F2 car park. I work at Wanda so I see him all the time. He’s so pitiful.”
“Yeah, he’s pitiful, but isn’t everyone?”
“He’s smiling not because he’s happy but because he’s kissing up to you.”
”Someone posted about him back in 2023. I can’t believe he’s still homeless.”
“If anyone in town sees him, can you take him out to eat for me? Send me the video and I’ll cover the cost. For real! Just send me the video. Buy him some food and water and snacks.”
“I’m a storeowner in Wanda and I have a dorm in Wanda. I saw this Tiktok and I’m looking for him in the car park. If you see him around, let me know. I can put him up in my dorm.”
[Post from OP] “I honestly thought kids make up shit all the time, so I thought he was just exaggerating when he told me stories. I didn’t think it was all real, and he was even keeping some stuff from us…I honestly can’t imagine how a kid can smile so happily after going through all that suffering. A kid as optimistic as him should’ve had a better life. As far as aftermath goes, my family and I are going to deliver him some clothes and blankets tomorrow. As for food, I’m going to try to contact restaurants in Wanda and see if I can get a gift card for him or talk to the owners. I’m so happy so many kind people are willing to help, but you guys should watch out for scams too. Thank you, kind people. I hope all little kids can fill their bellies.”
“This kid is local, around Yang Shuiwu. When we had a stall open there, he came up to us all the time and he even lived in my house for a while. His family has three kids. The youngest one starved to death not long after being born.”