09/17/24 - Bad Nannies Edition
A compilation of bad maids that suddenly turns in the middle and becomes a compilation of how people’s parents failed to teach them how to socialise:
“I’m from a single parent household. My dad’s running around doing different projects all the time and is almost never home. Around middle school, he hired a maid for me to cook and do housework. When my dad came back, she told on me to him, complaining that I was lazy and never did anything around the house??? My dad asked her what she was for if I did everything myself.”
“My dad wanted to make me some hog trotter soup and told the maid to go buy some hog trotters, and the maid was like, “Can we have duck soup instead? I’m a bit hot lately.””
“I was born in 2002, and I really want to work as a maid. I feel a lot of accomplishment from straightening a house up. But with this current social environment, if a 2002 girl worked as maid, I bet most people would think I was the mistress or something.”
“I’ve went through a lot of maids and never gotten one who was any good. The older ones are super fussy, the younger ones are unreliable. I’m a 1994 girl living alone, and I’ve had a maid before who was only a year older than me, and the second day she was at my house, she asked if she could bring over her kindergarten age daughter for a bit. I was intrigued so I bought her some snacks and played with her, but it really did get annoying after a while. She only worked for less than a month before she demanded that I pay her 4000 extra and that she wanted to live in my house…I never hired a maid under 40 after that.”
“My maid usually works super hard, but whenever my classmates come over, she’ll bow and be like, “My lady, here is your fruit.” My friends were dumbfounded. She’s really good at giving me face in public XD”
“When hiring maids, don’t hire anyone with sons. But people without sons usually don’t have to work as maids when they’re old to make extra money.”
“Holy shit, you’re exactly right. I never even noticed!”
“It’s true. My mom’s only got me and my sister, two daughters, and I’d rather her go back to our hometown and farm than be a maid, cause you get bullied so much, and it’s a lot of work. I’d rather live a little frugal and give her some living expenses every month.”
“I remember someone said that the reason Filipino maids are popular is that no matter how much time they spend with you, they still think of themselves as maids, but Chinese maids will act like they’re your family.”
“My mom’s once hired a 46-year-old auntie to take care of me for 25K a month, since I was going to school alone out of state. I was only 16-years-old at the time, and she brought her 23-year-old, 166cm, 64kg son over to introduce to me and terrified the shit out of me. I hid in the bathroom and called my mom to come rescue me.”
“I realise now why people in the comment section say the maid introducing her son to you is really scary, since they’re the only people in your house. Who knows what they’re up to.”
“My aunt has a maid who never wears underwear while at home. My uncle-in-law wanted a third baby and my aunt wouldn’t agree to it, and the maid was like, “I can have a baby for you.””
“When I was little, my mom hired three maids, one to clean, one to cook, and one to take care of her as a month-sitting nurse, and all three of them hated each other. One time, they actually started fighting in the living room, and they were still arguing when my mom came back. And she came into the bathroom to see me fishing poop out of my diaper and eating it. T_T”
“My parents were worried that I didn’t know how to take care of myself in Jiangsu so they hired a maid to cook and clean for me. I’m from Hunan, so I like spicy food, and she keeps cooking with a whole bunch of sugar at every meal. I complained to her and she was like, “Then cook yourself. I worked hard to make this food for you just for you to turn it down. I’m from Jiangsu. This is all I know how to make.””
“I spent 23K to hire myself a princess, Jesus Christ. She brought her grand daughter to my house, put on my clothes and my shoes in my closet, and complained that her room was too small and she wanted to move to the guest bedroom. I’ll put 500 RMB on the coffee table every week as her spending money, and she still complains to people about how stingy I am when she’s shopping for groceries, and gossip about how I’ll never find a husband since I don’t know how to do anything. I was like, “If I can afford to hire you for 23K, why would I care about husbands?” I fired her after a few months and still haven’t found a maid I like.”
“My live-in maid secretly told me that my girlfriend ate the three cupcakes and yogurt in my fridge, and said she was lazy and greedy and will make for a terrible wife. I gave her her pay that month and told her to leave.”
“Young Master, I never gossip about people behind their back. Could you hire me?”
