01/25/24 - This judge is crazy giving her six years. In similar cases, the woman usually just gets parole.
An OP posts screenshots of a reply to the question, “The Google Chinese engineer’s admitted to “beating his wife to death” and has been transferred from the hospital to jail. What do you think about this? What kind of punishment is he going to face?”
OP says, “This is the most objective answer I’ve seen regarding this case. It’s a lot more concise than my ramblings, and is more or less what I think. Take a look for yourself.”
The reply to the question reads, “The most magical part of this case is that when everyone saw that he beat his wife to death with his bare fists, everyone thought it must be domestic violence. And a lot of people has been celebrating underneath—“don’t speak to strangers!”.
But in reality, she was the one abusing him. When they would fight, she’d slap him in the face a dozen times. Then he’d fight back and she’d call the police, and she must’ve thought the police would just try to smooth things over like Chinese cops too. But when the American cops arrived, they arrested the guy.
The woman panicked and went to the police station to admit that she started it, she beat him first. But the American cops told her, “You’re right, we know you started it, but American laws don’t prosecute women for domestic violence. Your husband fought back, so we need to prosecute him.”
As soon as she got out of the police station, she’d figured out her next move, that as soon as he gets out, she needs a divorce.
The guy was probably just confused. Just a few days ago, he was still winning at life at Google, and now not only did he get beat up and arrested, as soon as he gets out, he gets fired from his company, he gets served divorce papers, he’s 2 million USD in debt, and his green card application got turned down. In just a few days, he’ll probably get deported.
Even so, he still didn’t want to divorce. He kept fighting with his wife, and of course, he got beat up again, but he didn’t dare to fight back this time, or else he’d get arrested again.
Finally, we get to the ending. The woman cheats and sues for his property. The guy’s about to be deported and can’t even show up in court to defend himself. That is to say, she’s ruined his life. She has his house, and he still needs to pay it off.
If you were the guy here, what would you do?
Of course you’d beat her to death with your bare hands!
Now it’s all good. The death penalty isn’t really a thing in California, he’s got his revenge, and he doesn’t have to go back to China. A life sentence without parole is basically another form of green card.
We see a culmination of feminism, racism, American legal system, Chinese cops muddying waters, American legislative system, and American death penalty problems all in one case. Just the fact that Qinghua is basically preparatory school for going to America is ridiculous enough.
Btw, I really suggest that China cancel all funding towards Qinghua University. The American government should be paying for that.”
Comments say, “Let’s ignore if anything in this reply was true or not, what do you mean by “of course you’d beat her to death too?” Beating someone to death is justifiable now? What do we even need laws for then?”
“Oh fuck off with your bullshit about American laws not prosecuting women for abuse. Just search “domestic abuse against men” and you can see a ton of court rulings.”
“All of this is just subjective fantasising, I have no idea how you can call this shit “objective” at all. It’s just making excuses for a murdering. And “preparatory school for America”? Isn’t it just because most of the world’s best professors are in America? If we could draw them to come to China instead, Chinese students would rather be closer to home too.”
“Speaking of “education-caused poverty”, I can think of two examples.
I’ve got a female friend who fell in love with an American-born Chinese. They went through a very lovey, dovey period, and they both wanted to get married. The ABC told her that he’s taking this relationship very seriously.
She mentioned that she wanted to send her son to America to attend high school, and the ABC agreed enthusiastically, and helped her sort through getting admitted and a homestay family. She figured that if she was going to marry him anyways, she might as well send her son over first to get used to living in America, and she can get citizenship through him, and just take it one step at a time.
I’m sure her intentions were good, but she ultimately overestimated the reliability of a romantic relationship.
Not only did the ABC not intend to marry her, he’s got a ton of girlfriends beside her. She was just one of his girlfriends. When she discovered all of this and fought with some of his other girlfriends, she was exhausted.
Her son had been studying in America for a while now, and she didn’t have a whole lot in savings. After all, she was planning to get married, and once she went over to America, they’d be one big family. Another kid is just another place setting at the table, how much could it cost?
But now that her fantasies of a marriage was falling apart, there was nothing she could do except retreat. Her son even said that it’s not as great here as he thought it would be, and he wanted to go back to China too.
She thought it over, and if she tried to persist, she’d probably have to sell off her house and car. Fine, screw it, she summoned her son back.
Then, the next several years, she focused on work, made some money, while her son continued his high school education in China. He grew up a lot after this too. Before, I’ve seen this kid throw a tantrum to drink beer at lunch, and she just let him…like, he was totally an annoying brat.
The ending was pretty good. He got admitted to a university in Toronto, and she had enough money to send him over now.
No man, no marriage, no family, but there’s no regrets either here, right?
My other female friend was a lot more rational. Her son had great grades and planned to study overseas, so he got in touch with a couple of universities himself and got admitted. She sat down and crunched the numbers with him when it came to her finances. She could sell off a house and give him some of her savings for his schooling. If that’s not enough, he’ll have to figure something out on his own, but if he’s frugal, he should be able to get by. And she’s going to keep her comfy flat, car, and 300K in savings for herself, plus she’ll be using all of her 10K/month social security, and she won’t give him any.
