01/07/25 - Why would you tell other people your family member has cancer when you’re not even telling it to themselves?
A compilation of why you shouldn’t tell your family they have cancer:
“My friend’s friend’s grandpa had terminal stage cancer, but he refused to believe it. Insisted his kids were just trying to scam money out of him and lived for a whole 16 years.”
“It’s real! I had someone near me who had cancer for three years and nothing was wrong with them, and I don’t know who the fuck had nothing to gossip about and told it to him. Died in three months.”
“My grandpa had a liver tumour and asked me and my siblings to read his medical report to him (he had bad eyes and couldn’t see anything). My grandma told us to keep it a secret, so we all kept it from him. And the grandma next door deliberately came over to tell him that he had liver cancer and he’s doomed. My grandpa died soon after that. A couple of years ago, that grandma died of carbon monoxide poisoning trying to burn coal indoors for heat.”
“My dad had terminal stage lung cancer and it had metastasised to the brain. Told him he just had a brain tumour and took him to Tiantan to do a gamma ray knife surgery. This is a type of super localised radiotherapy and it’s super fast. He only stayed in the hospital for a day and got discharged the next day. Didn’t tell him he had lung cancer. He doesn’t read much at all and thought he was fine, and goes out every day and treks 20,000 steps. It’s been two years, and now the tumour in his lungs has shrunk down to just 2cm.”
“There’s an old man in my village who got cancer, whose family just told him it was a little minor illness and it’ll all get better if he takes his meds and gets some IVs. So he goes and plays cards every day like he’s not sick at all. The none day, someone lost too much money at the card table and got mad and told him he had cancer and it was incurable. The old man died in 3-5 days. They all say he was scared to death.”
“Some cancer patients die of fright, because they can’t accept reality in their heart. Some die of starvation, because you can’t really keep any food down by the end.”
“The problem is you have to go to the oncology department of the hospital. It’s written all over the walls. And everyone in the same hospital room has the same problem. There’s no way to hide it from them.”
“Older people don’t really know. Like my dad has a mysterious kind of confidence that he just has some inflammation, it’s nothing serious, and he just has a cyst or something, and he believes it. The doctors and nurses won’t say anything and will help you keep the lie going, and they’ll tell the other patients to do the same. He has no idea he has cancer.”
“Why would you tell other people your family member has cancer when you’re not even telling it to them themselves?”
“Because they’ll lose their willpower. If they don’t know anything, they don’t feel anything. If they know, their mental defenses will all break down.”
“It’s like my periods. If I don’t go to the bathroom and see the blood, I feel perfectly fine. But as soon as I know I have my period, I get super weak.”
“Same, same. As soon as I see the blood, my stomach immediately starts hurting so bad I can’t take it.”
“My husband’s relative also has cancer, and he also doesn’t believe it, and has been going for over 10 years now.”
“My grandma had terminal stage lung cancer. The doctors don’t recommend surgery, because the risk is high enough that she might not survive the surgery, whereas if she didn’t do it, she might still have a couple months of high quality life left. My grandma’s illiterate. Every time we went to and from the cancer hospital, we told her she just had pneumonia, and she happily lived another five years before she finally passed away. She was only in pain for half a month or so at the end.”
“My uncle [the husband of OP’s dad’s sister] was diagnosed with terminal cancer at 38, and now he’s 71.”
“It’s not just diseases you have to hide from people. You can’t tell anyone if you got screwed over or if things aren’t going well. Why? Because our society is rule of the jungle, dog eat dog. If you have no money, no authority, no capabilities, people will look down on you, scam you, defraud you, rob from you. If you have money, authority, and capabilities, people will kiss up to you. If you get sick, your family will fight over your possessions, your debtors will want their money back, and you’ll just have way more trouble and hassle.”
A compilation of good parenting:
“Looking for this little kiddo that plays Egg Party! So, the situation is, this kiddo suddenly uninstalled his game. He co-ops with my son all the time. My son found out today and burst into tears. I guess school is about to start back up or something, the other kiddo’s mom isn’t letting him play anymore. I’m trying to get in touch with his mom, add her on social media, and give them a chance to properly say goodbye to each other. My son is so devastated. I know it’s a bit off-putting, but I don’t know what else to do as a mom.”
“She doesn’t make fun of his tears, but actually takes his friendships and emotions seriously. This little boy isn’t going to grow up to have no idea how to express his emotions, because someone’s always been there to accept them.”
“This is what parents who don’t rain on your parade look like.”
“”Look at what a good kid he is. He stops playing as soon as his mom tells him to. You need to stop playing too. Give me the phone. Have you done your homework from yesterday? Have you? Have you prepped for the lessons today? If you had the heart to learn, there’s is always more to study.””
