01/28/24 - Their top 3 university acceptance rate is 2%. That’s not even as hard to get to as a 985 university in China.
A blogger reposts someone else’s social media posts and comments, “Tragedies have always been happening. They’ve never stopped.”
The social media posts, “I’ve been invited to do makeup on a Hui people bride before. When my brushed makeup past her cheek, a tear rolled from her eyes. If I could hear her heart at that moment, I believe she was feeling broken in that moment.”
Comments say, “When I had my wedding photos taken, I remember feeling helpless like a child. I cried all day. The makeup artist kept coming over to help me wipe away tears and comfort me. Nobody knows how I got through all these years. I’m used to this kind of life by now.”
“Can’t Hui people marry who they want?”
“That’s so unlikely though. The family would never agree.”
“She even wore an undershirt beneath her wedding dress T_T”
“It’s required. They’re not allowed to show too much skin there.”
A tiktok video of a grandma working with a baby strapped to her back. OP writes, “As soon as she starts working, the baby shakes back and forth like a ragdoll. You can visibly see her getting sleepy as she rocks back and forth. No wonder kids fall asleep in no time once you strap them to your back!”
[I dunno if this counts as shaking the baby for youtube or not, and they said they’d strike me if I broke community guideline again, so I guess I’ll stick to descriptions again. Basically, it’s a grandma washing a large amount of vegetables with a baby on her back, and with her motion, the baby is rocking back and forth to an extent that really does look like it qualifies for shaking the baby. This is an older baby though, looks to be about a year old.]
Comments say, “That’s not sleepy, that’s dizziness.”
“Some people get motion sick on cars. She gets motion sick on people.”
“Isn’t this kind of rocking bad for her brain or something?”
“Someone reposted one of my posts and said, “A lot of men are super proud thinking their wife is pretty, loyal, and frugal.
Pretty, loyal, and frugal are qualities that will never appear on the same woman.
Prettiness is a rare resource. Even if a woman was a born beauty, just to maintain their beauty, they need constant investment, including buying clothes that suit them, skincare products, makeup, or even money on plastic surgery. As soon as they stop spending money, they’ll instantly become not fashionable and not pretty anymore.
You can find a woman who’s both pretty and loyal, but the man she’s loyal to is certainly supplying her with money, emotional value, or housework. Usually at least two out of three.
The only possibility for pretty, loyal, and frugality to appear on the same person is that: if she’s actually pretty, then her paramour is giving her the money. And as for loyalty, she’s only loyal to herself.”
Comments say, “Or maybe this beauty is from a rich family, and the man is also handsome, so she doesn’t need him to spend money on herself.”
“I’ve seen some really pretty girls who are really insecure because of their family background, who never learned how to spend money, who just got PUA’d into an early marriage.”
A blogger reposts someone’s social media posts, commenting, “The first normal college student and her husband of 2024.”
The post reads, “Hi, FIL, I hope you can find this tiktok post. I’ve been married to your son for three years. From the day I married to now, I’ve only been home once. It’s been two years since I’ve visited my family for New Years. I said I wanted to go home this year for New Years, and you refused to let me. You said that a married daughter is an upended bucket of water, that I need to stop thinking about running back to my family every day. I don’t agree with what you said and I was upset, and I only argued back that I’ll always be my parents’ daughter and that I’m definitely going home this year. But I guess that made you feel like you lost face or something, so you slapped me in the face. For a whole minute, I could hear ringing in my brain. My tears wouldn’t stop coming. My parents have never hit me growing up. I can’t believe you gave me the first slap of my life. Of course, I learned that this was your first time hitting a woman too, and it was me.
Afterwards, you told your son that you were only having a moment of high blood pressure and you got overheated. Well, I can only tell you that you’ll be paying for that moment of impulsiveness for the rest of your life. Your only baby son has sold his house in the last couple of days and is going to go back to Guizhou with me. We’re going to use the proceeds from the sale to build a house that belongs to us, or buy one. We’re setting off tomorrow. And just to make it clear, I didn’t talk him into any of this. He could feel my despair. After all, I’ve treated you better than my own parents these last few years. I buy you gifts all the time. All the time off we get, we never spend alone. We always prioritise spending time with you guys. But I guess you just took it all for granted. But your son saw how much I’d done, and he knows right from wrong.