Her son crunched the number too, and picked a university that was the most bang for his buck in Europe and went over all excited.
So I guess it worked out in the end. The mom didn’t work herself to the bone and sell everything she owned to support him. And he isn’t an ungrateful bastard who complains all day about how his parents aren’t helping him achieve his dreams.
If you can reach the lifestyle you want going on your tip toes, then we can consider it. But if you need to tip toe all the time, or even have to jump up to reach it, then it’s probably not worth the trouble.”
Comments say, “That first case was so risky! They haven’t even gotten anywhere yet and she sent her son over? You have to have the confidence to keep supporting your son even if things didn’t work out before you send him out, or else you’re just harming him!”
“Yeah, first case is so risky. Thank god she landed safely after all.”
“The second case is a lot more rational, and a lot more realistic.”
A tiktok video making fun of Cantonese food portion sizes:
Comments say, “Vegetables really do need to go through oil first. Chuka Ichiban truly didn’t lie to me after all.”
“Either way, this is one hell of a skilled chef.”
“Can any Cantonese friends tell me how much this dish would be? It looks really tasty.” [Someone’s reply says you can see a corner of the receipt in the video, where this dish sells for 328 RMB.]
“I’ve accidentally left another Asian legend in America.
My low blood sugar flared up while I was in the supermarket. I dunno why, maybe I got triggered by all the greens in the salad section or something.
I was leaning on my grocery cart, trying to get a candy out of my pocket with shaky hands. My fingers were all wobbly and trembling and I couldn’t get the wrapper off.
Just when I wanted to get someone to help me, I realised I’ve overestimated myself. In a few breaths, I was drifting in the stars. My eyes went dark and I fell on the floor.
By the time I recovered, I was surrounded by security and a lot of very concerned-looking white people.
I was like, “I’m fine, I’m fine.” And what I wanted to say was that it runs in the family. But with my low blood pressure, “family” came out of my mouth first and I didn’t know how to follow that up, so I was like, “It’s…family…curse.”
All the white people’s expressions instantly changed. They rapidly withdrew with their grocery carts while being all like, “Ohhhh, oh, bless you.”
This was like 6PM, when everyone is getting off of work. The supermarket is crowded as fuck. But when I went to check out at the cashier, no one wanted to stand in the same line as me.”
Comments say, “I mean, is it wrong to call it a family curse if it’s genetic though?”
“White people are so superstitious. I feel like there’s a lot more hardcore atheists in China.”
“Is this another story trying to trick me into learning English?”
“I was watching a true crime show, that talked about a case:
After a woman got married, her husband constantly abused her. He forbid her from working, saying that she’ll flirt with guys at work, and demanded that she stay home to have kids.
She had a daughter, and continued to be abused. Her husband was like, “This is all because you didn’t have a son.”
She escaped to her female classmate’s place, and her husband chased her down to keep threatening her. And her classmate offered to open a clothing boutique for women for her, so she can work and never interact with men. Her husband agreed.
She opened a boutique, put bread on the table, her husband lazed around at home and continued beating her. She couldn’t take it anymore and went to the courts to get a divorce. In court, her husband was like, “Yeah, sure, I beat her, but I’ll totally change. There’s no way I’ll agree to a divorce.” So the courts wouldn’t allow for a divorce.
She continues to get beat, and her husband keeps saying it’s because she didn’t give him a son, so she got pregnant again and had a son. She continues to run her boutique, provide for her family, raise her two kids, while getting beaten.
One day, her husband got drunk again and came home to beat her again, demanding to know which man she had her son with. She offered to get a paternity test, but her husband kept on beating her, and started waving a knife at her, threatening to kill her and the kids.
In terror and despair, she managed to snatch the knife from him and stabbed him, and he died.
In the end, this woman got sentenced for excessive self defense. The lawyer said that the man was drunk at the time. Although he threatened to kill her and her kids, he couldn’t actually have done it, so there was no need for her to grab the knife and stab him.
And she got sentenced to six years.
And the TV show host was like, “See. If she’d insisted on divorce to begin with, all of this wouldn’t have happened.”
I swear I burst a vein. What the fuck kind of program is this.”
Comments say, “They’re just oppressing the weaker party and getting her to step back. That’s how society is nowadays.”
“This judge is crazy giving her six years. In similar cases, the woman usually just gets parole.”
“I’d still kill him, no matter how many years I got. Not like I can get a divorce. Even if I do 6 years in prison, at least I’ll get to live. But if I don’t kill him, he’ll beat me to death sooner or later.”
A question, “What can I do if I can never get enough food to eat at my in-laws?”
The top reply is, “When my MIL first came over to my place, she was super stingy too. Only made two dishes for four people to eat, and the serving sizes were tiny too. She made a plate of broccoli, and I counted. There was only a dozen florets. That’s not even enough for just me.
What did I do?
It’s simple. I ate my fill. I’ll make sure I get full first, fuck everyone else. I eat fast, so even if I eat a lot, I’m still the first one to be done eating.