“Just saw OP’s son’s Egg Party account. His album is full of photos of him and Chang’an St Watermelon. [the other kid’s ID]”
“Chang’an St Watermelon’s album is full of him too T_T”
“On a rainy day, mommy is holding an umbrella while playing with her little girl while daddy is waiting downstream to protect her. This is happiness visualised.”
“One day, she’ll write in her diary, “There’s nothing special about my family, but whenever it rained in my childhood, I would sit in a big bucket and float along the water. Next to me is the umbrella my mom held up for me. In front of me is my dad waiting in case I flipped over. In this moment, I had both happiness, safety, and my parent’s love.””
“Whenever I’m unhappy, my whole family changes their avatar picture to whatever I want.”
“My kiddo broke an egg, and we took a photo because it looked exactly like a little duck. If I broke an egg as a kid, my world would be over.”
“My son secretly bought this for me for my birthday. It was 300RMB. I felt bad about all that money but I’m also so happy. My heart is so warm and fuzzy. He even knows he doesn’t know how to pick out a good one and asked the supermarket auntie to pick one for him. Didn’t bring enough money the first time, so he came back home to get more money. He rode his bicycle by himself and said that it kept bumping into his leg on his way back and poked him a lot.”
“My mom helped me dye this.”
“My playgirl red. My mom said I look like I walked out of a manga.”
“I dyed my hair playgirl red too. My mom said it looked good. My dad said it’s not as good as the aurora green I had. Sometimes I feel like they’re way more accepting than I am.”
“My mom was worried about how much tattoos would hurt, so she took me there and had me get a tattoo on my shoulder first and asked me if it hurt before she did it herself. Now she takes me along to drink, dye my hair, and curl my hair all the time.”
“My dad will talk with me about what kind of tattoo I want and where too. I got a bunch of English tattooed on the side of my neck and he said I should’ve done it in colour.”
“I’m 22, and if there’s someone selling balloons on the street, my mom will still have me pick one out while my dad waits on the side with his phone out to pay for it. 15RMB each and nobody thinks it’s a waste.”
“I’m 26. My parents went on vacation and went shopping, and wanted to know what size capybara [stuffed animal] I wanted.”
“My mom bought two Jay Chou concert tickets behind my back. When she brought the tickets out, I was so happy I could go out of my mind!”
“I don’t get my nails done because it’ll get in the way of my work, but I took my daughter to get hers done. Everyone said it was a waste of money, but she likes it, doesn’t she? My little imp loves this sort of thing.”
“She said she wanted to get her nails done over summer break, so I stood in line with her until 10PM at night to get it done. She was so happy. On our way back, she kept saying mommy is the best and that she loves mommy. >///<“
“My MIL is the same way. She fights with me over my sleeveless dresses.”
“Me and my mom.”
“My grandma takes my little ducky out to sunbathe.”
“My mom had my grandma make this for my baby because what she bought off the market didn’t fit. They even made a matching outfit for me.”
“I don’t have time at school, so my mom is sniping merch for me from Coco.”
“I’m so happy T_T” [screenshot of OP sending an emoji, “Your baby is here!” and their dad responding with an emoji, “Your daddy is here!”]
“This is the toy cabinet my dad made for me when he was furnishing his house.”
“I’m so happy my parents support all my hobbies!!!”
“What do you think about the Haozhou City Hong Middle School Crepe Incident?
On the 22th of December, 2024, around 3:40PM, after running laps, a student from the Haozhou City Elite Hong Middle School 12th Grade Advanced Class went to the school fence to retrieve four crepes [savoury] from his family. The Hong Middle School Principle, Xu Hai Long, confiscated the four crepes from him and threw it on his face and insulted the student. The student was provoked and kicked Principal Xu Hailong to the ground, straddled him, and used the crepes to beat the principal about the face, and kicked him several more times before leaving.
According to fellow students, when the incident happened, there was quite a crowd gathered, including the deputy principal and said student’s head teacher, but the head teacher didn’t recognise the student and didn’t try to stop the incident, even saying, “Which class did this badass come from?” The deputy principal also made no attempts to stop the incident.
Right now, said student has returned home.”
Comments say, “This is what a Haozhou crepe looks like. What I don’t understand is just how delusional do you have to be to pick a fight with someone who eats four of them in a single sitting?”
“This student just did something that all the staff, including that head teacher, wanted to do but didn’t dare to do.”
“Why doesn’t the Haozhou Tourism Board use this opportunity to promote Haozhou crepes?”
“Hurry up! Make Principal Crepes a thing! Don’t miss this opportunity!”
“I honestly thought this was just an ad for crepes XD”
“Next time you go on vacation in Haozhou, tell the uncle that sells crepes to give you two principal crepes.”
“Get four. It’s a complete Principal Crepe Combo.”