It’s okay, once you’re old and can’t move around anymore, he’ll come back and fulfil his filial duties. I won’t stop him. But I don’t have this obligation. Friendly reminder: if you can’t read any of the words in this post, you can get a friend to read it out loud to you. Let’s never see each other again.”
Comments say, “Some old fucks think they’re your real dad just because you call them dad. Can’t believe anyone hits their daughter-in-law.”
“Wow, she is way too calm. If I was hit by someone, I would pounce on them like a mad dog and bite something off of them. Probably their hand.”
“You’ll have no problems if you just don’t get married :D”
“I heard a lawyer talk about the latest domestic violence case, the one where the guy beat his wife to death. A family court lawyer said that Chinese people have a very high tolerance for domestic violence, because they’ve been taught growing up that it’s a “family matter”. You shouldn’t get the law or the police involved. But in America, that’s not the case at all. A single action (shove or push), or throwing things at someone, or a verbal threat, or grabbing someone by their clothes. All of that is domestic violence and you can call the cops for it. But usually, for Chinese people to get to the point where they call the cops, things have gotten very severe indeed. They put up with way too much.
Honestly, in America, it’s pretty easy to get protection and support for domestic violence, so long as you want to.
The lawyer said that for this case to get this far, there would’ve been signs beforehand, because this was too cruel. Too inhumane.
He was like, “Think about it, it’s normal for couples to fight, but just think about whether or not this is normal. How many people could actually beat their wife to death with their bare hands? That’s pretty rare, right?”
He said, “This person was definitely giving off warning signs at home.”
Right now, the legend is that his family is…like, whatever (I don’t know if it’s true or anything), but what I want to say is, as the family of the guy, it’s normal for them to pour everything into trying to save their son. That’s normal. Whether he’s the murderer, whether he’s got any kind of background or not, it’s normal for the suspect’s family to act this way. And right now, it seems like they’ve hired very experienced lawyers. That’s normal too.
But what about the woman?
Can the man’s family really make the devil turn the mill if they’ve got enough money?
I guess having money and power helps no matter what country you’re in, right?
Well, we’ll see what happens.
As for the woman, I don’t know if the Wudaokou Alumni Association has provided any actual help or not…sigh.”
Comments say, “Beating someone to death is way too cruel…aren’t Sichuan people known for being whipped husbands? If the marriage isn’t working out, just pull out of it. This has gone way too far.”
“From the people who’ve gotten a divorce around me, I definitely feel like if divorce is brought up to a woman, they’ll instantly fall into a hysterical self-doubt, wondering if they’ve done something wrong. But if divorce is brought up to a man, they’ll instantly hysterically start thinking that she must be cheating on them, or else why would she want to leave? And then they’ll start obsessing about how she must be a slut, blah blah blah, or maybe she’s got bad friends who were a bad influence on her or something.”
“I was just saying yesterday that I feel so bad for her parents. Such a wonderful daughter, the only one they’ve got, and she’s gone just like that.”
“The maid I’ve hired seems to be living in some kind of trashy romance novel?
I really don’t feel like cooking, so I hired a maid to cook for me. She comes over to make lunch every day, and it’s always tasty as fuck. I’m super satisfied.
But like, this maid…um…I feel like she’s addicted to trashy romances. She’s in her 60s, and for some reason, insists on calling me “my lady”…..I’ve told her ten thousand times, she can just call me Dong [her actual surname, stop laughing], “I can’t do that, my lady.”
She only cooks lunch, so she almost never sees my husband. But my husband doesn’t work on the weekends and will eat with me, and she was all like, “The young lady smiles so much more than the master is home.”
Oh my god. The cringe. I dug an entire castle in the floor with my toes.
When my mom came over to pet my puppy and mentioned babies, she started pressuring me to have kids again, and we kind of had a fight. After my mom left, my maid was like, “You know the old dame was just doing what’s best for you, right, my lady?”
Jesus Christ, kill me.
I really told her tons of times that she doesn’t have to call me that, but she still lives in her own fantasy world. If it wasn’t for the fact that my husband is literally just a normal salaryman, I would suspect I’m actually living in some sort of shitty novel. What can I do, people??”