And if they’re still hungry? That’s not my fault. It’s her fault for not making enough.
If she makes food that I don’t like, that’s fine, I have plenty of snacks stored up in my bedroom. I’ll get by snacking.
One time, for breakfast, she made porridge, cakes, and eggs. Four grown adults, and she made 4 eggs, 5 tiny cakes not even the size of my palm, and the porridge was so thin you’d think it was just a pot of boiled water.
I didn’t care about anyone else and ate a bowl of porridge, three cakes, and an egg for myself and then left. It’s not my business what everyone else eats. I’m still breastfeeding. I gotta make milk for the baby.
That morning, my husband just ate one cake and one egg. When he got off of work, he told my MIL that he was getting hungry cramps by 10AM. That’s when my MIL finally started making bigger servings.
She might not care about her daughter in law, but she’ll definitely care about her son.”
Comments say, “My in-laws, my sister-in-law, and me, four grown ass people shared two plates of dumplings. I ate an entire plate by myself, and watched them argue over the remaining plate.”
“Holy shit, you had nothing but porridge and eggs while breastfeeding!? They’re being way too stingy! Imagine, feeding a baby, and going to work, and still not getting enough to eat! That’s horrible!”
“My MIL loves to make soup, but she barely drinks any herself. My FIL will drink some, so every time she made soup, she barely added enough water to cover all the ingredients. I love soup. I’m happy just having soup instead of food sometimes. But every time, there’s only a little bit of soup, so I feel bad hogging all of it for myself. I told her twice to make more soup, but she wouldn’t listen. So then I drank three bowls in a row the next time she made soup, and finished the whole thing by myself. That’s when she started making more.”
Under the hashtag #Protecting Shanghai dialect starts from babies, a blogger writes, “Look at the pitiful birth rates of young people who have Shanghai hukou and can speaking Shanghaiese.
What are the chances a pureblood Shanghai kiddo who’s Shanghaiese going three generations back can meet another kid who’s the same at school?
How can there be an environment for these kids to speak Shanghai dialect to begin with?
Face it, Shanghai dialect is doomed to vanish.
It’s not like you can force Anhui kids to speak Shanghai dialect at school, right?
I love listening to Ma Yili speak Shanghaiese.
It’s so sexy.
I hope Shanghai dialect doesn’t disappear.”
Comments say, “This has nothing to do with birth rates. They’re actively discouraging speaking Shanghai dialect.”
“There was a time when you were explicitly banned from speaking dialects at school.”
“All Chinese dialects are disappearing. Even the people who can speak it don’t speak it well anymore. This isn’t a problem that’s just restricted to Shanghai.”
“This reminds me, no matter how pitiful incels in rural villagers are, they at least have the right to inherit land just because he’s a man. Even if he never got married, at least he doesn’t have to worry about not having land or not having housing. If he works hard, I honestly don’t think his life will be too bad.
But if girls never marry, they might actually become homeless. At first, they might be able to live with their family, but as their brothers get married and have kids, they’re going to get annoyed with her sooner or later. She’ll become someone who overstays her welcome at her brother’s house one day.”
Comments say, “If women don’t get married, the land they’re farming for themselves won’t get taken away. Theoretically at least. But they’ll never inherit any housing though.”
“That’s why it’s important to fight for rural women’s right to inherit land. We’ve been talking about gender equality for so many years, and yet women still can’t find a place to belong.”
“Every part of society was designed around men. In the eyes of the original designers of the patriarchy, women are just a flowing resource, which takes the least effort to control and can produce the most value.”
Under the hashtag #Prosecutor protests after man is acquitted for sexually assaulting minor, a blogger writes, “The victim was a little girl who’s just starting sixth grade. She got pregnant. Two people sexually assaulted her, actually. One is her uncle, the biological father of the child in her tummy. He got sentenced to 10 years and 6 months.
The other one is the handyman helping her family do maintenance. That’s the suspect the girl first told the police about. But he’s not the father of the baby, so he denied everything. All they have is the girl’s statements, and no other evidence, so he was acquitted at the first hearing.
I’ve got to thank the prosecutors here, because they protested the decision, formed a taskforce, and took the case to court again. Before the new hearing, the task force went through hundreds of thousands of wechat messages, and proved that he was in frequent contact with the victim. And when it came to identifying objects, the girl could accurately identify the clothing that he wore while having sex with her. She mentioned that he stank too, which proved they had intimate contact that went beyond normal social interaction. But he still insisted on his innocence.
While questioning him in court, the prosecutor really highlighted where his statements conflicted with themselves. For example, he denied ever meeting with the kid alone, but he transferred her money on wechat by scanning her QR code in person. He said that he gave her money because he had sex with her mom, but all of the transfers were done behind her mom’s back, and he was in much more frequent contact with her than her mom.
These evidence finally broke apart his innocent plea.
Finally, this handyman got declared guilty for rape and was sentenced to six years. Thank you, prosecutors.”
Comments say, “This is the purpose in studying law T_T”
“I think the Supreme Court’s done a lot of cases of children being sexually assaulted, including Little Passionfruit Girl.”
“Wow, I’m really touched.”