“I love the maid I have. She’s a live-in in Tan Gong now [super wealthy development in Shanghai]. When I had my surgery, I had to rest for half a month so I hired a maid. She makes delicious food, knows her place, and never complained even though my rental was tiny. She worked her hardest to take care of me, and when she left, I was like, “Auntie, I’m going to hire you back if I ever get rich T_T””
“I once poached a really great maid from my neighbours who made absolutely delicious food. My neighbour came over and completely freaked out at me, so I had to move with my maid.”
“You’d rather move than return that maid. Sounds like she really was something else.”
“The only thing my dad ever taught me about socialising is: getting fucked is lucky.”
“Lol, same, been bullied so many times. Everyone in my family is soft.”
“I learned all my social skills from web novels. Now I’m the most charismatic person in my family (in that my parents have no clue at all).”
“I learned everything from sisters on the internet. If I didn’t have the internet, I’d have super low EQ.”
“Parents who are capable of teaching kids practical social skills already hold a lot of societal resources and personal experiences. Most normal parents can only teach kids useless social skills, like smiling, giving gifts, and putting up with shit.”
“Socialisation is just adding flowers to silk anyways [that is, a nice bonus that’s not necessary. The opposite of giving coal in the cold.] What’s actually important is having money and power in the family. That’s how you can actually have back and forths with other people like piers. Normal families only know how to suck up and never dares to actually negotiate or engage in conflict with people. It’s just all about risk aversion.”
“When I was little, my parents taught me that I should never eat my classmate’s snacks because I shouldn’t owe people. And all my classmates thought I was a freak, like I didn’t like any snacks, and nobody wanted to play with me. When you never engage in social exchanges with people, even if it’s just swapping snacks, you can’t build connections with people. It’s true evenw ith kids.”
“It’s true. The whole saying about how poor kids mature faster just means they start working faster. Their actually mentally mature much slower.”
“Yeah, my parents praise me for being obedient and thoughtful all the time, but I’m actually really childish. I don’t know how to think about the future at all.”
“The socialisation skills my parents taught me: suck up to my classmates and teachers, do all their work for them. If you help them, they’ll help you. And once you’re working, show up to work early every day and clean things up.”
“Upvoted. And they want me to not bother other people and not spend my boyfriend’s money too.”
“Is this universal at all? You’re just like another me. This way, in the end, you’ll just end up a lowly ass kisser who gets looked down on by everyone. I had to rethink everything I thought I knew.”
“All my socialisation skills, and even my values and personal identity, was taught to me by the internet. All my mom taught me was to say thank you when someone gifts me something, turn down gifts that are too expensive, not have too much of a temper with other people, and to make more friends. Before I went to uni, my mom lectured me countless time about how I shouldn’t fight with my dorm mates and I should just do what they want. Her education has made me into an ass kisser with extreme internal friction. It’s only the last couple of years on Xiao Hong Shu that I realise I shouldn’t objectify myself, and I need to have agency and entitlement.”
“My mom just thinks that when you’re older, you’ll know, like there’s a switch that gets flipped and now you automatically know how to do things. Now that I’m older, I’ve realised that’s not a thing. Life just forces you into it. And what I could’ve learned slowly over time, I have to painfully pick up overnight.”
“Yeah, I learned by myself too, but I realised later that I can’t blame my parents either. Unless you know kung fu or have top-tier negotiation skills, a normal person’s level of socialisation had absolutely no use in the environment that they grew up in. Trying to talk reason to someone never worked. Connections work, flipping out works, being crazy works. The context to socialisation is that you live in a relatively normal society. Like in England, I got in the habit that if I reserve a hotel room and I get a confirmation notice, I assume there’s going to be a room waiting for me. When I went to Turkey, multiple times, I’d arrive at the hotel just to be charged double. A lot of things taught me that socialisation doesn’t matter, kung fu does, flipping out does.”
“What you said about, “choosing what people you connect with” also has the pretext that you actually get to choose. “Working on your socialisation skills like going to the gym” also assumes that you have people around you that listen to reason. Chinese society only started being normalised in the last couple of decades. We’re only beginning to form into a society where reason matters. The rules of the game were completely different in our parents’ generation, like women and children weren’t allowed to talk. It’s hard to expect them to develop any socialisation skills in that environment.”