Comments say, “At least your maid is nice enough to not do it in public. When my maid saw my friend, she was all like, “I’m Lady Wen Wen’s maid.” And my friend has called me Lady Wen Wen ever since. And one time, I told her to run the phone out to my husband, and she went out on the street and yelled, “Young Master!!” And I swear everyone on the whole street turned to look at her. My husband froze right where he was.”
“From another point of view, you’re just her toy lol. She’s just roleplaying an NPC.”
“My maid is like this too. She only comes over once a week and as soon as she steps through the door, she’s calling me “young mistress”. The worst part is, she calls my cat, “young master”. It makes my eyelid twitch.”
“I want to know what the fuck kind of world my boss lives in, because he’s younger than me by four years and insists I call him “bro”. And he calls me, “my child.” Forget castles, I can dig an entire imperial tomb with my toes.”
“My dad’s former chauffeur used to call me, “young boss”….aahhhhhh who gets it. I feel like I’m living in a crime novel or something.”
A compilation of posts talking about how Koreans are really pretentious:
“I always thought Koreans were really badly involuted too, but they’re actually just super inefficient.
I’ve seen a video before, where a Korean wife would wake up at 5AM to cook breakfast for her husband. She’d busy herself in front of the stove for hours, and just ended up making a rice stew or sushi or something. If it was my mom, she could’ve made a New Years feast in that amount of time.
Korean students are always complaining about how they only get to sleep four or five hours a day, but Korea doesn’t have a mandatory fail rate at middle school, and their top 3 university acceptance rate is 2%. That’s not even as hard to get to as a 985 university in China [Ivy league equivalent].
So I don’t get what the hell they’re doing all day if they’re not sleeping.”
“The Korean college entrance exam and civil servant exam is just all about memorisation. Like you get 100 books, and there’ll be 20 questions based off of them, and you just have to memorise everything. Or maybe Koreans are just inefficient and can’t study at home and have to go to a cafe. Putting on makeup and getting your stuff together takes 2 hours, and setting up and buying coffee once you get there is another half an hour. And then they start highlighting absolutely everything and turn their books into a mess, and then complain about how tired you are. But you ask and nothing’s actually entered their brains.”
“This is so real. My brother went to Korean to study, and he complained about this too. When you study in China, you grab your laptop, head to the library, and start reading. If you need coffee, you get take out or make some instant coffee beforehand and put it in your thermos. But Koreans really care about the ritual. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, if you head out, you have to put on makeup and do your hair and put together an outfit. And they’ve got a ton of stationery too. There’s a dedicated tool for everything that they’ve got to lay out. And then they order an iced americano. And then they start studying. I’m exhausted just hearing about it.”
“I’ve seen a documentary in Korea about how a middle school girl can only sleep 2-3 hours a day, and she’s got sores on her hand from writing, and she can’t even hold her pen anymore and have to tie it to her hand with a rubber band. Guess how she studies? She copies out her textbooks. Again and again. What the hell kind of studying method is this?”
“All Korean food vloggers cook the exact same way. You wash this vegetable and wash that vegetable while rambling about how you have to get it clean. And after a whole hour of washing, they start plating. Put out the grill or the stew pot or whatever, put in the freshly washed veggies and meat, and then add in kimchi, and more kinchi, and more kimchi. And by now, 2-3 hours have passed, and they start grilling meat. Like, two or three pieces of meat per person. And eat like they’re really enjoying themselves, and they’re like, “Mmm, it’s tasty.” And then they start making instant noodles, and eat a whole pot of instant noodles with kimchi. Smack their lips. And it’s done.”
A tiktok video where a mom challenges making a hotpot dinner for a family of three on a budget of 30 RMB:
To catalog, the first little piece of meat she buys is 11 RMB. The handful of duck intestine is 6 RMB. The two pieces of duck blood is 1.50 RMB per two pieces. The variety of mushrooms is 4.80 RMB. The basket of tomatoes is 1.40 RMB. The basket of lettuce is 1 RMB. The rice noodles are 2 RMB per pound. With the remaining 2 RMB, she buys two oranges for 1.50 RMB.
Comments say, “Where the fuck are you? How is it so cheap??”
“She’s so sweet~ She tells every stall owner, “Good business!””
“Three lettuce for just a buck? There’s no way things are that cheap in Guangxi.”
“Oh man, not even my rural village has things this cheap.”
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